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I give away advice that is logical, practical, and most importantly... THE TRUTH. the down right truth. I am not the traditional type as to where I give advice "dont do this and that because you are TOO YOUNG." "don't say this or say that because it's disrespectful to your elder"
I don't believe in traditional manners because you are a certain age. If someone is disrespecting you, young, old, your parents' however, give them the same as they bistowed upon you.
Giving advice is not telling them what to do and not what to do, you give them options of what's right and wrong, what they could do and not to do.
Because at the end it's their CHOICE of what they should do and what's right for them. It's their own personal choice, so you can't give out advice by demanding of what you want them to do.
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There's this boy I like, but does he like me?
Q. There’s this boy that I like and im not sure if he likes me. I don't want to ask him and i'm way to shy to ask him anyway. I would just like an honest opinion so I know. Here are some of the signs: He stares at me a lot from the other side...
A. 11 March 2009: He would put his head down because he is VERY shy guy around some one that he MUST like very much... Ya, he likes you. (actions speak louder than words)
it seems like he is trying to impress you by acting all tough around his friend and when you ... (read in full...)
His texts suggests that he likes me but I'm not sure... any advice?
Q. I would like to ask for advice if thats okay! I like this guy... he is very shy, well, not shy as such... just quiet... and so does not talk to anyone particularly a lot (except to the lads when they're goofing about). We talk more in text than we ...
A. 2 March 2009: Without face to face conversation, you will not go anywhere with this guy.
I say cut down on the texting and more in person.
He seems shy around you, and he would only say something to you or about you in front of you if his buddies say somethin... (read in full...)
Can I trust him or have I made fool of myself?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago.. his names James. Now I met him in a local pub whilst I was singing on the karaoke he was the karaoke man. I had a few to drink and when I was singing we started holding hands etc. Little did I know his ...
A. 2 March 2009: We all do foolish things for a little affection, and something that "what could be."
you might feel like a fool for this, but heck you didn't know until you saw with your own eyes.
You said it yourself, I'm not looking for a liar and cheater.... (read in full...)
I like my friend's brother and she doesn't want me to like him.
Q. I have been talking to one of my best friend's brother for a little while and he asked me out (I said yes) but he is grounded and his parents took away his car until he graduates so he has to wait a month till I get my license to go out with me but ...
A. 2 March 2009: You are old enough to decide who you like and dislike, or who you have crush on or you don't... No friend should ever demand you not to talk to her brother.
You should tell her in the most mature way, that she cannot be deciding for you anym... (read in full...)
He made up a story that a was seen cheating. Why would he do that?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been arguing for the last couple of months over the same things over and over. After finally talking everything over and analyzing our relationship we have decided to stay together and work things out. We had a long ...
A. 2 March 2009: it's either he is paranoid that you are cheating behind his back, or he is finding some kind of excuse to break up with you?
if he is paranoid of you cheating, then there must be something in his past that screwed him really bad, became dist... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me? or just being friendly?
Q. Hi. On Friday I went to the pub and met a friend then got talking to a female friends of my friend. We spoke for ages about loads of stuff, laughed together etc. I then brought out my notepad to show my friend some musical material of mine...
A. 2 March 2009: This girl has big body language on you. so you should also look into that but not too much you can overanalyze.
just keep it cool. don't take it too seriously. that's all.
this should be easy.... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me? or just being friendly?
Q. Hi. On Friday I went to the pub and met a friend then got talking to a female friends of my friend. We spoke for ages about loads of stuff, laughed together etc. I then brought out my notepad to show my friend some musical material of mine...
A. 2 March 2009: She is interested.
With girls they give out the most outrageous body language.
It sounds like the whole night with her was a blast. And it also sounds like you put on the right moves on this gal.
Just keep it casual, since it's only the beg... (read in full...)
He won't respond to my text message about talking and it's REALLY frustrating me!
Q. He won't respond to my text message about talking. I don't understand this. Why not a yes no or a maybe. If we wait any longer to talk about this misunderstanding there won't be anything to talk about. I have never been with an a man who won't ...
