Will she get pregnant even though I wiped the sperm away?
Q. i got spirm on the top of my girlfriends virgina but not in it she used a wipe to get it off straight away will she be pregnant or shouldnt i worry ?...
A. 8 November 2009: You should worry if she's not on the pill.
Please be more careful next time, use a condom if both genital areas are exposed.... (read in full...)
Do my positive points outweigh my negative points? Am I a good catch?
Q. This is a silly question maybe. I am 20 years old in uni never had a girlfriend. Been looking at myself and thinking about what I have or don't have... So looking at bad, the only thing is, a big thing in a way is that I am overweight. I am wo...
A. 5 November 2009: There's no way someone on this site can answer with a definitive 'yes' or 'no'. You don't need the injection of opinions from complete strangers, and what you don't need is to go out seeking confirmation that you are indeed a 'good catch'. From... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend her boyfriend kissed me?
Q. My best friends boy-friend kissed another girl and guess who it was! ME!! But i dont like him .... I think he's a jerk. So should i tell her or walk away ?? Cause i dont want to tell her and ruin our friendship... PLEASE I NEED HELP!!!...
A. 5 November 2009: I'm confused, if you don't like him, then why did you kiss him?
I think you should tell her because this guy does sound a bit dodgy - if she has any sense, she'll realise that you're more important than he is and won't have a big fall out with you... (read in full...)
How can I get on friendlier terms with him?
Q. Okay so, im 14 and i am going to a new school new school now and ive been talking to this guy Randy for a while now and we have become pretty good friends but i could tell that he kinda likes me and i kinda like him. The other day he told me that he ...
A. 29 October 2009: You're only feeling this way because he's told you that he doesn't have feelings for you any more.
I don't understand why he would get 'all mad' at you - if there's anything that I can tell you from my experience, just keep an eye on him, he might... (read in full...)
Should I try to chill will her?
Q. Hey everyone. Well school started not that long ago (2 months or so). So she sits two seats away and her friend sits in the middle between us. So I say hi here and there. I ask her how she is. I am always nice. And not to long ago maybe last wee...
A. 29 October 2009: I don't think you should wait until they break up.
I think that you should talk to her, have a proper conversation with her and find out what she's really like and whether or not you think you're compatible. You never know, you may have just bui... (read in full...)
After having sex my vagina is inflamed, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? I had sex, not for the first time and now my vagina is really painful and the labia minora can be seen, its kinda inflamed. I don't not what to do. I am not under age but my mum would still go mental, help please...
A. 29 October 2009: It might be a case of there just wasn't enough natural lubricant for it to feel totally comfortable. During sex, there's a lot of friction, and in such a tender place it'll get inflamed if that's the case. Try buying a water-based lubricant for next ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your guy ejaculated inside you?
Q. My question is for the column: How do know if your guy ejaculated inside you? I recently had sex with my guy and we finished and he said "I came." I wasn't sure if he was telling the truth or not. 1 because I didn't feel it. 2 I didn't feel an...
A. 29 October 2009: Have you learned his 'finished' expression/gestures yet? If so, and if they seem a bit off, there's a chance that he was lying to you.
Were you using a condom? If so, there's no real way to tell, I'm afraid, unless you're wanting to root around i... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I have a thing about feet?
Q. So me and my girlfriend love each other very much and I trust her a lot, enough to maybe reveal my secret to her. I have foot fetish, she has the cutest feet I have ever laid my eyes on, and she makes it so I can't keep my attention off them some ...
A. 27 October 2009: It sounds like your girlfriend is a very understanding person. I think you should just sit her down and tell her straight out, there's no point in skirting around the matter. Or, when *fooling around*, pay attention to her feet and just gently tell ... (read in full...)
I only want friendship. Am I doomed?
Q. ARGH!! Hi Aunts, Why is it (nearly?) impossible to have JUST a friendly relationship with someone of the opposite sex!? I've been hanging out heaps with my best mate, playing video games and just chilling out, and just the other night he kissed ...
A. 27 October 2009: It is a tricky one - I must admit that guy friends are easier to manage than girl friends, but there's always the inevitable question of whether or not they're in it for fun, or for something more.
If your friend seems to be ok with just being fr... (read in full...)
I was sexually abused by a family member, how do I tell my family?
Q. I'm 20 years old and from the age of 5 until i was 11 i was sexually abused by a family member. I want to tell my family but i have no idea how to. I'm scared, i don't want them to hate me. This will ruin my family but i need to get it out. It w...
