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*ittykhaos
writes:So im still having trouble with *parker* it had been over six months since we spoke and he turned up to where im living now. I avoided him for 3 days i was so worried about seeing him . So i go out and he's there, he grabs me and we start to have a conversation and he turns around and says "i didn't use you, i am in love with you but, im not ready for a relationship, when i am it will be with you but i dont know how long it will be and i can't expect you to wait for me" then he turned around and said " if you could stop being so down on yourself maybe we could make a go of it". I really don't understand what this means. Then he came back to my house and we fell asleep. In the morning he rolled over and started kissing me and touching me and i thought we were going to make love. Then he started to look nervous almost like his first time all over again and he just stopped. Im really confused by all of this. Also a friend of mine informed me he has been sleeping with other people, it hurt me a little but i guess i have no right to him. i just don't know what to do anymore. I love him and i do wait because i don't want anyone else but i don't know if i will ever get the man i love or why i let him do this to me.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (17 May 2010):
kittykhaos is verified as being by the original poster of the question I meant to tell you true to his word a few months later he came to me and told me he was ready to give it a shot and we have been together ever since (6 months) i think from what we have talked about there has been alot going on with his family and stuff and with him. I have never seen a man try so hard to fix the hurt they have caused im really glad i waited and im really glad i let him back in.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2009):
I'll tell now that he's using you. He'll never commit to you, because if he really loved you, he'd do it. He's using you no matter what he says. End it with him and move on.
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reader, Sammycake +, writes (20 October 2009):
 Sigh, it irritates me how little communication there is between people nowadays. If you have something that's bothering you or something that you'd like to know, how are strangers going to give you the direct answer?I think you should just go and talk to him about it. Stop pussy footing around the subject, kissing every now and again and getting your hopes dashed when he gets nervous and just ask him outright what's wrong.He says he's in love with you, but he's not ready for a relationship - this can be a true statement, although I don't know him personally, so I can't deduce whether he's being honest or not. Perhaps he's concerned that he can't give you the loving, devoted relationship he thinks you deserve?Just ask!
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