A. 2 March 2009: Okay maybe two can play that game, but does two wrong make a right? NO.
You should be the better person, be the mature one in this situation. You should response casually. say you were in the meeting and now you are done, Then you ask "Are you read... (read in full...)
I'm really messed up over the ex
Q. My girlfriend of about a year broke up with me a few months ago. We went to different colleges and a few months in she decided she couldnt handle having a boyfriend. School, basketball, and other things were keeping her too busy and so she decided ...
A. 2 March 2009: What are you a puppet on the string? NO. you have feelings too you know.
Think about it, she is mixed in with you and that other dude. She is more than likely confused. And not taking it too well.
She even called it quits the first time because ... (read in full...)
He won't respond to my text message about talking and it's REALLY frustrating me!
Q. He won't respond to my text message about talking. I don't understand this. Why not a yes no or a maybe. If we wait any longer to talk about this misunderstanding there won't be anything to talk about. I have never been with an a man who won't ...
A. 2 March 2009: HOLY CRAP! then it is time to talk to one another. Two weeks? He holds alot of grudge.
you are right he probably is punishing you probably for nothing.
When you guys do talk, tell him everything in the most genuwine way you can, not coming o... (read in full...)
Father says he can't go to college because of me..what can I do?
Q. hey. this may be a bit long it needs a bit of explaining. well basically i love my dad to pieces, he was always the best thing in my life, fun, rebellious everything my mother wasnt. i knew he had his flaws but i ignored them as you do when you were ...
A. 2 March 2009: That's messed up of your father that he said that to you. He couldn't go to college and finish because of you, and it's even worse of HOW he said it to you. Obviously you are hurt from it, so he must of complained about why he didn't finish.
B... (read in full...)
The darn back door
Q. Dear Cupid, Hi I'm 15 years old and my parents are fairly strict. I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for about 6 months now and Ive seen him in person once before I moved and that was the first month of us going out and more about when it ...
A. 2 March 2009: Sometimes, parents could get very overprotective of their kids especially when it's their daughter, such as yourself.
Does your parents know that he comes over? or not? because you got me confused at the end.?
alot of times parents can punish y... (read in full...)
He won't respond to my text message about talking and it's REALLY frustrating me!
Q. He won't respond to my text message about talking. I don't understand this. Why not a yes no or a maybe. If we wait any longer to talk about this misunderstanding there won't be anything to talk about. I have never been with an a man who won't ...
A. 2 March 2009: Being in a relationship is all about COMMUNICATION. You need communication to discuss whatever that was a miscommunication and misunderstanding. What can you do in your power to get him to talk to you at least text you? NOTHING. so let him deal wit... (read in full...)
Do guys take rejection to heart?
Q. do guys take rejection to heart.becasue a guy asked me out and i said no.this was few years ago.and i meet him recently and he still mad at me becasue i said when he asked me.i actually did like the guy but i didn,t know if he saw me as friend or ...
A. 2 March 2009: Guys can be sensitive. This one is obviously sensitive about the rejection a few years back.
If you want to clear the air with him then let him why you rejected him then. Maybe that will help him too.
And who says there ISN'T a second chance t... (read in full...)
I think my friend likes my b/f, what do I do about this?
Q. im 13 and so is my boyfriend.my friend tells me she doesn't like him but I don't believe her because she always feels on him when she hugs him and kisses him on the cheek and says I love you.she tells me its only like a brother sister thing but ...
A. 2 March 2009: Do what you gotta do... tell her straight up. no holding back. basically 'BACK OFF' not in a rude way but be mature as you can be without having to fight.
but for now, you should tell her!
And the thing I don't know if your man let's your friend f... (read in full...)
All of his friends say he likes me, but I don't know whether his does?
Q. Hi Basically I have this little problem. For the past 3 years I was seeing this guy a lot younger than me. It was a very nerve wrecking relationship and we split up 7 months ago. Just recently, this guy who is older than me told me he liked m...
A. 2 March 2009: I could totally understand why you kept your guard up with this new guy, it's only normal to do so because you don't want to get hurt again. I mean who wants to get hurt again?
NO ONE.
I'm not too sure if he knows about you and your ex's break up... (read in full...)
Was his comment out of fear or a true reflection of how he feels about me?
