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writes: I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him and now he has my cell phone number and told me he will give me a call sometime this week to hang out. Now he seems to really want to hang out with me and I do too but there's one problem... He has a girlfriend!!! Okay I accepted so he picked me up saturday night very late because he ws at the library studying before. He is going to become a doctor. We have never talked in high school before more than a hello and we both knew each other's name. When he picked me up and we started talking he said that he's always had a crush on me in high school but never had the nerves to come up to me and talk to me specially cuz I didn't speak any English. I was so happy to hear that he liked me so I told him I alwas had a crush on him too. We immidiately clicked. We got alone very well it seemed so natural and i wasn't bored like in the other dates I've been going to. hen we parked at a park and he asked "will it be out of line if I asked to kis you"? and I said ummmmm..... but you have a girlfriend!!! and he said i know i know!. It was kind of awkward. He said he wantsto move to this island i forgot the name of it, but that him and his girlfriend won't last because he doesn't do the long distance thing. He also said that his parents wanna move to Cali and that he can't go because of school and he will HAVE to get his own place and then he said sort of jokinly "we can be roomates" I just laughed. He said he wants to take me out to eat nxt time and I said okay. He dropped me off and then he texted me a minute later saying "I def wanna do this again soon. Ur amazing. I had fun" so I textedhim back saying Aww yuo're so cute. I always had a crush on since since freshman year in high school. I would've kissed you in a heart beat but you know that wouldn't be right. Let's just be friends hang out and see where it goes". He said i would like that very much good night. So what do you guys think about the whole thing? don't wanna just be the girl he's chating on his girldfrind with. I like him alot. I don't wanna be just a booty call. What do I do? I will really appreciate it if males answered this too. I want a guy's advice.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (3 March 2009):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question but thanks so much for your advice you were very heplful
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (3 March 2009):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah that was another concern I had. If he's trying to cheat on her now he might cheat on me too. I think I will always be paranoid about him if we end up together.
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (2 March 2009):
Good. You have it covered: You don't want to be his booty call. Re-read the previous sentences a few times in case it didn't sink in. Got it? Good.
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reader, Plutonious +, writes (2 March 2009):
Let's be logical here!
Okay so yes, obviously both of you guys have a crush on each other since HIGH SCHOOL, it's wonderful to finally get to know that person that you have a crush on since. I mean for a long time.
However, reality is... he does have girlfriend, they are not officially broken up yet, so just cool it for a while. Just strictly be friends, it's harder to be done than to be said, How can you be friends when it's more than that at this point right?
Just back off, not completely, but you just have to have that limit with yourself, and be self aware in this situation because ya you don't want to be that GIRL that messed around with behind his girlfriend's back.
most importantly, CHOOSE your words wisely, you don't want to give him mix signals when one day you are flirty with him then the next you dont.
Make your words short and simple, yet treat it more just a friend thing than be flirty.
I've been there before, and I felt bad for doing so... I felt kind of like trash.
You also have to remind him that "Oh wait a minute, you are still with your girl, I don't think i could kiss you yet, or I don't think i could even go out to dinner with you."
But in the long run, if or when you guys do end up officially together, what makes u think he won't do it again? (seeing someone behind your back)
Time will tell if he really is loyal and committed to you. So there, it's a risk you are going to take.
For now, I would say cool it.
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