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writes: I've really liked this guy for a long time, and I'm getting sick of it. I can't seem to get over him. What should I do?We met at church. His sister is my best friend and I happen to live with her, so I see him all the time. I knew he liked me last year, but I told his sisters that I thought he was immature (which he was). He ended up dating another girl. They dated for a few months and then broke up. Suddenly he was all over me again. I told him he needed to take some time and get over his girlfriend (whom he had lost his virginity to). We didn't talk much this past summer, and I knew he was seeing other girls. Then one day a couple months ago we ended up hanging out, and we talked about how we had felt about each other. He said all this stuff about wishing I had been his first girlfriend, about how he could picture himself marrying me...blah blah blah. Then he started coming around all the time, leaving me notes, text messaging me, telling me how much he wanted to be with me.But I hesitated. I avoided going out with him. I told him that he liked every girl, and that I didn't want to be like every girl. It hurt me that his girlfriend and him had slept together, because I still liked him when he was going out with her.Later, I found out that he had been talking to another girl, which turned out to be my friend. He said he didn't care about her, that he wanted to be with me, but I know he was telling her the same stuff.I told him to go for her because she was far less complicated than I was and he stormed off like he always does. I know he genuinely wanted to be with me, but I can't get past the fact that he likes all these other people. I guess I just wanted to be special to him from the first time I met him, but there have been all these other girls, so it makes me feel like I'm not as important as I should be. I miss him so much, because when we're together, there's this connection that I've never felt with anyone else in my life. Whenever I see him now I'm cold and formal. I know he hates me because I wouldn't give him a chance, and he tells everyone how much he hates me. He even tore me down in front of his family for something stupid I did. I try to hate him the way he pretends to hate me, but I can't let go. I keep wishing that we could have another chance. How can I let go of this guy who clearly has no interest whatsoever in me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Well I have the same problem as you, the best thing I could ever think to do is to tell him how you feel and ask him for a chance . And maybe even apologise for what you said I could have don that but it was to late for me he likes another girl now
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reader, QOTU +, writes (19 November 2005):
 If he felt for other girls, and kept coming back to YOU, then I think you ARE the "special one" out of all of the others. He HAD interest in you... maybe you could talk things through? I bet he can't let go, either, and he's just trying to hide it - like you are.
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