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writes:Good evening everyone:I seem to ponder this question from time to time. Is it alright to LIKE two people at once? Now, this is not to be confused with the validity to DATE two people at once. Is it alright to LIKE two people at once? It seems like no one can help it. How can one control how they feel. It does not seem moral. But again, it's not dating two people but liking. I want to hear your guys thoughts as a discussion as I get told this and see this many times. I'm just curious to what hear what the community thinks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Well, it is perfectly possible, on a superficial level, to LIKE two people at once. I mean, nobody is perfect, right? It is our differences that make us interesting. So you might like Sarah for going out and having fun and like Anna for more intellectual political conversations.In the end, nobody will be a perfect match for you and you'll see qualities you like in other people. Now when it comes to LOVE, I believe it isn't possible to really love two people at the same time. If you are in a committed relationship and you start liking someone else, then something is very wrong in your relationship. It is perfectly possible to go out, have intellectual conversations or play tennis with attractive people without feeling the feeling urge to sleep with them (or simply share unnecessary intimacy).If you are in a serious committed relationship and start feeling the urge to be with other people, doing stuff you should be doing only with your partner, something is wrong. Odds are that the problems in the relationship make you start noticing in others qualities your partner doesn't have. If this starts to happen, I'd advise you to take a hard look at the relationship and see what is going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): I don't think it can really be helped if a person likes two different people. Monogamy is more of a conscious effort in people than an instinct. I think what really matters are the actions that person takes involving the people he or she likes.
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