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I am doing this to learn. The day I think I know what life is really all about is the day I will keel over, I think. We are all changing and growing in different ways on different days. If we can freeze some of those growth experiences and clarify them, then we will be better off tomorrow for it. Nobody is perfect, everyone has drama, and by repeating our mistakes we keep ourselves stuck in patterns. This site is a chance to make and keep change, and to realize its strength in our lives.
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Q. How can I please my boyfriend in bed?...
A. 30 March 2008: When you say "please him in bed," what do you mean? If he ends up ejaculating, you shouldn't worry too much. I hope he is thinking the same way about you, as men can be selfish in bed. As a teen, I hope you are considering pregnancy and disease ... (read in full...)
Crybaby...
Q. I've been with my husband for 13 years. We have twin 9-yr-olds and my 17-yr-old from my previous marriage. Over the years we have had many fights. His favorite thing to do over the last 3 years during our fights is threaten our marriage being over ...
A. 30 March 2008: Your husband sounds like he is abusive. I would remove myself from him immediately. For him to yell so much and think he can control you (which is what this is all about), it's not a far reach to physical abuse. You need to shape up and ship out. ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Confused and heartbroken...
Q. I am a 21 year old female mother of 2 beautiful kids. Their father whom I was with for many of years (since a young girl) had broke my heart. He always wanted to chill be around me and everything else. This past Easter Sunday March 2008 he wanted me ...
A. 30 March 2008: Dear Heartbroken,
He sounds like a very casual guy. It's very good that he was honest. But, we all have a first love! I know you two have a past, but you deserve to be happy with someone who really wants to be with you. There will be another ... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset over nothing?
Q. Am i complicating things? I recieve the message of love through pda and gifts. My boyfriend isn't interested. He's laxed about marriage and kids. I want to go to the next step. I know I'm loved but sometimes i don't feel it. ...
A. 30 March 2008: Maybe it's not the "love" that you're not feeling. I think you might be realizing that this guy doesn't have the same priorities as you do, and that you don't feel your desires are something he considers. There might be another guy for you out ... (read in full...)
Do you think a guy who's sending pictures of himself is doing it to be polite or why?
Q. We met earlier, as friends and it's some time now that I don't see him, and he recently send me a pic of him in his uniform (GI) looking nice.... Do you think a guy who just wants to be polite would do that. He says he often remembers me. We are ...
A. 30 March 2008: Forget him. When a guy sends a picture voluntarily, he's fishing for praise and sex appeal. I think it's better to not email him ever. You will get mixed up in something that you will regret. If he is bored in his marriage, he will likely reach ... (read in full...)
Is he just not interested in a relationship or is he shy? Any advice?
Q. I'm almost completely certain that one of my guy friends likes me as more than just a friend. However, when I try to make plans with him when it is going to be just me and him, he hesitates about it and has a hard time saying yes and making the ...
A. 9 February 2007: Since you have the same group of friends, use the time that you are all out together to talk to him. The more conversation you have with him while he is comfortable, the more likely he will open up and feel okay to explore more. It is possible he ... (read in full...)
What can I do to love my husband again and at the same time not lose my dear friend?
Q. Hi. It will be hard, but I will try to make it short: I am married for 4 years (total relationship 9 years), 7 months pregnant and for more then 1 year crazy in love with a 4 year younger guy from work. We never even kissed, but I know we had a sp...
A. 9 February 2007: This is a hard time for you, it seems. It sounds like you are feeling your husband doesn't act the way he used to, and doesn't appreciate you, and it might be pushing you away. When home is not happy, we are all human and will look for happiness ... (read in full...)
My bfs obsession with fat porn is killing our relationship!!
Q. My boyfriend has an obsession with fat porn! We have been dating for 18 months and it makes me feel worthless. I am a curvy woman and i now question his original motives. I have talked to him about it openly and it hasn't done any good. I love him...
A. 2 February 2007: I am so sorry you are feeling neglected. The fact that he knows about your feelings and does not try to stop is unnerving. Most women enjoy attention and love, and reserve the title of 'friends' for other relationships. While you have sex once in ... (read in full...)
