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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): if you are not ready just tell him that you are not as giving as him and you like him so bad that you cn't give itup untill u can prove to yourself it is worth it tll him no to be mad but good things come to those who wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): i dont no
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): You should wait till your ready. Ive the same problem, I love my boyfriend to bits but im just not ready for sex. If he loves you he will understand. dont let him pressure you!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): You should wait till your ready. Ive the same problem, I love my boyfriend to bits but im just not ready for sex. If he loves you he will understand. dont let him pressure you!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): just tell him your not ready and that you will tell him when your ready just till then do oral sex you never do things you dont want to do or your not ready for especially sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): Well if you check out contemporary porn, vaginal sex is fairly passe. So if that is the holy grail and the type of sex he is looking for and you aren't ready for, then be aware that as a couple you are likly to want to move on to other stuff eventually anyway.
Soooo, one wonders if you might as a couple might want to start doing some of that stuff now. Oral, oil massages, hand stimulation? Feet? I am telling you that the guys I know look back very fondly on the creativity of their high school 'no-sex' gf's. This could be a positive for both of you.
Do guys need to have sex? Yes. He isnt a bad guy because he wants to have sex with you. But sex of any kind is inherently intimate. If you two arent a level of trust and intimacy already then you shouldn't progress on to any kind of sex. And dont fall into the trap of using that fact that you are having sex to prove to yourself that you must in a relationship that is intimate and trusting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): i am a guy...guys are alwayts ready for sex. if you sleep with him. you will regret it. it might not be the next day, but when you meet the person you want to spend the rest of you life with and wish he could have been your first, then you will have regret. by they time i was 19 have had more sexual partners than i can remember. i estimated around 75. i regret that now. i am married and have 4 kids. i am the 3rd person my wife slept with, and shewished she would have waited till we met. i would say wait, if you let him pressure you, not only will you loose your virginity, but also your self respect. if he loves you he will wait. if he dosent want to wait, tell him to go find someone else.
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reader, Lord of Skimmed Cheese +, writes (13 November 2005):
Having sex is something that only YOU decide and no one else. It is supposed to be speical. Just sit down with him and calmly and sensitively explain that you are not ready for sex. If he stil demands it them, like the former answer said, DUMP THE SICK BASTARD!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): if he doesnt understand or respect ur feelings DUMP HIM hes not worth it. DO NOT do anything if u r not ready. if he truly loves u he will wait until the time is right
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (11 November 2005):
 You should never do anything that you are not comfortable with or are not ready to do. Don't let him pressure you into anything. If you want to wait, let him know that and if he don't want to wait for you, then he's not worth it. I hope you don't let him pressure you, just be strong because if he don't want to wait, there's someone out there that wants to.
Good Luck!
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reader, QOTU +, writes (11 November 2005):
 Tell him straight away "NO", and if he keeps pursuing you after that, I'd say break up with him. Even if he is a great guy, he shouldn't force you into doing anything you don't want to do.
- QOTU
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