A. 23 October 2009: You can't assume that your family will hate you. They'll feel upset that this has ever happened and want to help you through getting past it. You should sit said family members down and just carefully explain what happened and what you would l... (read in full...)
Should I ignore my parents and go to Ecuador to see my long distance boyfriend?
Q. so i have a huge problem in my hands. i am 18 years old and live in the U.S.A, i met my boyfriend when i was 15 years old and he was 17 years old, but he lives in ecuador.every year since i was 14 i have been spending my summers over there in ...
A. 23 October 2009: This is tricky because legally, you can do what the hell you like, and you say that you have your own funding, too? I think that your parents need to realise that you're not a little girl any more and, despite their protests, you are starting to ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my husband because his sex drive is non-existant, do you think it could be due to his high blood pressure?
Q. I have been cheating on my husband, only because our sex live is virtually non existence - try no sex for 2 yrs and before that lucky if I got it every 3 months. We have been married for coming up 8 yrs now. I have asked him a numerous of times why, ...
A. 22 October 2009: The first thing I should mention is that you can't expect your husband to have the sex drive of someone in their 20's - but yes, high blood pressure could be one of the problems. Poor health in general can lower his desire for sex, alongside stress ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my friend that he shouldnt take this girl back as she is holding him back from finding the girl he deserves!
Q. Well, i have a friend who met this girl about a year ago. When he met her she had a boyfriend but he was only trying to be her friend at first but then he started liking her. They ended up getting really close and the girl started liking him as ...
A. 20 October 2009: You need to let him find out the hard way, I'm afraid. Some people are just blind until they have something that really punches them in the face.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me. Why isn't he ready for a relationship?
Q. So im still having trouble with *parker* it had been over six months since we spoke and he turned up to where im living now. I avoided him for 3 days i was so worried about seeing him . So i go out and he's there, he grabs me and we start to have a ...
A. 20 October 2009: Sigh, it irritates me how little communication there is between people nowadays. If you have something that's bothering you or something that you'd like to know, how are strangers going to give you the direct answer? I think you should just go a... (read in full...)
Why is my b/f allowed to look at this kind of stuff and I'm not?
Q. I am an insecure teenage girl. Sounds like the typical teenager but even my friends think my insecurities are weird. The thing is, lately my boyfriend of 7months has been asking to by ZOO magazines [a 'car mag' with spreadsheets and pages upon pages ...
A. 19 October 2009: It's perfectly normal for you to feel like this - Guys are complicated creatures and they think that just looking at attractive women and sometimes feeling aroused is fine, but girls see it in a totally different light.
I imagine that one of the q... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to rectify the broken rifts in my family and help them to be proud of me?
Q. I'm sitting here right now in tears, needing someone's advice on my life. I'm wondering, have any of you ever felt like you've lost your way in life? That there was a path you should've chosen, but instead went way off into the dirt roads into ...
A. 14 October 2009: I can see you're torn between being true to yourself and keeping your family happy. I promote your way of thinking. Keep educating yourself, keep on striving for that goal, there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting to better yourself. Stop w... (read in full...)
How do I know if he really likes me or if he is just playing games with me?
Q. So I recently reconnected with an ex boyfriend, I am the one that ended it. Well anyways we have been doing ok so far. We hung this Sunday and went to the same restaurant where we had out first original date at. We had an amazing time; we went to ...
A. 14 October 2009: Ask him?
There's no room for ambiguity in relationships, just ask him outright.... (read in full...)
So hurt and Confused!!
Q. My bf/ex (not sure yet) just found out that we were pregnant about a month ago. We have been arguing like crazy lately over stupid things. His actions and the way he acts around me have totally changed. (IE wont cuddle, talk, or do anything with me ...
A. 14 October 2009: I think your primary concern at the moment is what you're going to do when your child arrives, if you are indeed planning to keep it. Babies are a *huge* thing, so yes, he is freaking out and is scared about becoming a father. This is another human ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, he's not in love with me. Should I wait for him?
Q. I am sooo in love with this guy and we talk every day and night, he's all I think about, all I talk about, and I really think I'm in love with him, he flirts with me and he always gives me advice and he always tries to make me feel better when I'm ...
A. 14 October 2009: It sounds like you two are really good friends - stay that way for the time being, and if it just happens to turn into something special one day, then just go with the flow.
There's no way you can make someone fall in love with you, or even lik... (read in full...)
How do I know she didn't sleep with him?
Q. Ok ive been dating this girl for about 5 months now everything has been going really smooth she was at my house almost everyday until school started because shes in college so now she kinda tends to both me,school which is fine anyways about 3 ...
