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writes:I met this guy about a month ago.. his names James. Now I met him in a local pub whilst I was singing on the karaoke he was the karaoke man. I had a few to drink and when I was singing we started holding hands etc. Little did I know his girlfreind was sitting right behind us and she was watching us. She didn't seem to have a problem at all. (I didn't know at the time). Anyway before I went, he asked for my number and me thinking I could have a chance with this guy gave him my number.The Friday after, he text me saying " are you coming down the karaoke tonight" so after the rugby I went with my mates to the pub. We had a nice little chat and I sat on his lap, we had a kiss etc and everyone was saying how he hadn't stopped talking about me all week but then he received a text whilst we were talking.I asked him who it was and he said it was his ex, that he had finished the Sunday after he met me. Now his ex was there again this Friday and she kept running out crying but when I approached her she said it was nothing to do with me and James?Later that night I caught a woman about 20 years older than him sitting on his lap outside and they seemed pretty cosy. As soon as I came out she got up and went back in. I asked him what was going on, he revealed that he'd been having an affair with this woman for about three months but that night he finished it cos only then he realized it wasn't fair on her husband!! He seemed like such a lovley lad.. and I said I'm not looking for a liar and a cheater, I want nice honest man but he said he'd changed and he would work hard for me cos he thinks I'm amazing??Can I trust him or have I made a complete FOOL of myself?? Help.. Be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh Amazing Advice thank you very much People.
I will do exactly that xx
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reader, Plutonious  +, writes (2 March 2009):
We all do foolish things for a little affection, and something that "what could be."
you might feel like a fool for this, but heck you didn't know until you saw with your own eyes.
You said it yourself, I'm not looking for a liar and cheater.
problem solved.
And dont you think its took quick to judge to trust him or not? He obviously is messing around, and you two only met that night right?
That's pretty dumb of him to lead you on like that.
he is in desperate need for a new attention with someone else. And I hope you won't be it.
to me you shouldn't trust this guy. he sounds like a wanker.
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reader, cella  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 hi well 1st of all i dont think you are a fool,but i do think he has shown his colours of being quite the ladies man very quickly,and i doubt he will change over night,he may in time,but can you handle being hurt like his ex had been,in the meantime? I can say time can tell,but if you started off this way its the sign of a recipe for disaster.cella
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