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writes: I am a 32 year old male I have been with my partner for over 15 years, we have lived together for over 10 years and have 3 children. I had always considered our sex lives to be healthy until I met an older woman (11 years older) who is very sexual and demands are plenty and sex is amazing, we both love what each other have in the sex departments. We have known each other for years and just decided to try it out. we have sex twice a day and she does more than my partner if you know what I mean. After a year now we decided to knock it on the head but i really miss it and she always said if you want to start up again just ask. what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 If he's got balls roysten then wouldn't he tell his girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): perhaps ask your common law wife and mother of your kids what to do. to continue banging this free for all woman or keep your pants zipped?
Your choice really, and no matter what anyone here says, you are so blase about this, nothing will matter. just a lot of advice but no backbone from you to carry it out and do the right thing.
-LoveGirl
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reader, roysten  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Its all well and good kicking this guy but at least he's got the balls to say what's happening.
Relationships can recover from cheating episodes if you lay it all on the table but that's hard to gauge without knowing more about the two of you and your relationship.
You could try and explain your sexual needs to your Partner, Its not going to fix what you have done but fuck it , what have you to loose? Somehow I doubt you tried to understand her needs in bed in the same way... try to cennect with her anew in bed. If your not getting what you need from her sexaully after an HONEST appraisal and effort to meet halfway then you have a choice to make.
Continuing with the mistress is one choise, but know that your a rendering insignificat the LIFE of the woman who loves you. She will be crushed by this and the world will loose all meaning, man you might even loose access to your kids.
And make no mistake, you WILL get caught eventually.
Your not necessarily a bad person, despite what people say, we all have needs and I dont know the details... just do the right thing now, make a go of it with the partener and if after honest effort you cant be happy then there is no shame in making an adult descision to change up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): You're nothing but a cheater, and then you expect us to feel sorry for you? Maybe you should have worked on your first relationship instead of turning to someone else.
I agree with Aunty Em. You need to tell her what you did and then leave her to find someone who really cares about her. Unfortunately, the ones that will be hurt the most are your innocent children.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 You should leave your partner and kids and go with the older woman. Your a cheat and will always remain so, your partner deserves to be with someone who isn't lying to her and having sex 'twice a day'!! with someone else. I wonder how she would feel if she found out that your penis has been inside another woman and then you went home and had sex with her??? What if you gave her a sexually transmitted disease (not all diseases can be avoided by using a condom) How lovely!!! for the mother of your children!!
You seriously need to go away and quickly. You could continue to lie of course, but the 'cougar' will eventually spill the beans out of jealousy or blackmail or worse...and then your kids are going to grow up with the knowledge that their father was playing their mother for a fool. You have already wrecked your family life and any trust for the future. Your tainted and you need to leave the poor woman to rebuild her life.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Ugh, horny trev are you aware you cheated on your girlfriend? If your not happy with your sex life with your girlfriend then let her go before you hurt her and how it will affect your kids. If you love your girlfriend then I would tell her what happened and hopefully you can put it behind you and move on. Do you want this mistress, or do you want you girlfriend whom you can teach an old dog new tricks?
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reader, Practical  +, writes (22 August 2010):
what should u do?
if u love your partner then stop even thinking or seeing your older woman .. she's old and wanna live the life of a cougar before it's late ..
if u don't love your partner and want a future with this older lady, then u should break up with your gf ..
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