I'm an ex-teacher who fell in love with a student. I lost my career and I need help coping with the damnation.
Q. I am an ex-teacher. When I was 32 I fell in love with one of my 18 year old sixth form students. I was so aware of the power relationship issue, but sought advice from colleagues/friends as to what to do - they said if I was truly in love with her ...
A. 12 January 2006: Whatever you do, DO NOT "end it all"! That wouldn't even be on the list of things you could do - nope, not even at the end! You need to move on. Push past it, even though you didn't mean for it to happen in the first place. Nobody can help what ha... (read in full...)
Will highlights damage my hair as I've been told?
Q. hELLO, this is a really stupid question, dont even know if it will be posted. Will highlights damage your hair, I've got curly light brown hair, and want to put highlights but have been told that it will damage it, and never be the same? Is it b...
A. 21 December 2005: If you don't do it repeatedly in a short space of time, then it SHOULDN'T damage your hair...
I agree with Virginiaac, though - Ask your hairdresser. :-D... (read in full...)
I'm young, studying law and have my whole life ahead of me. But all I want is a baby!
Q. I need some advice - I'm going mad! I'm 18 years old and I am at university studying law. I have a great family, loads of friends and a great boyfriend. But I really want a baby!! I've wanted one on and off since I was 13 and now I really want to...
A. 21 December 2005: Hmm... It is VERY wrong to bring a baby up in an environment that's not financially secure. You SHOULD wait until you've finished studying and you have a stable job, and good home. Your boyfriend is right... even though you want a baby (and I ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and the father of my child won't stop his constant lies!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. We are expecting our fisrt child. My boyfriend lies about things and I guess he doesn't think I know or I won't find out. It's just gotten to the point that I don't believe anything that he ...
A. 21 December 2005: Raising a child with a man like that isn't going to be good for the child... I understand that you love him, but if you can't trust him, then that's a very important part of real love that isn't there for you both. Either you sit down and talk to ... (read in full...)
I rarely see my long-distance girlfriend. Now I'm falling for a coworker...
Q. I really need help. I have not slept in 2 weeks. I am seeing my girlfriend for four years. For the last year it has been long distance. This has recently started to get to me in that we only see each other once a month. I truly thought this w...
A. 21 December 2005: If you are unhappy with your current girlfriend, then there is no need to stay with her. This other girl should be made aware of your partner, though.
Just break it up with your girlfriend gently. She obviously doesn't mind the fact that you're a... (read in full...)
What could the girl have possibly done that makes her think I could never like her?
Q. I'm really confused at the moment because this girl I like won't let me know where I stand. One minute she says she wants to be with me and the next she says she can't and has 'to let me go'. She seems to have a lot of secrets, she told me that if ...
A. 21 December 2005: I think she's roping you along. I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth - if she can't be open and honest about her feelings, and just say either YES or NO, then you should probably find someone else who has their mind set.... (read in full...)
I want to be an actor-should I hire an agent? How do I get auditions?
Q. Hi, Im 15 and reside in England, and have promising GCSE results to go on to further education and university. Although I want to act and have done so previously a few times on stage. I wish to act in movies really, so how can I do this. I also want ...
A. 16 December 2005: Hmm... Maybe you should look around on the 'net?
http://uk.castingcallpro.com/index.php?affid=8
^ I don't know if that site would be of any use...... (read in full...)
He hits me..he controls me.. so why do I beg him to stay with me when he threatens to leave? Help me!
Q. Im 19, having a bf for nearly 5 months now. Although I wouldn't consider it a very long relationship, I have seriously fell for him like I have never before. Overall, he is a person who treats me nicely once we meet. However, once I leave for home ...
A. 16 December 2005: You can't feel that way about him, luvvie... He's just going to hurt you more, and make life hell for you, if you stay with him.
What you've got to understand is that you're a very elligible woman, youthful at your age. He's not the only person w... (read in full...)
I was forced into an arranged marriage which I didn't want. How do I get out of this?
Q. I was forced into an arranged marriage which I totally don't want. I want to go separate ways and my entire family instituition is not allowing me to.HELP!!!!...
A. 16 December 2005: That's tough.
Arranged marriages are difficult - but when you're family isn't supportive of your feelings towards them, I'd say fight your way out.
Make it clear to them that you DO NOT want to live your life with this man... they REALLY SHOU... (read in full...)
My bf forced me to have sex and I'm confused..I was turned on by it!
