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My husband cheated on me, should I leave?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 11 years, and we dated for 7 years before that. We have two children together and they are 7 and 5 years old. I've been a stay home mom for seven years. Three weeks ago, he confessed that he cheated on me wi...
A. 21 August 2010: My suggestion to you is get your couple counselling done first... He or she will see your lacking in low self esteem and might help you help yourself to raise it.... Once your feeling better about yourself your be able with help to make the best ... (read in full...)
He's in no hurry to divorce his wife! what should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for two years who is separated. he is so good to me and we have such a great relationship. I could never imagine my life without him in it but my problem is everytime I mention him getting a divorce he gets offensive and ...
A. 19 April 2010: maybe he doesnt want to get a divorce cause he doesnt want to get married again, maybe thats what he thinks you want and will reject him if he says he doesnt want too...or maybe he has just got to a comfy place with his ex wife and doesnt want to ... (read in full...)
My fantasies, wont somebody support it?
Q. I have lot of fantasies, many wild fantasies, but I enjoy it. I tell this to my wife too and she does not complain. Some of my fantasies involve me with some of my close female relatives. Having a threesome or foursome including me and my wife wit...
A. 17 April 2010: I have to agree...I would agree to most things with my husband sexually...but I would think he was a real nut job if he started saying about relatives...sorry maybe you need sexual counselling???
good luck... (read in full...)
Why am I falling for a guy whose cheated in the past?
Q. what is wrong with me? why am i in love with a player? hes cheated on his past two gfs and im sure if i get with him he would cheat. i never liked him before only recently i have never done anything with him. i just think about him alot. he doesnt ...
A. 25 January 2010: Your lacking in good self esteem, just read a few pages of this web site and see how messed up people get when they r in a unfaithful relationship!!
Don't do it, find a man secure enough in himself to be with one girl!... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?
Q. Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...
A. 25 January 2010: Try telling her that you read somewhere that regular oral sex between a couple is the glue (pardon the pun :0) ) that keeps a couple together!!
Oh and when you do it make sure you know what your doing.. B4 I met my hb I wasn't fussed about all that... (read in full...)
Am I having an orgasm when my leg shakes?
Q. So im 18 and i've had sex a few times...and im not really sure if ive ever had an orgasim...so when I have sex after about an hour my leg start to shake uncontrollably does that mean im having an orgasim?? ...
A. 25 January 2010: I liken it too a sexy sneeze down below!!! It slowly builds then you cum and it can be the most intense feeling you could imagine.. And normally followed by a throbbing down there as your calming down... I think anyones legs would shake after an ... (read in full...)
Jealous of the blonde downstairs who is getting in between me and my man.
Q. So there's this blonde girl I was really jealous of who spends time with my bf and talks to him all the time and it was really bothering me, I recently found conversations between them that were really disgusting and hurt me a lot, she even sent him ...
A. 20 January 2010: I would go and speak to her and say you found everything.. or go the other way and seem not bothered about it in front of her and be mega nice everytime you see her?
Thing is, if its going to happen it will and no amount of worrying or stre... (read in full...)
Why does doggystyle make her hurt?
Q. Why is it that when I put my partner "doggystyle" she says that something bothers her and that it hurts?...
A. 20 January 2010: Its deep penetration and sometimes a mans penis can hit your cervix, esp if its near the girls period, it will leave the lady with a dull ache afterwards
If it still bothers her, get her to get checked out at a womens clinic?... (read in full...)
After 4 months of marriage, my husband is no longer physically attracted to me...
Q. My husband and I met almost three years ago. At first the sex was amazing; he was insatiable and couldn't get enough of me. After three months though, he stopped wanting me. I tried lingerie, candles, everything I could think of and yet we still ...
A. 20 January 2010: I think sometimes its not really the weight, its the fact that men think (and wrongly) that your letting yourself go and thats not really sexy is it?
Its just a thought but without mentioning that you want to lose weight for a reason start heal... (read in full...)
I'm burned out! He hits me, chokes me, and flirts and blames it on his drinking.
Q. I am so sad and confused. I live with Bill and he tells me all the time he loves me but he hits me in the head, chokes me and when we go out he flirts with other females in front of me. One female said he wanted to have sex with her. Bill blames his ...
