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writes: Dear Agony Aunt....Since I hooked my pc up to the net I have lost my wife to it. She spends her days and nights infront on the pc. We don't have a sex life anymore and she gets irate if I ask her to come to bed.I don't know what to do please help....I just need to get her back to me.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): Wow! Just unplug your PC. Let her get mad. See what will happen for a while.
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reader, QOTU +, writes (13 December 2005):
 When I introduced my Grandma to my computer (ie, the game "Solitaire", "The Sims", "The Sims 2", and the internet) she always jumps on everytime she comes over.
People become curious. They're intrigued by things that are new to them.
Eventually, your wife will calm down and grow bored of it - And, like fairyangel said, Surprise her, make her feel wanted OUTSIDE of the 'net, and she'll realize that she shouldn't be so relying on it.
:-D Adios!
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reader, westy +, writes (12 December 2005):
Maybe, your wife is just curious of the internet. I recall when my mother first began to surf the net, she was on for weeks, but her interest soon died down. Stop complaing, give her some attention as well - it may be a sign for some. All in all -Grow up!
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (12 December 2005):
 This question is not at all vague to me...
You are complaining that you have lost your wife to the net...
She is not forthcoming with any attention towards you and you feel neglected.
Aaah, alas, you have a problem that seems to be quite common, actually.But WHY, tou may ask?
Well, I'm going to ask you how much attention you are giving to HER? Are you taking steps to make HER feel needed by YOU? And... when last have you surprised her with some sort of small romantic gesture?
I would like to suggest that you take a little time out to give her a bit of romance in her life,show her that you are more exiting than anything she can find on her computer, and you will find that she will reciprocate by giving you the attention you are so badly in need of.
I am sure she would not be so silly as to do anything inappropriate, like chat other men up, if she is doing it openly in front of you, and if she was, you would certainly know about it.
In the event you still receive no positive response from her after taking this advice, you could always consider pulling the plug... it just depends how desperate you get.
You Take Care Now, and set about planning a little something that she will find hard to refuse.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005): do you know what your wife is looking at one the net?? i'm sure she what she is doing is harmless, but when we get new toys, we like to explore them. it's comparable to guys and video games i think. hard to pry them away from them and the sex life sometimes suffers. i think that maybe once your wofe has had some time with the new pc, her interest in it will start to decrease, and she'll have you, her onderful husband, to come back to!
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (12 December 2005):
 Unfortunately it is hard to help find a solution when the problem is laid out in such a vague manner. She is spending all of her time on the computer, but what is she doing while she is on it? If she is researching subjects of interest it is very different than is she is chatting with other men. I would try to talk to her, find out what it is about the net that makes her want to do it all the time. See if there is some middle ground you can reach, maybe an agreed upon stop time. If she is using it as an exit for the marriage, which could include finding relationships with other men, then I would say mariage counseling might be the only way to help her find her way back. You may find that once the newness of it wears off her interest will dwindle.
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