How do I accept my gf's promiscuous past if I've only been with her?
Q. I've seen a few questions on here that are similar to mine, but I think mine has a special little twist on it. My girlfriend, whom I've been with for 6 years, has a very promiscuous past. Around 40 - 50, she can't remember exactly. And before her ...
A. 22 November 2010: Although I don't dispute that you have pain, I agree with the other posters here that it is your problem, not hers. My advice:
- Give up the alcohol and drugs. Totally. This is part of the problem and will only make things worse as time goes... (read in full...)
I love "IT" he literally hates "IT"
Q. okay i'm 19 and i married a 30 year old.(yea i know i'm crazy). but as a child i was sexually abused for 10 years strait and now i can't go a day with out getting off at least once. now here is the problem my husband has literally told me that he ...
A. 26 February 2010: Actually, needing "IT" once a day is very normal. I know I do. End it and move on.... (read in full...)
Straight man with homoerotic thoughts?
Q. I'm straight but I've recently questioned my sexuality because I started liking penis. I don't think I have homosexual tendencies because I have absolutely no "emotional" or "romantic" attraction towards men and don't want to start a relationship ...
A. 19 February 2010: Try sucking yourself - it wouldn't be gay and you would fulfill your fantasy.
Seriously, don't worry about it. We have all kinds of thoughts about doing various things: stealing a car we like, killing someone we hate, quitting work and being a ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get past her sexual past?
Q. i met the women i love about a year and a half ago we are both 26. the problem is that she told me her past i did not want to know ever but she talked about it and anyway she slept with 13 guys thats including me that was with in 3 years.i have b...
A. 19 February 2010: What bothers me is her propensity for drinking.....
You won't be able to just "forget" her past, your won't be able to put it out of your mind. What you need to do is either change your outlook or move on. By "change your outlook" I mean if ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now regret it deeply.
Q. i had an abotion on the 6th feb 2010 and i really didnt want it and everyday i feel myself wasting away. when i found out i was pregnant i told my boyfriend straight away and the first thing that he said was, what am i doing? and then he said if ...
A. 19 February 2010: We all have regrets and second thoughts after making a tough decision, so don't beat yourself up over it.
The important thing is to get away from the boyfriend that is pushing your around, not helping you, and looking out for himself. Work to ... (read in full...)
I'm black and she is Muslim but I like her!
Q. i'm black and i realy like this muslim girl and she rely like me to but we dont no what to do we both no her family will go take kindly to this but we both love each other what should we do?...
A. 19 February 2010: Be respectful, careful and cautious until you and your girlfriend are capable of being on your own, then make up your minds. No one, not even parents, have the right to tell someone eho they can love and live with. But be respectful, act more ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell if I am bi or straight
Q. So uhmmm Im confused... I'm not sure if I'm bi or straight. I really don't know how to tell if I am or not. Would anyone be able to help me out with this? Tell me what to look for or how I should feel or something? I've been unsure for a couple ...
A. 19 February 2010: You don't need a label. You are who you are: straight, bi or lesbian. It may change over time, at the college I attended some girls were entirely lesbian then became straight after graduating and got married. I was the opposite and discoverd my ... (read in full...)
How can I be hot with small boobs?
Q. How can I be hot with small boobs? I have small boobs, wide hips and a small waist. I think it's a very feminine looking body. But guys still drool more over busty women! I don't get it, boobs are only fat. I've seen guys drooling over women with ...
A. 18 February 2010: Unless you are looking to be a stripper, your DO NOT want guys to be attracted to you for your breasts. There is a guy out there who likes you for everything you are. Be the best you can be as a person and go find him. Otherwise you will be ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my same sex teacher
Q. I am a 13 year old girl and im in love with my female karate teacher weve known eachother for almost 3 years, she is married and has 2 children with her husband ( my other karate teacher) 1 child is 2 1/2 and the other is 8 months, when i dont see ...
A. 18 February 2010: Fortunately, same sex love is not an issue anymore, so don't worry about that part of your feelings.
The heartache you face happens to others and will probably happen to you again. You love someone that you cannot have or does not love you bac... (read in full...)
I worry a 9 year age difference might be too much
Q. i'll be 18 soon, and my boyfriend is 27. I don't know what to do, because my friends call him a pedophile for dating someone as young as I am, but the reason we're dating is because we love each other. In the long run, will this seem like a big ...
A. 18 February 2010: The age difference is not the issue so long as all else is well. Does he honestly respet you? Now, be honest with yourself. If he treats you like an adult and isn't trying to control you in any way, then proceed. Remember that when he is 65 and ... (read in full...)
