Help! My boyfriend just threw and broke my chair! what should I do?
Q. My bf and I don’t live together but he comes to visit. We have been together over a year. He just came by and we were talking and my daughter called him stupid joking around and tapped his shoulder. He freaked out and was like do something about ...
A. 28 August 2010:
this guy is dangerous .. unless he gets serious professional help, do not let him in your life..
how would u like it if he broke your little girl's arm one or two years from now?
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I need some reassurance, please help
Q. Im so scared of losing my partner! He is so perfect and I love him lots but everyday I think what if its the last day I'm with him what if he leaves. He is the most perfect man on earth, he is loyal , loving and makes me feel special and I do not ...
A. 27 August 2010:
Just read a lot about the law of attraction! we attract what we are focusing on.. so by focusing on loosing your bf.. and having that fear haunting u, u might really attract it ! ... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 27 August 2010:
why would this even hurt?
aren't u attracted to porn yourself?
watching porn isn't cheating at all !!
it's a very natural thing to do! me and my partner watch porn sometimes together and sometimes separately and it never ever hurt us ! .. ... (read in full...)
I want this baby, But I am in love with another woman!
Q. My wife of three years, and I, have been having a rocky marriage. We were trying to have a baby, but it wasn't working due to the stress and arguing. I have a dear friend of 10 years, whom I've never dated, that I know I am in love with. We'v...
A. 26 August 2010: If u are in love with this other woman why did u get married to your wife?
please visit a therapist! divorce is a major leap to be taken without real professional help especially in your situation.. such a leap would break your neck or move u t... (read in full...)
16 and wanting to be pregnant need advice!
Q. alright, so im 16 years old, alot of people around me are all having babies or just getting pregnant,plus the fact i looooove babies,i also have a really horrible family life, and sometimes just need to know someone cares about me i know i have all ...
A. 24 August 2010:
hey there ..
u are young and sweet and life is ahead of u !
Don't even think about it .. u have what are called" stressors" in your life that would make u think that by being a mom, you will get the love you miss.
Don't .. Don't .. Don... (read in full...)
Husband left me a few months ago and can't seem to move on...
Q. We have been together for 9 years and married for 3 ,He moved out 3 months ago into a flat so i could move back in the house, he has suffered with depression in the past and has ups/down Since the beginning of this year have had quite a few ...
A. 22 August 2010:
I don't think that what happened between u too is because of another girl or something .. he is depressed and that's what depressed people do .. they pull away and be distant and want to cut all serious relationships ..
what u need is to go ... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but miss the sex with my older woman...
Q. I am a 32 year old male I have been with my partner for over 15 years, we have lived together for over 10 years and have 3 children. I had always considered our sex lives to be healthy until I met an older woman (11 years older) who is very sexual ...
A. 22 August 2010:
what should u do?
if u love your partner then stop even thinking or seeing your older woman .. she's old and wanna live the life of a cougar before it's late ..
if u don't love your partner and want a future with this older lady, then u s... (read in full...)
I was thinking I would call my ex more and see if the situation can change. There IS a complication, however.
Q. My ex and i were together for a couple of years. It was petty things that broke us up but nonetheless still important mistakes to be learned from. And I did learn from my mistakes with the time apart. I know what i would never do again. My ex and I ...
A. 20 August 2010: I think u should stop all contact until he tries to get in touch with u .. u have showed him the intention of a new changed person and a new relationship ..
if he doesn't want something that u want.. then don't get yourself too attached to the i... (read in full...)
He needs time apart... I'm scared it will ruin us!
Q. SO boyfriend broke up with me we have been togethe for 3 years, i am going to throw it out there bc i have been askign my friends for advise i need a strangers help. thing is that i got pretty annoying and desperate bc i realized i can lose him! i ...
A. 16 August 2010: u have to accept it !! accept whatever happens .. he's actually fed up with the relationship.. so I'd disappear from his life if I were u .. at least until he tries to contact you .. u should know that this is not right .. how we att... (read in full...)
My wife is very abusive towards me - please help.
Q. [OP original title] Someone please give me some advice... I have been living in an abusive relationship for nearly 15 months. I am not sure where to start because so much has happened during this time. But at the same time I am not sure how to s...