A. 14 October 2009: You don't know, you just have to trust what she says. ... (read in full...)
Is it psychologically normal to have feelings for an older man?
Q. Hi, was just wondering.. I'm 20 years old, and am currently seeing a man 11 years older then me, is there anything wrong with dating older men? I know each person is different and so but from a psychological point of view is it normal to have ...
A. 13 October 2009: From a psychology point of view, yes. Females tend to idolize their fathers as the perfect man, so feeling attracted to a man who has similar qualities to your father is perfectly normal. Sick, yes, but that's what Freud says.... (read in full...)
Why does my stomach get bigger during my period?
Q. Hey.I started my menstrual cycle recently and i noticed when i'm having my period,my stomach area and breast area tends to slightly increase in size.However,i weigh myself and realised i didn't put on any weight.Can anyone help me and explain why?...
A. 13 October 2009: You're bloated - it just happens sometimes. Sore boobs, incredible mood swings, bloating, spots, weight gain, it's a bundle of fun.... (read in full...)
He has become much less affectionate with me, do I stay with him or leave?
Q. Hi I really don't know what too do, I met my present partner back in March 09, we had a great sex life and he was very physically affectionate and loving then but over that time he had a male flatmate who was a control freak, that flat mate has left...
A. 13 October 2009: Well, you already have your answer as to why he's not affectionate. Stress is one of the main causes of any person not wanting to be intimate with another person.
As for the relationship, it sounds as if you're looking for someone to confirm ... (read in full...)
Is talking on chat lines a form of cheating?
Q. my husband has recently been talking on this chat line invu, he stay up all night talking to women about things that are inappropriate,i have talked to him about it and he is staying on it. he say it isn't cheating because it is not real, I think it ...
A. 13 October 2009: It's a tricky one - you feel betrayed because he'd rather talk 'inappropriately' to other women, but he doesn't see anything wrong with it. In my eyes, it is cheating. No, he's not being physical with them, but the gravity of the emotional side is ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to the person I first liked? Do I even like him anymore?
Q. I went on a group trip to Colorado and grew very close to a guy on that trip, who was 2 years younger than me. I started to like him a lot, but people got in the middle and when he asked if I liked him, I said no because I knew he wasn't ready to be ...
A. 13 October 2009: You don't *need* a boyfriend at your age. I think you should just stay good friends for the time being, and if the time comes when you're a little bit older when you decide to take the plunge and start seeing each other officially, then you'll ... (read in full...)
Does loving someone change the way sex feels?
Q. Hi all, To the men out there, this is one I hope you can help with, although I'd of course like the ladies' opinions too. I have been dating a man for over a year now and have always known that he was sexually much more experienced than I am....
A. 12 October 2009: There's an obvious difference between making love and just 'screwing' (pardon the bluntness).
Having sex with someone you don't have deep feelings for is all about the genitals - it's heated, hormone ridden and far more fast-paced. There's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he doesn't enjoy sex with me and thinks of his ex instead!
Q. Hi last night my boyfriend and were cuddling in bed and we got talking about our sex life, which i believed has been good so far, ( we have been dating for a yr now) he said he doesnt enjoy sex, even though its been yrs since he broke up with hi...
A. 12 October 2009: It's incredible that he had the audacity to say that to his new girlfriend.
All I can suggest is asking him what he'd like you to do in the bedroom and whether there's anything special you could do every now and again. But remember, it's a two wa... (read in full...)
His penis didnt go all the way in, could I be pregnant?
Q. Me and my bf tried to have sex but his penis cant really fit into my vagina, but it did went in alittle if i'm not wrong,while we were trying. But he took his penis away after awhile. Im just curious if I can get pregnant this way? cause his penis ...
A. 9 October 2009: Yes, there's every possibility that you could be pregnant if you weren't using protection. ... (read in full...)
Will I look crazy if I confront him about this secret email of his?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for 3.5 years. There were rocky moments when we weren't supposedly a "couple" and we were just sort of a best friends who sleep together thing. After moving in together and things well over a year ago, we became a ...
A. 9 October 2009: I hate to say so, but you shouldn't have been snooping around in his emails in the first place. Obviously anyone would be appauled upon finding such an email, but there's no way you can confront him about it without putting the relationship in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends parents object to my race and religion, but now I am pregnant. What should I do?
Q. am 27 and i have been dating my 29 year old Indian boyfriend for 2 year. recently he proposed to me for marriage and i gladly accepted but his parents have said he cannot marry me because am black and am a christian yet he is Hindu. between him and ...