I think he doesn't want me because I am not pretty enough
Q. I think he doesnt want me to be his gf bcz i m not pretty enough! dont i deserve to be loved too? i cry every morning once i wake, i cry to sleep every night. i know i sound foolish but i feel extremely down. fine, i m ugly but dont i deserve t...
A. 18 February 2010: You deserve to be loved, but 99.99% of the guys are not the right one for you or you for them, including this guy. Hold your head up and move on. That one special guy is out there and you need to find him! He needs you just as much.... (read in full...)
Should I stop loving her because she might be a slut?
Q. I was in a relationship for four years we have been broken up for ten months and i still dearly love her but we were talking and we came across the subject of sex and she told me that she have had sex with two guys and i really love her but idk if i ...
A. 18 February 2010: Grow up. If you love her it wouldn't matter if she had sex with someone else. If you really loved her you would be hoping these were good experiences for her and would not be thinking of yourself.... (read in full...)
We were in love and were together for ten years and now it is as I don't exist
Q. Hi. I'm very distressed because my partner and I split up a few months ago and recently saw each other around Christmas time but didn't sleep together. We have unresolved issues and I wanted to meet to talk to him. We still have feelings for each ...
A. 4 February 2010: Face it, it's over. Move on and get your life back. You are wasting too much energy on this. In particular, you don't really care for this guy, your feelings are hurt and you think this is how you should respond. Think of something you always ... (read in full...)
I have had sex 7 times with 3 diff men and don't enjoy it.
Q. So Ive only had sex about 7 times but Ive been with 3 men. But everytime I have sex it doesnt feel good for me at all. Its more uncomfortable than anything. But I dont get that feel good sensation that people keep telling me about. I dont think that ...
A. 4 February 2010: Thank you for your compliment. A major piece of advice - don't drink as a prelude to sex, or as a prelude to anything important really. Second, don't dwell on past regrets. We all have them, for all types of things, and if you let it they can ... (read in full...)
Another when did I get pregnant question.
Q. i just had a set of identical twins on jan 3rd,they were due on jan 23rd. i had sex with 3 people but only unprotected with 1.i started my period around the 18th of april, i had protected sex on aril 24th i had been on my last day of my menstral ...
A. 31 January 2010: Investigate the ways of having the testing done without the potential fathers knowing. Start with the most likely guy and work your way to the least likely until you get a match. If your husband or bf has accepted the children as his, however, you ... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating everytime I go overseas! What can I do?
Q. I have a seven years old relationship with a gentleman who is accusing me of being unfaithful to him everytime i travelled overseas. I went overseas three times since we are together and he thinks i am having sexual intercourse with guys in those ...
A. 31 January 2010: Don't be a fool. You can do much better than this immature man. Otherwise, your problems will never end.... (read in full...)
I have had sex 7 times with 3 diff men and don't enjoy it.
Q. So Ive only had sex about 7 times but Ive been with 3 men. But everytime I have sex it doesnt feel good for me at all. Its more uncomfortable than anything. But I dont get that feel good sensation that people keep telling me about. I dont think that ...
A. 31 January 2010: Important question - Have you previously been able to enjoy playing with yourself? Did you orgasm? If not, explore your body and get into the right groove. Make all those connections that run from your genitals and breasts to the right part of ... (read in full...)
What do you think, is he serious or is he just playing around?
Q. I have a question about my guy friend telling me that he loves me. He told me that he loves me and could sooooo see himself being with me, but he really isn't showing me that he loves me, he's just saying it. I'm wondering is it because he's been ...
A. 29 January 2010: He's probably telling you that you are gorgeous because you are. That doesn't mean that he loves you. You right that the real test is how he acts, how he treats you. He need to give you time, time doing things you want to do, be unselfish, be ... (read in full...)
Another when did I get pregnant question.
Q. i just had a set of identical twins on jan 3rd,they were due on jan 23rd. i had sex with 3 people but only unprotected with 1.i started my period around the 18th of april, i had protected sex on aril 24th i had been on my last day of my menstral ...
A. 29 January 2010: Protection can leak and those little guys can live in you for up to a week, so it's hard to figure out. If the question is actually who the father is, they have tests for that. Otherwise, what does it matter?... (read in full...)
How do you feel about larger inner lips?
Q. Male and female opinions wanted - please be truthful! How do you feel about the inner lips being outside the outer by quite a fair bit? Please be honest !...