A. 15 August 2010:
1- Go to a THERAPIST ..
2- Take her to marriage counseling..
3- divorce her if it doesn't work..... (read in full...)
Love my wife so much but no desire in intimacy
Q. I have no more sex desire with my wife for the last 6 years, we have been married for almost 9 years with no children.Naturally my wife doesn't has a hot curvy body.Our intimacy only lasted for 2 years. I do have an affair outside recently, she ha...
A. 15 August 2010:
u love your wife ..
u have a perfect life with her ..
yet .. u would let her go .. just for sex?
In less than 10 years .. your sex drive will hit a low level .. then u will find out u messed up big time .. ... (read in full...)
Strong feelings for my first love...
Q. I have been married for 13 years , have 4 kids. I recently got in touch with my very first love. We had dated 3 years, when he broke up with me. This was 19 years ago. It took a long time to move on. Now, being in touch with him, I can not ...
A. 14 August 2010: Don't see him !! if u are happy with your marriage .. DON'T allow him in your life again .. it's been 15 years and u still have feelings for him? that would definitely ruin your marriage or at least your perception or feelings towards your marriage ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the texts I think are from his girlfriend?
Q. [OP original title] Hi there, So I have had a very tumultuous relationship and subsequent friendship with this guy for 2 years. Recently, with the wonderful advice from the good people on DC I have decided to just walk away. For ...
A. 11 August 2010:
this guy is really messed up ..
Don't tell him that u are getting those text messages.. he WILL think that u are trying to win him back ..
just try to ignore the messages or contact the phone company to block the sender, if that serv... (read in full...)
I want him to text me without asking him to.
Q. [OP original title] Well, there's this guy in my class that comes over at my desk everyday and we talk. And he told me to text him yesterday and so I did after I got home from school, and we talked for a while and then I texted him something and then...
A. 11 August 2010:
if u want him to contact u stop contacting and texting him too much but be friendly and outgoing ..
advice: If u want a happy emotional life, never have high expectations, and never be demanding .. just go with the flow ..... (read in full...)
He "disappeared" while in Haiti! I'm worried sick. What can I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months. things have been going quite well with us. he takes me on dates,he heips me with some if my bills,treats me like a lady. he is haitian and im african american.he is in the us army. he took a ...
A. 11 August 2010:
yes .. he might have thought of that ..
try to contact him in about 1 or 2 weeks ..
I don't think that such a nice person would cut u off without even some signals..
don't get worked up over it ..
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Can a cheat ever be trusted?
Q. I suspect I’m setting myself up for something of a beating here, but such is life.... To sum up the situation, some time over the next couple of months I will be leaving my wife. There are numerous good reasons for this, her lack of support,...
A. 11 August 2010:
Yes.. your lover went willingly into the relationship .. IF she has any doubts she would NEVER go on with the relationship after you leave your wife ..
if u really love this girl .. do what u believe is right .. if cheating is something "u... (read in full...)
Should I test again???
Q. Hello i could really use some smart advice right about now. My boyfriend and i had unprotected sex(were both clean and std free!) ;but the next day i think i got my period it was very light to the point where it didn''t even take up one pad? I had ...
A. 10 August 2010:
DO NOT GET PREGNANT ,, u don't have the slightest idea of what u are getting yourself into, honey..
just wait at least till your mid twenties ..
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My ex... or Robert???
Q. My Ex and I had separated, around two months ago, and then came along Robert. For some reason I kept on calling my Ex just to check up. I love my current Bf, but for some reason I feel as though I am still in love with my Ex. I feel guilt flowing ...
A. 10 August 2010:
if they are both not good for u, they're not the 2 men left on earth ..
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Our relationship doesn't seem as strong as it used to be... why is this?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and we are almost always long distance because of college. I can't tell if I still love him or just don't want to be alone. When he used to visit we would be all over each other, but now I ...
A. 10 August 2010:
yes .. it could be because of the birth control..
if u really love him, cared about him, and there are no problems between u too .. then u have nothing to worry about .. this feeling will be gone soon ..
however, if u continue to feel lik... (read in full...)
Married and need to feel the connection again
Q. I need some guidance, I've always considered myself a self sorter/independant/get on with it kind of girl but my current sitation has left me flumaxed! Im late 30s and been in a relationship with my husband for 15 years..married for 5 years...2 ...