A. 20 January 2010: Do you have family, or good friends? If so I would pack your stuff and leave him as fast as you can, I think something bad could happen to you, like he chokes you that bit harder next time and kills you
If you dont have family look online at wome... (read in full...)
Should I confess everything to my husband?
Q. i am a wife n a mother. i have been married for the last 5yrs. my husband has gone for offshore job for 2-3 months. last sunday i had sex with my brother-in-law. from that time i am really feeling guilty. should i confess everything to my husband?...
A. 20 January 2010: Firstly you have to ask yourself why you did it? and is it likely that you will do it again and the chance of your husband finding out? If I were you honesty is the best policy but I wouldnt tell him if he has no chance of getting back to sort it ... (read in full...)
I cannot carry on for another 20 years like this, what would you do if you were in this situation?
Q. My husband and I moved to our present home 11 years ago because his job changed. Three months later it changed again and he had to go back and work in the town we had moved from. Since then he has been travelling about 100 miles a day for his job. ...
A. 20 January 2010: Me and my hubby are in much the same situatation as yourselfs, he has a huge car/train journey into central london from our home on the south coast, it takes a toll on all aspects of our lifes as he is so tired all the time, but due to the current ... (read in full...)
My husband of 32 years said he doesn't love me anymore, I feel so lost and confused
Q. I don't know what to do am scared and confused. My husband of 32 years told me he doesn't love me anymore and wants me to move out. We split several times I left him. Funny thing I left him cause he had said before that he thought he didn't love me. ...
A. 19 January 2010: I am sorry to hear that, your head and your heart must been hurting right now.
It seems to me that your husband is confused, if he didn't really love you would he have let u move hundreds of miles from your home town?
I know it sounds obvious ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut for letting other men cum on my face?
Q. I wrote about that my husband and me want to invite a couple of men join in and cum on my face. Am I a slut even if my husband agrees to this?...
A. 18 January 2010: What you do behind closed doors is your business.. Slut is a nasty word & as caring guy wrote normally only said by bitter men (or women) just be careful and make sure u both know what your letting yourselfs in for cause fantasy and real life are so ... (read in full...)
I am not sure how much cum is normal
Q. hi i have a new gf and the other night after sex we go talking about how much cum is normal. she told me her x would cum loads. what is the normal amount and do womon prefer more or less...
A. 14 January 2010: When my Hubby has made love to me lots it can be not a lot.... But if it's a few days it tends to be lots?... (read in full...)
What are the unspoken rules regarding sex?
Q. When you have sex, when do you normally finish? once the man has an orgasm or both? thanks...
A. 14 January 2010: Hopefully you will come too, normally the girl comes first as it's easy for a girl to come and carry on, where as a man normally loses his erection and his penis becomes over sensetive & u can't carry on? But it has too be said it really really nice ... (read in full...)
Positions for the smaller man
Q. i love my boyfriend no end but the sex compared to my ex boyfriend is nowhere near as good.boyfriend has a smallish penis, 4 inches erect.it only just gets inside me and i can barely move on it as it will fall out. any advice on good sex positions ...
A. 13 January 2010: try anal, a 4 inch dick would feel huge up there!!
believe me botty orgasims are so much better than front botty ones!!... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy a bigger "load"?
Q. Do women enjoy seeing a bigger semen load from their man? Is it pleasing to you? Especially when he is inside you, do you think it feels good? thanks...
A. 13 January 2010: I have to say this is not something I had thought too much about apart from in one british rag a few weeks ago it stated that some nerd in a lab somewhere had found out that the more a man cums the more into you he is??? I hope thats not true, cause ... (read in full...)
I signed up for a dating website and now my wife doesn't trust me
Q. my wife no longer trust me we have been fighting for about 4 years because our daughter got pregnant at 16 by a loser and we both started pulling away i had been looking at a lot of porn and was feeling lonely i went to a dating web sight and signed ...
A. 13 January 2010: Have you thought about going away on a break together, somewhere fun...somewhere alone where you can talk and try to sort thyings out without the everyday getting in the way...sometimes when you do that you remember what its like to be a couple ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my ex and he is being ignorant and distant!
Q. Im 26 and 5 months pregnant by my ex. Not the most ideal situation to be in but fortunately we are still friends and he promised to support me. Well, until now. Im about to move out of my 1 bed flat (not allowed chidren) into a 2 bed little house...