My parents emotionally blackmail me when I bring up moving out. Now people are calling me a "mommy's boy!"
Q. Hello, need some wide spread opinions here. I'm male, and 23yrs, living with my folks, I have 3 older sisters who have married and moved out. Our folks refuse the concept of moving out of the house, saying why move out and pay rent when you ca...
A. 2 February 2007: I am the middle sister in the same situation. My younger brother, being surrounded by girls, is questioning his sexuality and independence.
I know how much guilt a parent can inflict. I also know that they will never let go if they have a c... (read in full...)
My mother in law is causing problems between me and my fiancee... Now I've been banned from all their family events!
Q. My problem is my mother in law. she is very involved in mine and my fiance life. we have 2 kids together and she is always insisting on spending time with her son and the kids and excluding me. I have now forbid her to see the kids with out me being ...
A. 2 February 2007: I am so sorry. It is very frustrating to be misunderstood and treated poorly. His family is probably hearing all sorts of stories from his mother. It is an awful situation, and this woman sounds like she's a little bit nuts.
When we encounter irra... (read in full...)
My husband has been using adult dating sites and met two women... how can I trust anything else he says?
Q. Hi i have been married for 7 years but just recently found out that my husband has been on several dating sites for the last 3 years , eroticy and adultfriendfinder plus several more and has a secret email address.. there were emails from many ...
A. 2 February 2007: Oh, Dear. I am troubled deeply by what you've explained. This goes deeper than idle curiosity or titillation. Your husband has a problem. He, for three years, has been pretending to be someone he is not. This is quite serious, you see, because ... (read in full...)
He signed up on a casual sex dating site! What should I do?
Q. I know this might not sound serious, but I'd really like to get some other people's opinions! I found out (from a girlfriend, humiliatingly) that my boyfriend of a year had signed up for an account with a site that enables users to meet people for ...
A. 2 February 2007: Sweetie, you have every right to be worried. After a year, a relationship is a bond between people making investments in eachother. We make investments by putting our time and energy into eachother, hoping to get a nice return. In this way, you ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I am thinking of giving him my virginity on Valentine's Day! Got any sex tips?
Q. hello i 14 and still a virgin, by bf is 16 cummin on 17( not a virgin) i reali reali lyk im n we av been totching each other and so on, n he sed e wud neva kiss and tell (all his mates say e wodnt as well) i thinking of losin my virginity to him on ...
A. 2 February 2007: I'd ask if you are ready, as well. I'm sure you feel love for him and want to be close to him. This is natural and wonderful! I do want you to be completely comfortable. 14 is really young! Just remember that if you're really ready, you won't ... (read in full...)
He wanted to meet but wouldn't confirm anything! Is he playing me?
Q. Dear agony aunt, I met a nice bloke not last sat but the sat before through a friend of mine. We danced most of the night he said i was beautiful and couldnt understand why i was single. so later that evening we kissed i left and went home. My ...
A. 1 February 2007: You're on the right track. I'd let it go, myself. It sounds like he might have a girlfriend or something. Either way, I wouldn't get my hopes up at all. And, as he says, you're beautiful! Move on to better, more definite things if that's what ... (read in full...)
Could I still have gotten pregnant in June even though I still had a period in July?
Q. I was wandering if there was any way that i could have gotten pregnant around june 19th if my due date is april 11th and i had my normal period in july...
A. 1 February 2007: When you say due date, do you mean that you have been told this by a doctor? If so, and you would have had to get pregnant in June, then it is completely possible that you had something like a period in July. If your period was completely normal ... (read in full...)
Leaky condom or not? What do you think?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex earlier today. We used a condom and when he finished and was out of me we noticed cum on him in his pubic hairs. By the way, the condom seemed to have the normal amount of semen in it and didnt appear to have any rips. ...
A. 31 January 2007: I doubt you are in danger. Women excrete a milky fluid similar to sperm. That is most likely what it was. So, don't worry, but keep practicing safe sex! You're a smart 17 year old.
Best of Luck
Tanya... (read in full...)
He flirts with other women, he has to have his way and he has a huge ego! Do I stay or go?