Q. Last night, my boyfriend forced me to have sex with him. We just finished having a really bad fight and sex was the last thing on my mind. He ripped my clothes off and threatened me with a knife. I cried the entire time. He just kept telling me to ...
A. 15 December 2005: Your body reacting wasn't you LIKING it, it's called involuntary bodily reactions - therefore, you can't help it. It's still rape if he forced you into it... The first step you need to take is to tell someone with authority. DOn't be ashamed or ... (read in full...)
My wife would rather be with her computer than with me!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt.... Since I hooked my pc up to the net I have lost my wife to it. She spends her days and nights infront on the pc. We don't have a sex life anymore and she gets irate if I ask her to come to bed. I don't know what to do please h...
A. 13 December 2005: When I introduced my Grandma to my computer (ie, the game "Solitaire", "The Sims", "The Sims 2", and the internet) she always jumps on everytime she comes over.
People become curious. They're intrigued by things that are new to them.
Eventua... (read in full...)
It could be real love if we got together, but how do I ask him out without embarrassment?
Q. I really like this guy at school and he is really nice to me. I don't know whether to ask him out or not in case he says no, because I don't want to embarras me or him. He is so sexy but see as I'm only 13. I think we could give it a try. I know ...
A. 13 December 2005: Life's too short - Go for it, no matter how embarrassed you are! :-D... (read in full...)
I long to be with someone else but what about my girlfriend?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, she lives with me and I am her world. She cut herslef off (own choice) from all her friends and just lives for me. 3 months ago I met a lady through work who is really cool, fun and I am really attrac...
A. 13 December 2005: Firstly... We women don't have to live for you men. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do, making her cut all her friends from her life and "live just for you". I don't care if you say it was her own choice, it's obvious that she chose it BECAUSE of ... (read in full...)
I want to be an actor-should I hire an agent? How do I get auditions?
Q. Hi, Im 15 and reside in England, and have promising GCSE results to go on to further education and university. Although I want to act and have done so previously a few times on stage. I wish to act in movies really, so how can I do this. I also want ...
A. 13 December 2005: Um... This is a love / friendship / family issue site...... (read in full...)
Totally devastated by discovery that my husband masturbates and fantasizes frequently! Guys: Why?
Q. My husband masturbates very frequently and fantasizes about other women or images while doing so. I just found this out and I am absolutely devastated. We had what I thought was a GREAT active and monogamous sex life for over 13 years. I have always ...
A. 12 December 2005: Men ALWAYS fantasize. It's not that he's getting bored of you in any way at all, so don't feel like he doesn't love you. :-)... (read in full...)
My friends tease me about my ugly gf-I thinks she's beautiful! What can I do about these friends?
Q. I have a girlfriend currently but a lot of my friends think she is ugly but i think she's beautiful and i love her. I do get teased sometimes and it really gets on my nerves. what should i do???...
A. 11 December 2005: They're all stupid. Sorry, but if you think she's beautiful, and you really love her, then what they say shouldn't matter. They come across, to me, as immature pratts.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and need to know...if my banana shaped erection still satisfy the ladies?
Q. iam 20.When my penis erects it doesn't get straight, it does erect but bends towards downwards.like a banana. so i wanna know will this type of penis gives sexual satisfaction to a woman n iam still virgin....
A. 10 December 2005: It's not the size of your penis, or the shape of it - it's how you use it. ;-D... (read in full...)
Help! Dating problems!
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and I have never had a proper relationship with a guy in the last two years, since I split with my boyfriend of a year. I don't have any feelings for him now but it did take me a while to get over him due to him being my first proper ...
A. 19 November 2005: You're not "another dead hoper"... Keep pursuing your feelings, and he'll come around. But make sure to give him some time to get over his last relationship first.... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but I resent the fact that he likes me and every other girl, too!
Q. I've really liked this guy for a long time, and I'm getting sick of it. I can't seem to get over him. What should I do? We met at church. His sister is my best friend and I happen to live with her, so I see him all the time. I knew he liked me last ...
A. 19 November 2005: If he felt for other girls, and kept coming back to YOU, then I think you ARE the "special one" out of all of the others. He HAD interest in you... maybe you could talk things through? I bet he can't let go, either, and he's just trying to hide it - ... (read in full...)
Together we have 3 years together and a baby. He says we'll get married "when we can afford it"...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for over 3 years. We have a baby and he considers us to be commonlaw. He doesn't feel the need to get married. It's just a piece of paper that won't change anything. He tells me that he doesn't think ...
