A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:ok...well im 14 and i like a 22 year old...we have been talkin for a few months now and he promised to wait until im 18 befor we date. but neither one of us can wait that long. we wouldnt do anything bad like sex or anything like that...but my parents are flippin out. hes really nice, goes to college, and also has a good job. but i no everyone says im too young to know what love is, but i really think i love him a lot. and he loves me too. what should we do, just wait or go for it???? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell first of all my dad...well lets just say we dont get along because he has spent his whole life in prison practically...and i would never move to a different country with him...and my mom is starting to be ok with it because she talks to him everyonce in a while and thinks hes ok for me. im afraid of is us barely knowing each other in 4 years is why i was so scared. and i just found out today that he joined the navy. idk what to do about that problem now. but we are still talking and we have dicided to wait for a few more years too. but now im wondering what to do about the navy thing. your answers mean a lot to me...thanx
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): So what if you love him? It still won't make this relationship healthy for either one of you.
The divorce courts see lots of couples who still love each other very much.
...............................
A
female
reader, Sammycake  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 It's not uncommon for a younger girl to fall for an older man. I hate to be the one who rains on your parade, but the likelihood is that you'll have a massive fall out with your parents about it, then you'll just gradually drift apart over time and by the time you reach 18, you'll barely remember who he is and what all of the fuss was about.
Put yourself in your parents' shoes for a minute - would you want your 14 year old daughter to be talking to a 22 year old man? Their only concern is your safety. They're not trying to stifle you in any way, and I think they have every right to 'flip out', but you need to respect that they still see you as their little girl. The teenage years are trying times for both parent and child; the parents need to adjust to the fact that their once innocent child is growing up and having urges to be with the opposite sex, whilst the child is struggling to gain the respect and freedom they feel they deserve.
By any means, carry on talking to him, but don't rush into anything. You might even find that he has a few skeletons in the closet along the way.
Take care.
...............................
A
male
reader, Im Just Cliffy  +, writes (7 October 2009):
I am fairly young myself, and I have experienced my fair share of what I would like to call love. I'm glad to hear that you have found your "first love" at such an early point in your life. While age should never be a factor (I am currently mingling with a woman 5 years older than myself), it can still be frowned upon by the people around you, especially considering you are so young and your parents just feel that they are looking out for you, and trust me, I know its hard to make parents understand something in a different way then they already do. (Or so it seems)
18 seems like its so far away, but it will be upon you before you know it. Waiting for love can hurt, but it is well worth it ;).
So to answer your final question, your young, you have alot ahead of you, whos to not say that your father can get a job in a different country and move you away from your valued loved one. Waiting is always a good idea, give it more time before you make a choice, if its been months, try to make it a year. Love should be able to withstand any test of time.
...............................
|
