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writes:I have no more sex desire with my wife for the last 6 years, we have been married for almost 9 years with no children.Naturally my wife doesn't has a hot curvy body.Our intimacy only lasted for 2 years.I do have an affair outside recently, she has hot body and our sex is excellent. She is in her mid 40's.I felt she is a little old for me, 5 years older than me. She is single and we get along very well.My wife and me get very well in everything except "sex" we have no intimacy for 6 years but I love her very much.She knew I have an affair out there but she can accept and forgive me.I tried not to contact the woman but when it came to sex I am so addicted to her.Should I let my wife go and be with the woman or any other alternative?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): It depends....sometimes sexual desires can decrease (pregnancy, stress, martial issues and etc). You cited that your wife was never all that attractive and that the intimacy was never really all that hot to begin with YET you married her anyways. How you start is how you finish...doesn't seem like you started on the right foot, therefore you are ending on the wrong foot.
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reader, lexicon +, writes (15 August 2010):
lexicon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf not to leave her without intimacy, you think is possible for a marriage? This happens before the woman came into the picture. Please advice, is it common that no matters how hot the woman is, sex desire eventually will decreased after sometime?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): You may love your wife, but not deeply...which is why you resorted to cheating. It's not your wife's fault per say that you are not attracted to her. You knew when you married your wife that she didn't have a "hot body" therefore, bringing this fact up as if it has been some sort of "problem" that has occured recently is a way of placing the blame elsewhere.
Maybe you married your wife because, she is a great woman and she offered you security and comfort. There is no way you could be "deeply in love" with your wife because, if you were, you wouldn't have cheated on her, nor would you been pondering whether or not to divorce her.
You are a cheater--it's that simple and you have wasted 9 years of your wife's life as a result of your unstable emotions and superfical needs.
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reader, Practical  +, writes (15 August 2010):
u love your wife ..
u have a perfect life with her ..
yet .. u would let her go .. just for sex?
In less than 10 years .. your sex drive will hit a low level .. then u will find out u messed up big time ..
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reader, Philosophyzer  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Do you really grasp the fact that you are INCREDIBLY lucky to have a woman that takes you back after having cheated on her? Oh, and I assume that the cheating hasn't stopped, has it? Shame on you.
The woman you love is still there, even if she isn't this attractive goddess. Either you love her and want to be with her or you don't. Being with someone is much deeper than just having sex. Frankly, you don't even sound guilty. You just sound like you are seeking approval to leave your wife. Well, leave her. She deserves better. Sorry if that is harsh, but what you are putting her through is not fair.
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