A. 29 January 2010: Hi, this is Petra. I had the same question as you, and felt self-concious about the large size of my inner lips and clit. It is surprising that I'm that way since I am a thin (scrawny is another word used) woman with small breasts. My guys have ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't mind me flirting with other men, has he fallen out of love with me?
Q. My husband doesn't mind me flirting with other men, has he fallen out of love with me? I feel as though he is pushing me away. When I mention so and so, he jokes around and says "are you flirting with him again" laughingly as if he were my friend ...
A. 29 January 2010: It could be either a sign of a deteriorating relationship or a sign that it is strong and getting stronger. How is he treating you otherwise? If the relationship is fine (treats you well, pays the bills, etc.), then he may simply find your ... (read in full...)
I want to have my cake and eat it too
Q. I am married and have had a crush om a co worker for the last 7 months. I have been quite good at hiding my feelings from him til recently when we have spent a lot of time together at work. Working one on one. I let it slip about my crush on him ...
A. 27 January 2010: You have four options and need to consider each.
1) Work on your marriage. You have a lot invested, but if it isn't going in the right direction and you can't change it, you're throwing your life away.
2) Leave you husband. Maybe for this man... (read in full...)
Is being gay and christian all right?
Q. I've been a converted chrstian for a year now. Most of the time, i'm into guys and its great. But recently i've been liking this girl whom i'm not sure is into girls. That aside, what i'm more worried about is 'is it ok to b gay and christian?' ...
A. 27 January 2010: I agree with Marieclaire, what we will be judged on is not our private sex life. God gave us sex for several reasons, two of which are pleasure and love. Just be responsible in what you do.... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this sad, draining relationship?
Q. i am 28 and he is 35, the problem is we are always fighting as a result am so drained and dont think the relationship is going anywhere, i want out but he doesnt, we promised each other to change but nothing works.I tried everything to make this ...
A. 26 January 2010: I agree you just need to end it, BUT FIRST make sure you financial affairs are in order. Everything from you own acounts to your job to a place to live. It will make it much easier if you know you have something to go to.... (read in full...)
I introduced my husband to my bi g/f now he can only perform sex with her
Q. Okay, to start off with, I am a bisexual female....I have been with my husband for 10 years...I am 27 and he is 29...We have a wonderful relationship but since I have gotten with this girl and let him join in, he can only get hard and stay hard ...
A. 26 January 2010: My situation is similar to yours, 28 year old female in a marriage that includes others. Don't let the small minded here try to make you feel guilty about your orientation or arrangement. Clearly you and your husband love each other tremendously ... (read in full...)
Do I worry too much about breast size?
Q. Moderator's Note: link to website removed. I recent found a site where some douche tries selling a PDF manual to convince a wife or girlfriend to get implants. I mean, not all guys are like that obviously, but do really most of them wish their pa...
A. 26 January 2010: Find a guy that loves you for everything else you are first. Then if it would make him happier for you to have large breasts you can consider getting implants then. But I bet that won't be the case.... (read in full...)
I need help with anal sex!
Q. I have been with my husband for 3 yrs. And he really wants to have anal sex, we have tried like 2 or 3 times,it is very painful,but I also enjoy it, but I always have a orgasm very fast. I want to give him what he wants.n e tips on how to not have a ...
A. 26 January 2010: My advice may not be worth much since I am the opposite of you - anal doesn't hurt me, but having a dick in my bum doesn't make me orgasm even though I always orgasm with vaginal sex. Is it the size, the friction or some interior poking that is ... (read in full...)
I cant have the girl I want because she is with another guy and is afraid that she will be blamed for my break-up with my ex!
Q. Hello, there is one girl called H that i loved for 1 year. And H loves me too. But right now H has a boyfriend called J and she is afraid to hurt her boyfriend J. And second thing H is afraid of is that other people will think that the reason for ...
A. 26 January 2010: You will have many more problems in life if you are always worried what other people are going to think. Either do what you need to do or stop angonizing over it.... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for my boyfriend change after an FFM threesome?
Q. So I was WONDERING, if my boyfriend and I end up having a threesome, with another woman, whats the likely it'll bring us closer? Or I wont feel the same about him?...
A. 26 January 2010: The truth that everyone must face regardless of religion, philosophy or morals is that humans, like almost all creatures, do not mate for life. They are not even monogamous from mate to mate. It is like being a vegetarian (which I am not) - it has ... (read in full...)
Wife had anal sex with another man, how should I react?
Q. Mod note: had some language and sexual content not suitable for younger aunts and uncles, changed to make it... more friendly. I went to a party with my wife and I forgot to eat beforehand, well I got drunk and passed out. I woke up a couple o...