A. 10 January 2010: Do you realise that despite the fact you work, u will be entitled to help from the goverment, I think u get some sort of grant from about 8 months, once the baby is born u will be able to claim child tax credits too, plus go to the csa and your ex ... (read in full...)
I don't believe pretty women with breasts make good wives!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, There's a song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.." Homely women aren't as sought after and they're not as likely to cheat on a husband or boyfriend. It so...
A. 2 December 2009: your also asumming us attractive girls don't have a voice, maybe we r so dim we can't say no to anyone that shows us attention?
I have done dome glamour modelling, underwear modelling.. I still get lots of looks/chatted up by men, but cause I love... (read in full...)
I would rather be single than be cheated on...
Q. I have been married for 10 years and we have 4 kids and one on the way. My husband for the most part is a wonderful man and a wonderful father. My problem is that he has a great fascination with online porn and I keep finding he's putting his ...
A. 1 December 2009: I think some people will get away with what u let them, the way I see it you have 3 choices
1. Ask him to leave, even if u don't really want that it might get him the kick up the bum he needs... Don't back down on this he has too be gone long enou... (read in full...)
My live in rarely wants sex..is it me or our situation?
Q. My live-in boyfriend and father of two of my children never wants sex. We are intimate maybe once every two or so months. Our two yo does sleep in the bed with us, but when he or I really really want it we move to another room or move our child in...
A. 1 December 2009: hi
This happened to me & my husband, he never seemed to want sex, & for a while I thought be was going off me... I know it sounds like a sterio type but I always thought men were always suppose to be up 4 it?? We also have young family, & a comb... (read in full...)
Am I too well endowed at 14?
Q. I'm 14 and my penis is 10 inches long and about 6.5 inches around when hard. Is this too big for sex? One of my friends saw it and said it was too big to have sex. Will it get any bigger?...
A. 30 November 2009: u r in the middle of puberity right now, so it might grow but prob not??
Remember girls lady gardens strech when they have a baby,so as long as your penis is not bigger than a head, I am guessing your penis will be fine, just make sure when your... (read in full...)
Hairy or bare I'm self conscious! What to do?
Q. Okay, so, with pubic hair on women, how do u keep it neatly trimmed without having to get a wax? It's so uncomfortable and painful. But I'm self-conscious when I'm hairy and self-conscious when I'm bare. Any Suggestions? Is there a middle ground?...
A. 28 November 2009: have u tried hair removal creme? U can get one for sensitive skin too?? Get a mirror & do it all apart from a small landing strip.. So u r nether hairy or bear...... (read in full...)
I know guys do, but do girls cum too?
Q. Why and how do girls cum? I know us guys can but gals?...
A. 28 November 2009: yes we do, but it's not normally as much as sperm... It's a clear/creamy colour odourless & is for the purpose of carrying sperm to the uterus... (read in full...)
I know guys do, but do girls cum too?
Q. Why and how do girls cum? I know us guys can but gals?...
A. 28 November 2009: yes we do, but it's not normally as much as sperm... It's a clear/creamy colour odourless & is for the purpose of carrying sperm to the uterus... (read in full...)
She has the proof that he is cheating yet she is still with him!
Q. I told my ex husbands girlfriend that he was cheating on her and gave her a CD of him and I talking about getting back together! They live together and he wants his cake and eat it to! I told her everything and she is still with him! Why does she ...
A. 28 November 2009: sometimes when a woman finds out her man has been cheating.. She will do all she can to stop him going off with the other woman.. Esp if she thinks she can make him happy or that other woman us more attractive/slimmer etc, but eventually most ladies ... (read in full...)
Going through his phone because I don't trust him!
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with a man that I won't to marry but I fill as though I am not enough for him I've told him how I feel about him conversating with other women it really make me fill uncomfortable once I got into a relationship with ...
A. 28 November 2009: I have been down the road you r currently on...as soon as my partner went in the shower I was like a whippit going through his phone... I don't know about u but it's not a nice feeling, I used to feel sick as I was doing it & give myself a huge knot ... (read in full...)
Divorcing naked creepy ex... What if he does something?
Q. I split from my husband 4 years ago after being in a very passionless marriage for 10+years, no kids. I have given him plenty of time to adjust to life without me and now I am filing for divorce. He remains in complete denial. Tonight I dropped by ...