Q. i have been with him 8 years. he claims he loves me but i refuse to marry him because he has a big ego and has to be 'the one in the limelight 24/7 and he's always right'.he cannot pass a woman without flirting and gets mad if i say anything. he ...
A. 31 January 2007: Women should never settle. This guy sounds like he's in love with himself, which leaves little room for anyone else. If you're not thinking longterm with positivity, get out now while you're young. We should always have at least half the ... (read in full...)
Why is she acting normal in person, but blocks me from talking to her online?
Q. I've been attracted to a girl at my school for a little while. Last semester, her and I talked a lot online, and they were fun conversations (a couple of which lasted over 2 hours, and it was nonstop back and forth between the two of us...). In ...
A. 30 January 2007: After a two hour conversation, you might have worn out your blossoming friendship. There are a few possibilities, most of which might lead you to reconsider your crush:
1. She has a jealous boyfriend
2. She feels if she talks to you online, ... (read in full...)
He accused me of flirting online when I did no such thing! Is he trying to find an excuse to bail?
Q. i am very confused about my current relationship. my partner of 3 years has become very distant and more secretive over the last few months,today he asked me if i still wanted him, i was pretty shocked by this as i havent given him any reason to ...
A. 30 January 2007: I agree with both answers. Sometimes when people are not being honest, they accuse others of doing what they themselves feel guilty about. After 3 years of a secure relationship, it is very odd that he would suddenly find doubts in you. If he is ... (read in full...)
Can we raise a child together while we live in separate homes? Any advice?
Q. i really want this to work but how will it work when i know deep down that i cant trust him he seams to think i should get over it but it hard when you have been lied to. we have a child together we live in different houses a 40 minute drive he ...
A. 30 January 2007: You have good instincts and are smart to question this. When someone betrays your trust, it is difficult to learn to trust them again, especially when they tell you to 'just get over it.'
Is he good to your child? Do you feel he really wants to h... (read in full...)
My ex will pretend not to know me, one day and the next time, he shyly looks at me. Does he still like me?
Q. about 5 years ago i went out with this guy who i absolutly loved to bits but it didnt work out so i tried to forget about him. i got a new partner who i have been with for 2 years and we have a kid together but ... a few months ago we moved in to ...
A. 30 January 2007: I wouldn't get your hopes up. Nothing should come of any lingering feelings until you've talked with your current partner about it. I know the feelings you're having, and it is hard to avoid them when you live so close to him, but at least ... (read in full...)
I miss him but my family and friends say not to go back. Should I listen to them?
Q. Hi, I need help with my love life. Ive been with my boyfriend for over 4 years but it was very on and off relationship with us always arguing. We moved in together last year and not been getting along so i decided to finish it last week. I tho...
A. 30 January 2007: I'd say think of it as a new exciting chance to be drama-free. You sound intelligent, and you obviously ended it for a reason. Don't weaken yourself to step backwards. Go back to that moment you decided to end it. Change is positive, and you ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend's bf...do you think he likes me?
Q. Okay. I love my best friends boyfriend. Yes. Today we was all out together, Her, her bf, me, my bf. It was great! Then i said to her bf 'HUG ME' cos i scream it all the time lol And he did, but he gripped me so tightly its like he didnt wa...
A. 29 January 2007: You sound young, and friendship is important. I'd say don't let it matter if he likes you, because your best friend is more important! Also, guys who hug other girls aren't faithful and you wouldn't want him anyway. Trust me. Friends come first.... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and pregnant. Worried I may miscarriage again..how can I prevent that from happening?
Q. I am an 18 year old female who just found out today that i am pregnant.5 months ago i had a miscarriage and I am very frightened it might happen again.Do u have any advice for me far as how to prevent the miscarriage? I know miscarriages happen, but ...
A. 29 January 2007: This is a tough one. Just know that your body is smart, and will only carry a pregnancy if things are alright with the baby and your body. This means that there is a reason for everything, and if your body is up to it, you'll have your baby. :) ... (read in full...)
LAdies, what ways have guys approached you--did you like the best? Can you share?
Q. Can any kind girls/guys out there give me advice on where i can meet women? I've not had much luck for meeting girls now for years as i am quite shy. My friends are similar to me, so i dont really meet any through them, and i dont seem to pull on ...