Q. I have been dating this man now for about 2 months. We are both divorced. I have an 8 year old son and he has two teenage sons. We always get along great. He tells me he cares about me and he acts as if he does. He told me a while back that he wou...
A. 2 March 2009: This one is hard to say since the both of you only has been dating for two months. And if this is just the beginning of something big, you and him should take it slow. two months, dating, and talking about all the wonderful stuff to come with you ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my b/f I want to break up? I don't wish to hurt him!
Q. I need to end things with my live-in boyfriend. This situation may sound totally screwed up but it's my life. I've come to except that nothing in life is easy. But to get to my story. I am currently living with my boyfriend. I love him he is a great ...
A. 2 March 2009: Breaking up with some one is never easy. It's pretty tough to actually go on and do it. It's even harder before you do it, because of all the possibilities that might happen and what might he do afterwards, when you do say the break up speech. If ... (read in full...)
What do you think? I don't want to be the girl he cheats on his g/f with!
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 2 March 2009: Let's be logical here!
Okay so yes, obviously both of you guys have a crush on each other since HIGH SCHOOL, it's wonderful to finally get to know that person that you have a crush on since. I mean for a long time.
However, reality is... he does ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for treating him like this and he keeps on forgiving me, what is wrong with me?
Q. I moved to Denmark half a year ago to be with my absoloutely wonderful boyfriend. but I have been acting strangely lately towards him I can't understand why or where that comes from. I was very depressed for some time because I had no friends, the ...
A. 28 February 2009: I've done this to my boyfriend who I am still with now. During the first 2-3 years of our relationship, I got very drunk and did stupid things where it lead to us fighting, arguing and to the point where he almost called it quits because of my ... (read in full...)
He doesn't get it! I don't feel the same way!
Q. So I met someone online (in an online game), we had talked for almost a month as friends and then we decided to just hang out. Come to find out, he left his girlfriend of 5 years, whom he was living with, for me. I was not happy to hear that, we ...
A. 27 February 2009: Can I say "bug a boo!" three times.
- I would have to agree with the answers with this one.
change your phone number, block all his calls, don't answer don't text back NO NOTHING.
take him off of your online friend's list. block his communicatio... (read in full...)
Why is this relationship so hard to handle? I'm so confused.
Q. I'm 20 years old,and I just wonder why relationship is so hard to handle.I've met a guy a month ago,and he seems like a gentleman and so polite to me. All close friends all told me he seems to like me a lot.He seems like a honest person and not a ...
A. 27 February 2009: This is going to be tough for you, I could already picture it! And if he is serious about leaving going back to his country, you have to be well prepared emotionally.
To make this easier on yourself, you should start letting go now. (easier said... (read in full...)
My b/f of 3 years is losing his sex drive and I'm not getting my needs met! What can I do?
Q. ok so i have a horrible problem. my bf of almost 3 years is loosing his sex drive and im not getting my needs met . when he is in the mood i take care of him and i dont get anything. im going crazy i know hes not cheating. his sex drive is just ...
A. 27 February 2009: Hmm. You are at that stage where your hormones are yerning more than ever. how old is he anyway? guys lose sex drive around mid to late 20's, and it all depends when he started being ACTIVE because if he started early he'll lose it early for mos... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility that I can get back with her?
Q. We been couple for 2 years and we broke up because my parents didn't agree with her. Every day we always met each other, we are like the best couple in church. So I told her that I'm sorry I can't take you any more, but I still love you. Her heart ...
A. 27 February 2009: First off, what is your parents' got to do with your personal life with relationships with other girls? You are over 18 years old and I think you deserve to be heard, be respected, and deserve to live your own ADULT life. right? Regardless of your ... (read in full...)
I feel more like a roommate than a lover
Q. My boyfriend and I just bought a house and moved in together, about 3 weeks ago. Before this we were living seperately with our parents. We saw each other often and the relationship was everything I could ask for, but since we have moved together ...
A. 27 February 2009: ahh. BF AND GF living together situation is totally opposite of living apart. You should of already been aware of what might to come when you do move in with him.
It feels very different living with your boyfriend. I moved in with my bf and it did ... (read in full...)