A. 9 August 2010:
I think that because u r in late 30s and have been pressured at work .. and raising kids can take up all the left energy u have..
there's nothing wrong with your marriage .. it's just pressure that may have caused u to feel depressed an... (read in full...)
I can't just be her friend, I need to move on
Q. Hello. I am going thru a really bad breakup. I was in a relationship for 3 years and it ended about 4 months now. I have try everything to get her back, i even told her i wanted to be her friend just to have her close and work on my strategy...
A. 9 August 2010:
since u have tried contacting her and it didn't work .. then try the opposite: avoiding her totally ..
have fun with your new "friend".. if she can make u stop crying while thinking about your ex.. then she's the perfect rebound for u .. it ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's ex-gf is interfering in our relationship! What can I do?
Q. My fiance and I have been engaged for four months now. We are happily tra la la in love. Things are going smooth and I have NEVER been this happy with a man in my life. Here is the sitch. Before he and I met, he had dated a female for a month and ...
A. 9 August 2010:
That's so great .. it's so nice to see such a positive update .. your fiance is so understanding and caring .. no wonder why his ex is so attached to him :)
Good luck and be happy .. ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's ex-gf is interfering in our relationship! What can I do?
Q. My fiance and I have been engaged for four months now. We are happily tra la la in love. Things are going smooth and I have NEVER been this happy with a man in my life. Here is the sitch. Before he and I met, he had dated a female for a month and ...
A. 8 August 2010:
U absolutely have NOTHING to be worried about : )
she's pitiful and that is never attractive !! ..
Stop talking about it with your fiance ! it makes u look insecure and controlling !!
STOP worrying .. nothing will happen .. he on... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me after my abortion..
Q. Hi, i got pregnant, and had to do an abortion because of medical problems and also my boyfriend didn't wanted to be a father. He told me he wasn't prepared. But having so much problems because of my health and a father that didn't wanted the baby, ...
A. 7 August 2010:
He is a coward .. u need to forget about him.. he doesn't deserve u anyway..
I think that having a baby with u made him really "know" the reality of his feelings .. that he isn't ready to be a father and that he's not ready for commitment .... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does not know how to give me space!
Q. Depressed over the loss of my father, and my jealous boyfriend won't give me space! I have never been with someone who loved me so much and respected me so little. We have been together since December of last year, and my father passed away in J...
A. 6 August 2010:
It's not only him, it's the depression that makes you feel not respected .. he REALLY loves u !! he's afraid that if he gives space u will forget about him..
So u got to sit with him.. and be loving and affectionate .. tell him that u need ... (read in full...)
My ex's friend says "be careful and patient" What does he mean?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I haven't been together since 2007, and we stopped speaking early 2008 because we found it difficult, for many reasons. We have recently started talking again, and have been spending time together. We went on a night out with s...
A. 6 August 2010:
just stop thinking in about it .. I think it's the DRAMATIC friend's imagination ..
Your ex might sill love u and want to get back with u .. so be welcoming and nice .. but DO NOT keep your hopes up.. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around my boyfriend any more!
Q. Hi! First let me give you a little background. I am 26 years old. My boyfriend of 2 years got a really good job in another state, and because we were already living together and everything was perfect, there was not a question in either of our minds ...
A. 6 August 2010:
I'm happy that he asserted that he really loves u .. it's important for both of you to want to be in the same relationship .. If u r sure he doesn't want out, then all problems can be solved .. u just need to change and plan..
1- Do not complain... (read in full...)
I'm always the first one to make contact!
Q. "OP Own Title" Been with my bf for 6 months, its been going good but at a fairly slow pace which is good as I came out of a 4 year relationship before this. One thing I have noticed is that he is a very laid back chilled person and likes to enjoy ...
A. 6 August 2010:
DO NOT contact him until he calls or texts .. don't answer immediately even if hi calls or texts..
ALWAYS treat people as they treat u.. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around my boyfriend any more!
Q. Hi! First let me give you a little background. I am 26 years old. My boyfriend of 2 years got a really good job in another state, and because we were already living together and everything was perfect, there was not a question in either of our minds ...
A. 5 August 2010:
I think u have been acting like a "wife" and that what scared him and suffocated him !
