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writes:My bf and i have been really good lately but he told me he would like some space.First of all, what does that mean? i mean does he want to see his friends more? hang out with other girls? im just so confused on what he means by space..We dont live together but he spends most of his time at my house. It upsets me he wants space but i think im taking it all the wrong way, like he wants to see other people and be in other relationships.Someone help me before i go crazy!Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Practical  +, writes (27 July 2010):
I think that SPACE is really space !! May be he was spending too much time with you ..
Space as men mean, is merely: " Let me call you, give me a chance to miss you."
So.. Do so!
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reader, Lotsalove.  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 You said he spends most of his time at your house? Are you the kind of couple that live in each other's pockets? Do you even see your friends anymore? Your boyfriend more than likely loves you, but you just wants some time to himself. it's not a bad thing, infact it could make you stronger.
Definetely find out 'why' he wants the space? But dont nag. When he does take time away from you, do your best not to contact him unless he does first. Space means physically, emotionally and technology. So refrain from texting/calling/email/facebook etc. IF however, afterwards he says he doesnt want to be with you anymore/didnt miss you. You should dig deeper as to why? Check theres not anyone else invovled? But its more than likely he just wants some time with his friends and to himself, and he'll realise how much he missed you. If that is the case, just make sure you both have time for your friends aswell as each other.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 Things maybe got too much for him too quickly...Maybe he wasn't expecting it to get serious, or to spend so much time together...You have a right to know the boundaries, but don't pester him. Ask him once, where you stand, and what brought on this need for space - and make it clear you will give him space and let him come to you when he is ready
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