How do you tell your partner you aren't happy with the sex?
Q. How do you talk to a partner/lover about your unhappiness with the sexual aspect of your relationship? I have some issues with my girlfriend, and I feel like I need to talk to her about them, but the more I think about it the more I feel like an a...
A. 27 February 2009: haha. I know how you feel.
Majority of the couples here are never satisfied with sex, Unfortunately.
So try this:
Without actually telling her your issues in bed, why don't you do it indirectly by maybe planning a night on the town, have dinner,... (read in full...)
Do drunken mistakes really exist?
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship, in which we just went through a period of saving it. We came clean about everything we had done, and he told me he had slept with one of his best friends, who was also living in the room next to him ...
A. 27 February 2009: he was too quick to judge after the break up, he quickly got drunk and physically rebounded with someone else that night to prevent from thinking of what just happened. the break up! to me, it was as if he was yelling out in his head "finally... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about this old friend far more than I should... Advice please!
Q. i have been with my girlfried for five years and I recently came in contact with an old friend who we used to hang out as friends with a group of people on the weekends but now after a few weeks I've been thinking about her non stop I want to tell ...
A. 26 February 2009: This one sounds pretty harsh and frustrating for you ay?
If i was in this position I would be asking the same question.
you just gotta trust yourself to ask your questions...
do i value me and my girlfriend's 5 year relationship?
do i love h... (read in full...)
I love her so much it hurts!
Q. I love her so much it hurts. We went out for a few months and then she randomly dumped me. Now her friends are saying she really doesnt care about me in any way what so ever anymore. Its it tearing me up for her to do this. she has never ever been ...
A. 26 February 2009: With me.. I love rubbing it in when it comes to this point. I like to rub it in his face that I have moved on... by smiling, laughing, and having fun with your friends.
And if you have a friend that is also friends with her, you should never ask ... (read in full...)
How to ask about second date without being pushy?
Q. I went to the cinema with this guy last Monday, we had a great time. He text me the same night saying how good it was and suggested going out again. i text back agreeing. The next day he seemed less flirty online and I mentioned about going out ...
A. 26 February 2009: You sound persistant on this one. you should just let it come naturally. go with the flow. and if you decide to call him or contact him in anyway to ask, I's suggest over the phone so that he could hear you ask him out again instead of IMing hi... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied, should I start looking elsewhere?
Q. Basically went on the first date, Couldn't of gone any better, We chatted for 2.5hrs then we walked for a bit and found a place to sit there we kissed for 2.5 hrs, Then i walked her to her car holding hands, Text her on Monday to see what she is ...
A. 26 February 2009: HMMM. I would have to say that you should just give it some time. perhaps, she is busy with work, school, family etc... if it's just thursday then wait until tomorrow. call her friday afternoon and ask. dont text. she should hear you ask personal... (read in full...)
He wants it hard and fast and I am a virgin and he knows but doesn't care! Please help!
Q. okay. this is really scary to me so someone please give me some advice. i have a boyfriend, he is 18. i'm a little younger than him, hehe. anyways we want to have sex. he knows i am a virgin.... he wants me to be on my hands and knees when we do it. ...
A. 26 February 2009: Ok first and foremost is this what you would like to do with him and if you are ready please ask yourself twice. Now for those questions: 1.) it's going to be a little uncomfortable and a little painful. it does not hurt that much. i don't ... (read in full...)
He seems to have cooled things but I don't want this to end.
Q. Hello :) Me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship and get on really well. He used to live near me and go to the same school, but he moved and we didn't want to end it. He makes me laugh so much and I make him laugh too. He's really s...
A. 26 February 2009: Ahhh! What can us girls do right?
I am going to be honest with you girl! Long distant relationship does not last. it's very unfortunate that he did move when you two got along so very well, it sounds like it. it does suck.
When a guy starts g... (read in full...)
I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?
Q. im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?...
A. 26 February 2009: I lost my virginity at 16 with a guy that I went out with for four years, he was my first of EVERYTHING. but unfortunately it didn't work out for infidelity on his part
Now that I am in a serious relationship with someone new I wished to have wait... (read in full...)
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