The answer is to spend time away .. !! taking walks or anything ! just make sure u r so busy .. Don't do his laundry .. don't do the chores around the h... (read in full...)
My brother wont let me come to his wedding unless I have a date to bring with me!
Q. all my brothers friends will have there wives and girlfriends at his wedding so he would like me to be the same. but he said if i can't get one for saturday i can't come to his wedding. well it looks like i won't be going became i get one. i've ...
A. 4 August 2010: I think that your brother is kindly trying to push you to meet women !! because I can't think of any other excuse for him ! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants an open relationship! What should I do?
Q. Apologies if this is too long! So... heres my story. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a month. and I'm not going to lie, it has been a heck of a roller coaster. I guess I'm clutching at straws in this relationship because ...
A. 4 August 2010:
my advice is not to change for any one .. tell him that u won't accept that.. if he can't be in a monogamous relationship then he can leave because it will not be working .. having sex every 2 months isn't healthy ..
Please think about your... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to cope with my partner's depression....
Q. I'm 26, he's 27 and we've been together almost 2 years. Basically, he's suffering from severe depression, and I'm having difficulty coping with the situation. He's just been made redundant from the 2nd job in 6 months, and it's just exacerbated...
A. 3 August 2010: I'm facing the same problem ..
I need advice as well, on how to DEAL with him ..personally .. should I call? should I always initiate contact? he seems like he doesn't wanna call and most of the time he doesn't answer my calls !
yet he doesn'... (read in full...)
Sex is nonexistent with my husband, so I have an affair. Should I leave my marriage?
Q. I am going to try to make this long story as short as possible. I've been married for over 36 years and have 2 grown children. My husband and I have been together since high school. He was my first real love. I built everything around him. We have ...
A. 2 August 2010:
how about u try couples therapy with your husband before trying to leave?
he maybe depressed and that's why he doesn't show any affection.. ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to an uncaring boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my boy almost 3 years now. In the beginning everything was amazing, i fell deeply in love with him and we couldn't take our hands off each other. At the time we both felt like we had truly found the one. After probably 18 mont...
A. 27 July 2010: Only you can help yourself .. YOU are NOT his mother to feel obligated to fix him !!!
You've been with him for 3 years and only 18 months of that time is good?!
COME ON .. You are too young to handle this kind of problems .. to hell with him... (read in full...)
He Says He Wants Space - Does He Want to See Other People? What Doesit Mean?
Q. My bf and i have been really good lately but he told me he would like some space. First of all, what does that mean? i mean does he want to see his friends more? hang out with other girls? im just so confused on what he means by space.. We dont...
A. 27 July 2010:
I think that SPACE is really space !! May be he was spending too much time with you ..
Space as men mean, is merely: " Let me call you, give me a chance to miss you."
So.. Do so!... (read in full...)
I'm going to lose her if I don't stop being so needy and clingy...has anyone out there done that?
Q. Guys, what can one do to become less needy and clingy? if you read my previous question you will see my issue, were back together, I want to change back to the person i was a few years back. I have to change now or i will lose my girlfriend who i do ...
A. 27 July 2010: You have to bring yourself into believing that u have to change for yourself, first .. then for anyone else .. being clingy is something that u don't want to be .. not just because you are afraid of getting dumped by your gf ..
I guess that bei... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 27 July 2010: I really think that u should ask a doctor about that .. but whether the reason is low testosterone levels or clinical depression, you won't have anything to do unless he admits that he has a psychological/physical problem..
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What happened to the loving man I married?
Q. My husband swears he is not having an affair, so why does he get defensive and over react to everything I say.? He also avoids making love, and recently has stopped even giving me a 'cuddle' when I ask for one.When I try to talk seriously to him ...
A. 27 July 2010:
try to read about depression .. I think that he might be depressed .. he sounds like my bf .. who was loving and caring .. now he can't give a damn even if he saw me upset about something or even crying !
It went undetected .. I recently fou... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 25 July 2010:
I'm glad u r starting to move on.. but don't you think u should see someone about it? I mean the agony of being left then taking care of a cancer patient relative who is the same person, is really devastating! Your kids are great but you shou... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 24 July 2010: it's been almost 6 months now .. how are u holding up?... (read in full...)
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