A. 26 January 2010: 1) Stop drinking.
2) Tell you you love her. Show her you love her.
3) If she brings it up and wants to talk about it, talk about it. Otherwise, let it drop.... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant, please help!
Q. im 15 and pregnant. im 5 weeks in and when i told my mum and dad they were furious. and they said they wouldn't support me. my boyfriend dumped me and said he wouldn't help either. so im thriving on my own and i am deciding whether to keep or not ...
A. 26 January 2010: It is good to have support, but I would avoid the parents of the father and probably your parents as well. Seek out someone that does not have any of their own emotions tied up in what you do, like a Planned Parenthood counselor. The others will ... (read in full...)
Why not me? Whats wrong with me? Am I really that unattractive?
Q. Its either my face, my weight, or my color... I am 23 and I turn 24 this year and I have never had a boyfriend. I tried to join dating sites and I get rejected by every guy that I try to contact. They dont even try to tell me that they arent ...
A. 26 January 2010: Good for you! Remember that "rejection" is a good thing by both you and the guy, since 99.99% of the guys aren't the right one for you. You need to present who you really are and find a guy that loves all of your qualities, and you his. There's ... (read in full...)
Why not me? Whats wrong with me? Am I really that unattractive?
Q. Its either my face, my weight, or my color... I am 23 and I turn 24 this year and I have never had a boyfriend. I tried to join dating sites and I get rejected by every guy that I try to contact. They dont even try to tell me that they arent ...
A. 25 January 2010: You sound too intelligent to be writing this stuff. Skip the damn internet dating sites, go to the theater, the gym, classical music concerts, the things you want to do and need to do.
Hardly anyone cares about race anymore. The remainin... (read in full...)
Can't orgasm - tried everything even a vibrator.
Q. So I wrote on here once before asking for help with an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now and I still haven't orgasmed. He's done oral, fingering, inter-course. But nothing seems to work. We've gone for as long as an ...
A. 25 January 2010: You leave me wondering whether you have you ever had success by yourself? With another man? If it isn't specific to this boyfriend, try to relax, play with yourself sometimes and enjoy the journey. One piece of advice - put the vibrtor away and ... (read in full...)
I have to pretend to be satisfied with my husband during sex and I feel really bad for doing this!
Q. Hi, Im married since a year and half, my husband loves me a lot and I have satisfy him sexually.... My problem is, I really love to have sex with m hubby and its me who always start first, when he starts to kiss and all I feel so good but after w...
A. 25 January 2010: Think of what YOU would like to make things better, anything from different positions, to porn, to fantasies about others. Men like to explore, so I bet if you asked him if he thought one of your girlsfriends was cute and what he thought she looked ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong? Or is this just natural?
Q. When my boyfriend is giving me oral sex and really gets into it, my whole body starts to shake, and I no i'm reaching an orgasm but the problem is when my body starts shaking I can't relax. Is there something wrong? or is this just natural?...
A. 25 January 2010: I would say you are doing pretty well actually, just keep at it. You could also vary the approach a little, by adding a dildo while he licks your clit. (Can I say that? I'm new here. If not please gently edit it. Thanks.)... (read in full...)
Should I do this to save my marriage? Or is it blackmail and should I call a lawyer?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years this March. During the second year of our marriage, his business tanked and he needed money fast. A friend of ours, Jeff, generously offered a full no-interest loan that allowed my husband to save ...
A. 25 January 2010: First, what you did long ago to help your husband was a trmendous act of unselfishness. You were thinking of him and not yourself. If I was you husband, I may question whether it was the right thing to do, but I would never question the love ... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant, please help!
Q. im 15 and pregnant. im 5 weeks in and when i told my mum and dad they were furious. and they said they wouldn't support me. my boyfriend dumped me and said he wouldn't help either. so im thriving on my own and i am deciding whether to keep or not ...
A. 25 January 2010: At your age keeping the baby is not an option. You are not far along so either adoption or an abortion are alternatives. The father has a legal obligation of support, but keep in mind that if he has nothing, you will get nothing, plus he will be a ... (read in full...)
Should I have a lesbian affair?
Q. I am a married, female, 40 years old with children. I've known I was gay since college, but have always hid it and have never been with a woman before. I recently met a woman who is also in a relationship with another man. I am almost positive ...
A. 25 January 2010: I don't know if you should tell your husband or not, it depends on how open minded he is and how much he loves you. But I have had a couple of lesbian affairs (one was deeply emotional) since I've been married with my husband's knowledge and ... (read in full...)
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