A. 8 October 2009: I'm not totally clued up on Hinduism, or Christianity for that matter, but it's the 21st century for crying out loud. He shouldn't feel obliged to marry the woman that his parents pick out - he's found a woman that he loves, that's who he should ... (read in full...)
Been with boyfriend for 5 years and he still hasn't proposed!
Q. hey all!! Well my issue is that I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and he still hasnt proposed. He came to FL where I was living to train for work, that is where I met him, he was asked to help take over a family business in NH so he ...
A. 8 October 2009: Proposing to the love of your life is a very scary thought, especially for the guy because every guy knows that women fantasise about the perfect proposal.
Perhaps he's just nervous and wants it to be absolutely perfect for both of you. I wouldn't... (read in full...)
She doesn't know if "she's at the point of being in love" what does that mean?
Q. My girlfriend of a month told me today she loves doesn't know if shes at the point of being in love with me can someone please tell me what this means? we were friends for 4 months before, and we are still together so she didn't dump me. I just want ...
A. 8 October 2009: It probably means she's actively falling in love with you, but she's just not there yet. Your relationship is still a little bud and with the right care and attention, it'll blossom into something lovely. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to give up drinking, but I don't really want to.
Q. i have been married for about 2years with a 4 months son. it has developed that of late my wife dosen't want me to drink and also to hangout with my friends and as we met i used to drink something have tried to quit but all in vein. the other da...
A. 8 October 2009: Personally, I think you're being rather selfish. You say you're responsible when you're drinking, but it's very apparent that your wife doesn't agree with that fact - you have a 4 month old son with her and they should be your primary concern. Don't ... (read in full...)
Best friend resents my ability to bear children. How can I make this work?
Q. I've been going out with my best friend's brother for a while now we live together and have a child on the way. My best friend has polycystic ovaries which has left her in a state on whether she can conceive or not, I recently helped her through ...
A. 7 October 2009: Hm, I think you're on the money with your jealousy theory. I've never been a fan of online socialising - there are far too many mixed signals and you can never tell what tone the person is using. My advice is stay away from Facebook for a while and ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to sit with a bunch of guys I don't know and watch porn? Who's in the wrong here?
Q. Last night my bf started yelling at me heaps because when I met his friends I was quiet and shy. However, I do feel I had good reasons for acting the way I did. Here is why: 1. I didnt even technically "meet them". I mean, he didn't introduc...
A. 7 October 2009: I know it seems ridiculously blunt, but you need to get out of that 'relationship' before you get hurt. You've claimed that he's in a circle of friends who abuse their girlfriends, who's to say that won't be you next? You are good enough for ... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable about my body with my boyfriend. How do I address it?
Q. I, an American, am overweight. I'm 5'7", 195lbs, a size 14/16, and it's all in my gut. :( This is partly do the fact that when I was younger, I had surgery and was put on steroids--I was 150 pounds by the time I was 2 (seriously)! My bf (of 10 m...
A. 7 October 2009: It sounds as if you're a similar build to myself. I've always been extremely uncomfortable with the way I look and no matter how flattering my clothes are, or how many diets I go on, I just stay the same shape. My boyfriend and I were friends before ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for a baby - is this man a suitable father or should I look elswhere?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now - I am 34, my boyfriend is 39 - we are in love and happy. However I would love to get married and have a family but, although he is very loving towards me, he doesn't talk about the future. He ...
A. 7 October 2009: I doubt just 'getting pregnant' is the answer. Would you rather wait a while to confirm that he really is the man you'd like to father your child, or just do it and hope for the best?
There's only one thing you can do. It's a conversation in which... (read in full...)
I'm 14, liking a 22 year old and my parents don't like it!
Q. ok...well im 14 and i like a 22 year old...we have been talkin for a few months now and he promised to wait until im 18 befor we date. but neither one of us can wait that long. we wouldnt do anything bad like sex or anything like that...but my ...
A. 7 October 2009: It's not uncommon for a younger girl to fall for an older man. I hate to be the one who rains on your parade, but the likelihood is that you'll have a massive fall out with your parents about it, then you'll just gradually drift apart over time and ... (read in full...)
His 'jokes' keep striking a nerve - what do I say?
Q. Last night, my boyfriend and I were talking on the phone. I said hold on, and when I came back, I made my voice deeper to sound like a guy on purpose. We laughed it off, and he said, "Oh yea, like I'll fall for that." I kept going along, "Yes, can't ...
A. 7 October 2009: Well, I think the most obvious answer is the correct one - talk to him about it. If he doesn't know that you're self conscious about the size of your chest, then how will he know not to make jokes about them? You know, your boyfriend probably loves ... (read in full...)
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