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writes:I have a question about my guy friend telling me that he loves me. He told me that he loves me and could sooooo see himself being with me, but he really isn't showing me that he loves me, he's just saying it. I'm wondering is it because he's been hurt by his ex-girlfriend or is it because of me because i'm black. I really don't know what to think. Sometimes he'll call maybe every other day and then sometimes he'll wait about a week before he calls. He always tell me how gorgeous I am. What do you think, is he serious or is he just playing around?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): You're his friend and probably very gorgeous just like he says. But some guys arent very articulate and when they say love it can mean anything from..."i quite like you"... all the way thru to... "i love you so much i want to marry you". As he said it once and hasn't shown any signs of real love, i would just take it as an off the cuff remark made during a moment when he really felt love for you. Yes, they can have `moments` like that. For a brief moment you will say something, look a certain way or do something and the clouds part for them! And in that brief moment they actually feel real love for you. Then the clouds close over again and it goes back to...like. Confusing i know. Thats why you are left scratching your head! It was probably just a momentary thing and he didnt mean anything serious by it. So just be friends for now and dont expect anything more and see where it goes. All the best x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
He's saying all this a bit too quickly for my liking. You don't want to end up a rebound. Test him by making sure he takes you out on dates, and doesn't try to just use you for sex or something. Make sure he takes you on dates, treats you with respect and such. Remember that a man is measured by his actions, not his words.
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (29 January 2010):
He's probably telling you that you are gorgeous because you are. That doesn't mean that he loves you. You right that the real test is how he acts, how he treats you. He need to give you time, time doing things you want to do, be unselfish, be sharing. If he isn't consistent in treating you well, don't waste emotional energy with him.
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