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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex just had a break up. She says that she still loves me and we talk online here and there. she even calls me some nights when shes feeling down and at the end of the convo says "i love u baby". i dont want to always be there to talk or force convo because i dont wanna look needy but i dont wanna not talk to her when she needs me because i dont wanna be a jerk and i still love her too. i just want her to realise what she left. what do i do?!
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Be a man, do the only decent thing ou can: cut her off. If you really care about her, that's what you should do. You have to allow her to get over you.If you keep in touch with her, she won't learn to have life that doesn't include you. Sometimes, staying in touch is only a selfish act, whereby you get a confidence boost by hearing her say she loves you. There is a danger as well: you might take her for granted and keep her on the hook as a back up (even if subconsciously). Then when she gets over you and finds a new boyfriend, you realise how much you really loved her and want her back, and the joke will be on you. These stories happen all the time, and we always think we're immune, until it hits us.The best you can do is answering the question: Why did you break up? If you're not sure, you better be. But if you know that there is no point being together because the relationship has no future, then just cut her off. Best for her and best for you. Even if she hates you for it, this is the right thing to do.If you're afraid of what she might think of you, you're being selfish. Do what's best for her.
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