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writes:My boyfriend and I have been arguing for the last couple of months over the same things over and over. After finally talking everything over and analyzing our relationship we have decided to stay together and work things out. We had a long discussion about what ticks us off and what we both want from each other we were doing so well just hanging out and spending time together, we both were working to please each other and take each other into consideration until out of nowhere one morning I get a phone call at work from my boyfriend saying that someone had told him that I was cheating on him and that they had seen me with another person! He didn't want to tell me who that person was or how the situation came about. I told him everything was a lie because I live with my boyfriend and I don't go anywhere without him. I work all day and come home to him, I love him and want to be with him otherwise I wouldn't be wasting my time dealing with him if I wanted to be with someone else, I would just leave. We don't have any kids so there's nothing holding me back except that I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. At the end of an emotional drama scene he admitted that he made the whole thing up because he has a feeling that I'm with somebody else. Can somebody please help me understand why he does this?
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reader, Plutonious +, writes (2 March 2009):
it's either he is paranoid that you are cheating behind his back, or he is finding some kind of excuse to break up with you?
if he is paranoid of you cheating, then there must be something in his past that screwed him really bad, became distrustful person. Accusing you of cheating...
If that is the case, you should tell him the most valuable thing that you have done for him, for a good example you coming home to him after work, always being with him. and most importantly you should mention this question, "DO I HAVE A REASON TO CHEAT?" "Tell me one good reason as to why you think I would cheat?"
Like I said for one, his past is still haunting him that is reflecting on you, two, he probably needs reassurance from you considering the fact that you two just had a previous fight, maybe being more opened to him of how you feel about him should give him some kind confirmation that you appreciate him, love him, etc.
Maybe you two need a little more talking. Improve the communication without FIGHTING.
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (2 March 2009):
 He loves you and he's scared of losing you and this was just his way of making sure you loved him enough that you would not do that to him, ya it's kinda stupid but be realistic, most of us guys are and a lot of us get really jealous so just for now forget about it and well if it happens again dump him.
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