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writes:so i have a huge problem in my hands. i am 18 years old and live in the U.S.A, i met my boyfriend when i was 15 years old and he was 17 years old, but he lives in ecuador.every year since i was 14 i have been spending my summers over there in Ecuador, so basically my boyfriend and i have known each other for a long time and we have develped a long distance relationship.this year i did spend my summer in ecuador( like always), yet my mom told me we werent going to go back in 2 years. i am 18 years old now and can legally travel without my parents consent. yet i have mentioned to my parents about me traveling alone next year to ecuador and my parents told me I couldnt, they said i was crazy, and that they wouldnt allow it. My mom hates my boyfriend and my dad has no idea about him, yet they both said they were not going to give me any economic support if I went nxt year.which it is ok because i do have a job and plan to pay for my own expences. but my parents dont care about the money problem,i am an only child and their mind wont change.and its not like im going to behave badly over there ( get drunk, smoke etc.) because i am a pretty decent girl, who has basically done evrything her parents say.i want to go back next year to verify my feelings towards this man,(because i think i might have fallen in love), i want to find out if its worth being together if we'r so far. my mom has stopped talking to me and i dont know how far she's going to go in order for me to not leave the country next year, so i am wondering....is this all worth me goin through?(Going against my parents wishes, working my ass off etc.)should i ignore my parents and go back to Ecuador?im so confused!....help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Can your boyfriend not come over to visit you next year instead?
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reader, leeraytho  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 girl dont ever do things that your parents are against because you will cause yourself badlucks.i know being a teenager you get caught up in love and you'll be risking your life trying to reach for it.if the guy also truely inloves and wants to verify your love he will(by calling)-but if he doesn't its not worth it.
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reader, Sammycake  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 This is tricky because legally, you can do what the hell you like, and you say that you have your own funding, too?I think that your parents need to realise that you're not a little girl any more and, despite their protests, you are starting to go your own way in the world.Do what you feel is right, but don't push your parents out of the picture - they're the ones who will love you through thick and thin.
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