A. 19 November 2005: Don't be worried! You're not crazy at all! :-D
You don't have to get married right away, hun, things will sort themselves out in time.... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask my girlfriend to shave...
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem?...
A. 19 November 2005: :-S Eeeesh...
Pubic hair enhances one's orgasm! KEEP IT!! O_O... (read in full...)
Mum's boyfriends are poor choices and they always end up moving in...
Q. My mother always dates men that are not good to her and they always end up moving in. This I feel puts me in a bad situation. She has dated an alcoholic, two ended up in jail, and the other we have had arrested two times and have a restraining order ...
A. 19 November 2005: I think your mother feels like she needs to find somebody who loves her, and relys on any schmuck walks her way... I know that sounds mean, and I'm sorry, but some people feel like that and need to be shown how much they're worth. YOu should really ... (read in full...)
My friend got back with her bad-news boyfriend - then disappeared!
Q. My best friend has this boyfriend whom I've warned her from the beginning is bad news. He verbally abuses her and is beyond jealous. She cant even hang out with me when my boyfriend is there. I randomly leave papers about abuse and help in her ...
A. 19 November 2005: Maybe she's only going out with him because she feels like nobody else would care about her? Or maybe she sees something beyond the anger?
Either way, I agree with your side of the story, and I think you should sit her down and have a good lon... (read in full...)
I have a crush on him and everyone thinks we'd be a great couple, but I'm afraid to ask him out!
Q. I have a big crush on this guy and have done for five months! I have a reputation as being a swot and so does he. Everyone says we would be perfect together. The thing is I am afraid to ask him out! What should I do??? Luv Hannah...
A. 19 November 2005: Life's too short!!! :-D GO FOR IT, GIRLFRIEND!... (read in full...)
I was dumped because I don't have enough sexual or emotional "experience"!
Q. I have been dumped because my partner was my first person that I got involved with, and slept with. Now he tells me that I have no previous relationships, sexually and emotionally. I was told that I have nothing to rate this relationship on. I'm 22...
A. 19 November 2005: What the hell is his problem?! For God's sake, there's NOTHING WRONG with being a virgin! /I'M/ a virgin, too, and my boyfriend is as well!! WHAT THE...?!!
I'd say, either talk with him about how immature he's being, or just cut it loose.... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for sex, but my boyfriend is!
Q. I have a boyfriend and he wants me to have sex with him. I'm not ready to. What should I do?...
A. 11 November 2005: Tell him straight away "NO", and if he keeps pursuing you after that, I'd say break up with him. Even if he is a great guy, he shouldn't force you into doing anything you don't want to do.
- QOTU... (read in full...)
I'm 14 already and still have never had a boyfriend...
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. This is ...
A. 31 October 2005: Going out with someone isn't the most IMPORTANT thing in life! :-D Have fun, hang out with friends, and live your teenage life!
If you DID want to get into a relationship, though, I'd suggest you just have a friendly one... don't get too into boy... (read in full...)
Does anyone have answers to my questions about my penis?
Q. Hi I wanna ask 3 questions about Sex. I hope I'll get best replies and answers of them. 1.My first question is about my penis size. Well I'm 22 and I dont know, my penis dont grow. It's the same as like when I was 14 years old. As flaccid it's les...
A. 28 October 2005: Oh, jibbery bob! SOOO many men come through here with questions about their penises... Look, we women don't CARE, okay?? It's not the size of your willie - it's how you USE it. :-P So stop worrying, and just experiment with your new wife! Have a ... (read in full...)
If my bf was just talking to another girl, like he says, why didn't he mention it at the time?
Q. Tthis guy tells me that he loves me so much and I do (really, I do) believe him. But he left his cell phone in my car the other night and when I was looking at his text messages, I came across a text he wrote to this girl saying "hey I had a great ...
A. 28 October 2005: You REALLY need to confront him about this... somehow or another, you have to see if he is lying or not, because - I'm sorry, but - this DOES look fishy.
Thats all I'm going to say.
~QOTU... (read in full...)
A Catch-22: Inexperience with women makes me hesitant to try dating!
Q. Hello basically I'm a 22 year old male who has never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship. This is really affecting my life and my confidence. I am good looking but I lack self esteem I am also very nervous because of my sexual inexperience. ...
A. 24 October 2005: I'm dating a 22-year-old virgin. :-D Why would women mind?? Personally, I often see men who have had so much sex their dick doesn't work as sleazy. Like Wicky said, you just need to find the right person. ;-P And that, you will most-certainly do.... (read in full...)