A. 24 November 2009: it might seem creepy to you but I don't think it's not normal?? Some men need visual sitmulation to play... Maybe his needs to be realistic & a real life memory to get his rocks off?? Maybe he was hoping u would see him & jump on?? But u agree ... (read in full...)
The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 23 November 2009: one last thing... I know everyone is entiltled to there own opion but please please don't have an affair. I should imagine u r wife already thinks your up too something ( hence the losing it with u when u r late) sadly the suspision comes from low ... (read in full...)
The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 23 November 2009: can I just say, I was a "normal" run of the mill woman, then when I had kids I changed into the bitch from hell... I loved my kids but felt resentful being at home full time whilst my husbands life carried on as normal?? I eventually decided too see ... (read in full...)
Why is my wife not as tight as she was?
Q. I went away for couple of weeks to work, and when i came back, my wife was sort of lose, and before i went out, she was nice and tight. When i asked her why she got loose, she jumped and and chaged the topic and she did not want to talk about it...
A. 23 November 2009: a womens downstairs department can change with her monthly cycle, if she is in the middle of her cycle she will be more moist as these fluids help to move semen to her uterus...So the downstairs can feel more welcoming, but I am betting if u made ... (read in full...)
Has anyone lost weight while pregnant?
Q. hiya well im 19 weeks pregnant with my first baby and am really confused. im getting a nice round bump but other than that have lost nearly 2 stone since i became pregnant and am worried that it could hurt my baby if i carry on losing weight ...
A. 20 November 2009: I lost nearly 2 stone when pregnant, your body is running on food & energy for u plus the baby so you need to eat a few extra calories, I did this by eating smoothies & ice cream, dispute this I still lost weight?? I would casually mention this to u ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex on a woman better than intercourse for them?
Q. Is oral sex on a woman better than intercourse? I'm better at sex when I'm tipsy, I come out of my shell. Is that normal??...
A. 19 November 2009: I was never that worried about oral sex, I thought it was ok but never raved about it untill I met my hb.. He is sooo fantastic at it that i now prefer it too sex!! He does it in an almost 69 postion but I don't give him oral always I just ... (read in full...)
How to support someone I care about who is going through a divorce?
Q. How do I play this? My boyfriend has broken up with me. He is in the process of divorcing his previous partner and has discovered in our relationship that he has not moved forward emotionally as much as he though he had - he keeps worrying that our ...
A. 19 November 2009: give him space..and a friendly ear when needed...that's all you can do!! Good luck ... (read in full...)
I'm really sad when I'm not with g/f..how do I overcome this?
Q. Hi, Been going out with gf for just under a year now and it's got to the stage where if I am really sad when I am not in her company, which is rediculously...well...rediculous. How do I make myself feel better when I am not in her company? ...
A. 25 September 2009: I know how u feel... My husband is away a lot & I feel really werid & sad when he is not around & I literally pine for him... I hate it that my life sort of goes on hold til he's back?? For years I over thought why I was like this? But now I realize ... (read in full...)
Has my sister's man been molesting their child?
Q. I have a younger sister who is in a very abusive relationship. Eleven months ago she had a baby by this person. A few months ago they broke up and eventually, he wormed his way back into her life. She just found out (by a doctor) that she has her...
A. 25 September 2009: If I were u, I would strongly advise your sister to take the baby to the doctors, the doctor is the only person medically trained to see what the rash is? At the end of the day if it's nothing then u can all carry in normally and forgry about it, ... (read in full...)
Woman's intuition and an ex lover?
Q. Do you believe in womens intuition? Especially when you feel that your husband might be talking to an ex lover?...
A. 24 September 2009: yes I do think your should trust your feelings... Me thinks it's time for some snooping... ( yes awfully naughty thing too do!!) go through his emails & phone, chances r u might find something? Or double bluff him, tell him u know he has Bern in ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be married and have friends of the opposite sex?
Q. I am 41 and have been married for 22 years. Is it ok for me to have female friends and my wife to have male friends? We have plenty of mutual friends but maybe we need our private lives to help us remember who we are. I have been told that the ...
A. 24 September 2009: I think the best thing is to not talk about sexual or emotional things in your marriage with your female friends, that's what upset us ladies when men tell other ladies our personal lives, then it all becomes a bit werid?? And the main thing is be ... (read in full...)
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