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writes: I'm almost completely certain that one of my guy friends likes me as more than just a friend. However, when I try to make plans with him when it is going to be just me and him, he hesitates about it and has a hard time saying yes and making the actual plans of just us two going out. What is up with him? Is he just not interested in a relationship or is he shy about it or does he not want to ruin our friendship? Anyone have any ideas of what's going on with him?
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reader, Tanyas247  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Since you have the same group of friends, use the time that you are all out together to talk to him. The more conversation you have with him while he is comfortable, the more likely he will open up and feel okay to explore more. It is possible he doesn't want to break up your group of friends if you date and it doesn't work out, which is a valid concern. He might even be worried that it will be awkward when you are all together again after just you two hang out. If you know him well, you know whether he is shy better than we would! If you like him, find out more about him to better know where he is coming from.
All the Best to You!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Make light of it and say something like "hey fancy hanging out Thursday?" or "Fancy going for a coffee/coke after school? Don't make a big thing of it, he probably IS shy and doesn't know what to say. If he does stutter and stumble say to him... "Just say yes!" lol that should do the trick if he really does like you! ;o)
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reader, bindi +, writes (9 February 2007):
maybe he is shy, maybe unsure. Some men can be quiet sensitive. maybe you could try and arrange to go out somewhere together. Go for meal, cinema so your not just alone and plenty of people about. Maybe he doesnt know what to say to you? Take things slowly. Go out a few times as friends to get to know each other and gradually he will come out of his shell and then he may well start making moves and decide. It sometimes takes a woman to take the lead first. keep planting the seed and im sure something will grow. Men take their time but im sure you will get there, just be patient and have fun and a laugh.
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