I've lost the excess weight, but I'm still worried that my body will turn off my boyfriend!
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex, but there have come times when we've come close to it--my problem is that I used to weigh 200 pounds and through diet and exercise went down to 130. The bad side is that I was left with a sagging tummy and breasts ...
A. 24 October 2005: Congrats about losing all that weight - I wish I could do that! :-P I've been trying but it doesn't work...
Anyway, I think that your boyfriend will love you anyway. The first guy who made love to you was obviously a horrible satanic arse-hol... (read in full...)
How much is too large an age gap?
Q. I am 28 and my boyfried is 2 1/2 years younger. It's not an issue for us, but is that too big a gap? His friends don't seem to approve although they are my age. Princess...
A. 24 October 2005: Cupid was painted blind... Age doesn't matter when you're both legally adults. ;-)
~QOTU... (read in full...)
Am I too young?
Q. Do you think 13 is too young to have a boyfriend? ...
A. 23 October 2005: 13 is a nice age to have an INNOCENT relationship. I wouldn't suggest sex, because that's illegal at 13, but if you keep it mutual, like just holding hands, going out together, MAYBE kissing a little (hey, you gotta learn somewhere!), then sure. ... (read in full...)
We're really in love, but our parents don't know about it!
Q. Hi I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 18. I want to start this off by saying yes, we are sexually active and we both dont see why age matters so much. We are both in love; I mean real love! Some say why is he into a younger person and why am I into an ...
A. 23 October 2005: I'm in kinda the same situation, except my boyfriend and I haven't done "anything".
My advice (what I'm planning to do eventually) is to introduce him to your parents. Take him home, say "Mum, dad, this is [so-and-so]." Don't say silly things l... (read in full...)
My online chat-guy turned out to be 40, and he convinced me to have sex with him...
Q. H, I'm 16 years old and in May this year I met a guy over the net and we got on very well for about 3 months and we decided to meet. Then I discovered that he had lied about his age. When we met in August he told me he was 40 years old. He ...
A. 23 October 2005: That's HORRIBLE! You know, though, you CAN file a case against him - there's such a thing as "Statutory Rape", which is a person over eighteen having sex with somebody under eighteen, consent or not. He'd deserve it.
Take care of yourself... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my boyfriend. If so, where?
Q. I need to know if I should have sex with my boyfriend. I'm 16; he is 18. If I should or decide to, where should we do it at? What do I do physically with him?...
A. 23 October 2005: You are DEFINITELY not ready if you can't make the decision yourself. I'm sorry if that's insulting, but it's the truth - Sex is meant to be something special (it's often thought of just a way to feel good - very misleading), so wait for a time in ... (read in full...)
I click with my friend on so many levels, but he just isn't physically attractive...
Q. I have a really good friend who has liked me for the past 6 months. I think he is an amazing guy and I love spending time with him. Our personalities click the only thing is, well on the physical scale he's is not what I look for. Should I just get ...
A. 20 October 2005: I'd say give the relationship a try if you're attracted to his personality. Sometimes when you really like a person, you completely forget about the outside. Nobody's perfect. (I'm not calling you a Shallow Hal, because I understand what you mean - ... (read in full...)
When my girlfriend gives me oral sex, I just can't get off!
Q. When my girlfriend gives me a blowjob, I can never get off. All the times I get right to the point that I would normally get off but it won't happen. What could be the problem? I love it when she does it, it feels good. It just wont finish it. ...
A. 19 October 2005: Experiment until you eventually find your own little "way" of finishing the job.
Works with every couple, mate! -- QOTU... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and he's 19. We've been texting, but I want to move on to more!
Q. I met this boy who I really like at a fair that always comes to town. We each got other people to swap numbers. Anyway we have been texting for about a year now and both said we like each other, but we have been with other people. I see him every da...
A. 18 October 2005: Confuscious says: THERE IS NO AGE BOUNDARIES IN LOVE.
No, seriously, there isn't! I'm 16 dating someone 6 years older than me. We love each other to pieces, and he respects me. If this guy respects you and you KNOW IN YOUR HEART (I'm talking ... (read in full...)
I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!
Q. I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...
A. 18 October 2005: It's normal for children to be experimental with their bodies. As long as she isn't doing anything REALLY wrong, I think you should let her go - children have a right to be curious, man! ^_^
--QOTU... (read in full...)
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