A. 29 January 2007: What activities are you into? I would always suggest that to meet the right person, one must do the things they are interested in. A friend of mine loves nature, so joined an outdoor club where he met his current wife. Had he met her in a club, I ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble dating other girls as I keep thinking about my ex. What can I do?
Q. Halloo, This probably sounds fairly pathetic but I can't get over my ex who dumped me to travel and also I think because I was having some difficulties with stress at a new job and stuff causing moodiness and all that. She's in Australia now and ...
A. 29 January 2007: Does she know how you feel? If so, then she would have shown interest already if there was any. I hate to sound harsh, but it sounds like you're blaming yourself for her leaving. This also makes you think you can change things somehow. She left ... (read in full...)
How do you orgasm when masturbating?
Q. dear cupid. i want to know how to orgasm while masterbating. how do i do this?...
A. 29 January 2007: Orgasms involve more than just following instructions. Are you comfortable with yourself? Are you comfortable with masturbating? There shouldn't be any shame in it.
Typically, the clitoris is the most sensitive area on a woman. Repeated stim... (read in full...)
Is it legal to sleep with your first cousin?
Q. is it legal to sleep with your first cousin,...
A. 29 January 2007: Bad idea! Family is always going to be there, and since the relationship probably won't lead to marriage, I would keep it simple and look outside the family for relations.... (read in full...)
He's more interested in his computer and his ipod...than me! What can I do?
Q. I've been married for 10 years, have 2 kids and for the last 3 years have had sex with my husband maybe 3 times. I wear size 4 clothes, run at least 3 times a day try very hard not to look frumpy and even where sexy nightgowns. Everything I do ...
A. 29 January 2007: I agree with India. Life is just too short to let your desires and needs go. I'm sure you love your husband, but that doesn't mean it's best to settle for whatever he dishes out. It is always fair to expect to get out of a relationship what you ... (read in full...)
He's no good for me and I need to break out of this cycle...how do I do this?
Q. What should you do if you know that you shouldn't get involved with a guy because you have been there too many times before and he has treated you badly, but for some reason you just can't help yourself? If you see him everyday, and are friends ...
A. 27 January 2007: This is a tough situation. I once was involved this way, and what ended up working for me was anger. I forced myself to recall every single incident that hurt me, that made me angry, that told me he didn't really care or he would act differently. ... (read in full...)
We get on great but he wants no kids and marriage in his future! Should I let him go?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over 17 months now and its going great. Apart from that my boyfriend has made it perfectly clear that he doesnt want to marry me or have any children. I am 26 years old and he is 37. He's ...
A. 27 January 2007: It seems clear that you want a family and a husband, and he has no plans for such a relationship. A partnership is about choices more than feelings sometimes. If you both make different choices, and want different things, you will not be happy as ... (read in full...)
Do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?
Q. Hi there...do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?...
A. 27 January 2007: Men and women have different schedules for maturity. Men take a little longer to decide what they want, while women tend to decide much earlier. This is a healthy age-gap if both people are happy.... (read in full...)
He says that we are too emotionally dependent on each other and hes not ready for that. He moving..should I go too?
Q. I moved states for my bf. After 2.5 years he tells me he is moving away and if I come or not is my decision. He says that we are too emotionally dependent on each other and hes not ready for that. He cries everytime he talks about it and it ...
A. 27 January 2007: First, I'm sorry you are experiencing so much heartache. He seems to be having doubts about the level of commitment, but it is not you or your doing. It sounds as though you both love eachother, but space is incredibly healthy. Let him move on ... (read in full...)
We broke up as she was unable to let go of her abusive ex bf! How do I get over her?
Q. My relationship with my girlfriend broke up just before Christmas. She was unable to let go of a relationship she had with her violent and abusive ex. I objected to her seeing him as I felt that it was derogatory to our relationship. A friend of ...
A. 25 January 2007: You'll get over her. Our minds are magical, and you will move on soon. Your subject seems to be looking to the past for happiness, and will most likely come back to you for attention when she isn't getting it anywhere else. Those who are ... (read in full...)
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