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writes:HiBasically I have this little problem. For the past 3 years I was seeing this guy a lot younger than me. It was a very nerve wrecking relationship and we split up 7 months ago.Just recently, this guy who is older than me told me he liked me and my heart skipped a beat. He is just lovely. We texted for a while and arranged to meet up on a date, but due to his job, on the night he got called away (which I completely understood as he works for the ambulance service). I thought he was not interested, but then for the next week, he texted me but not as much as he used to. I then saw him recently, and we kissed, but he said he wasn't happy with me playing hard to get and he thought I didn't like him. Yesterday, I told him how I felt which was that I really liked him, but down to the fact I hurt before, I put up my barriers slightly. I texted him today, but still get very little back. I really like him and don't know what to do! All of his friends say he likes me, but I don't know whether his does.Please help me! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): All his friends say he really likes me but he ex broke his heart and he is confused. I had my heart broken too so I completely understand where he is coming from. I have never lied nor cheated on anyone. How should i play this?
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reader, Plutonious  +, writes (2 March 2009):
I could totally understand why you kept your guard up with this new guy, it's only normal to do so because you don't want to get hurt again. I mean who wants to get hurt again?
NO ONE.
I'm not too sure if he knows about you and your ex's break up 7 months ago, and why you are keeping your guard up.
if he doesn't know then the right thing to do is make him understand why you are playing hard to get game with him.
If all of his friends are telling you that he does like you, then he does.
The reason why u r not sure if he likes you or not because he is the one playing the games too. He is throwing you off on purpose. It seems as though since you were playing hard to get, why can't he? And there's always a reason why he is doing it to you too... Perhaps, deep inside he really really likes you, but since you are playing hard to get, he is also keeping that guard up just to act as if he could do or do without u.when really he can't resist.
OR
he could just be also scared, preparing for the worse, if you tell him you dont want to be more than just friends than it would only be easier for him to move on.
so I think for all in fairness, you should tell him why you kept your guard up with him, then maybe he'll understand.
but if he already KNOWS what happened 7 months ago then that's a different story.
If he knew your situation with your ex, and why you are keeping the guard up then he should be more than considerate to give you that little space, and respect your decision.
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