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writes:I don't know what to do am scared and confused. My husband of 32 years told me he doesn't love me anymore and wants me to move out. We split several times I left him. Funny thing I left him cause he had said before that he thought he didn't love me. Well this time we moved 900 miles away from family and gave our house back to the bank. I don't want to go back home but don't really know what to do. I have no friends here and feel really lost and confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): I really don't have much to add to the great advise above except, get a lawyer... technically if he leaves the marriage that gives you the upper hand. I mean moves out or even has told you its over (which he has)... get to the attorneys. post haste! 32 years is a long time and if love is not on his mind money is... it would be on mine.
he who leaves or abandons the marriage is at fault and can be sought for damages.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (19 January 2010):
 If he doesn't love you anymore, then maybe HE should move out. I can't imagine how awful this must feel for you. I agree with Roadster73 who suggested getting involved in church. She also compared this to a death, which I also agree with. Losing anything or anyone that's been around for that length of time is not something you quickly recover from. If you don't want to go back home, then you're going to have to stay there or relocate somewhere else. Altho I can't say that my personality would lend itself to say it to him, I still think that if he doesn't love you then he should be the one to go, especially after dragging you 900 miles from family and friends.
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reader, Roadster73  +, writes (19 January 2010):
 I am sorry to hear that, your head and your heart must been hurting right now.
It seems to me that your husband is confused, if he didn't really love you would he have let u move hundreds of miles from your home town?
I know it sounds obvious but have you tried couple counserlling? If he won't go u could go alone and they would help you deside what's the best next move?
You have been with this man for a very long time, most of your adult life, it will be almost like a death if you do split up, and that's how you kinda got to treat it as? Would you go home to family & friends if he had passed away? I don't know your family & friends but if they are good people I would recommend going home and letting them help you heal and grieve for the lost relationship?
If u decided to stay have you thought about going to church? I am don't attend myself but have a good friend who does and has a huge support network there? And if not church a volutary job to get you out and give you back some self worth?
Good luck x
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