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writes:I moved states for my bf. After 2.5 years he tells me he is moving away and if I come or not is my decision. He says that we are too emotionally dependent on each other and hes not ready for that. He cries everytime he talks about it and it devastates me. It affected my job because I feel like I just can't work, and my physical health. I just feel like I need to run away. We had the best times of our lives together, even he admits that. He does not want to cut ties but does not understand how much I'm hurting now. Not sure what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tanyas247 +, writes (27 January 2007):
 First, I'm sorry you are experiencing so much heartache. He seems to be having doubts about the level of commitment, but it is not you or your doing. It sounds as though you both love eachother, but space is incredibly healthy. Let him move on his own. He will miss you, obviously because he cries over the idea. Sometimes we all need a little bump to move in the right direction. That bump is some time for yourselves to be able to actually miss eachother. Missing someone can be wonderful, because it lets you know how much you love them.
So, take some time for yourself and start something new just for yourself. It will all work out!
Best,
Tanya
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