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writes: So I wrote on here once before asking for help with an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now and I still haven't orgasmed. He's done oral, fingering, inter-course. But nothing seems to work. We've gone for as long as an hour. I've tried the advise that the agony aunts left on my last question: peeing before sex, relaxing, etc. So finally this weekend my boyfriend and I bought a vibrator. We used the vibrator and he did oral at the same time and still nothing. I've gotten to the point were everything is tingling but I can't reach a climax. It's frustrating me so much that a few times during sex I've started crying because I can't have release. I know it is bothering my boyfriend and he's trying everything he came. We tried the vibrator inside and outside on the clitoris but it still wont workI asked my boyfriend how he cum's and he told me it's also a Mental thing. I tried thinking about him and how I feel about him but I can't actually think of anything when we are doing things except for random fleeting thoughts.We've tried the vibrator, oral, touching, sex. Is there anything else we can do? Is it a physical block? A mental block? I know it takes time but it's getting really uncomfortable for me to not be able to reach climax. Can someone please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): I've tried everything. Rabbit, porn, relaxing, role play, oral, fingering, pyschlogical and mental release exercises, karma sutra, different men and different women, gspot, clit rubbing. It feels awesome everytime and my libido is thru the roof. Younger same age and older guys. It doesnt matter. Sometimes i can release thru masterbation but very little and rarely. Oh and im 36 and it has never happened in 20 years. Seriously what is wrong with me. I even love and get turned on by giving a bj. Ugh
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reader, klovex  +, writes (21 March 2013):
I am going through the same thing and still after 3 years have had nothing but clit orgasms, please has anyone had any progress? Anything work? It's really getting me down, I'm loosing my confidence in the bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): I am going through the EXACT same thing. Don't feel alone, okay? That is the worst part of it.
Keep practicing, I know it will seem futile and sometimes it will even hurt you, but when it does just take a break and go back to it later when you're relaxed. I highly recommend buying a rabbit vibrator because after a few practice runs with one of those you will start to recognise the areas that you feel the most pleasure from. Once you've found these spots, make a mental note of them and focus your practice around them.
I have never orgasmed before, but I have come close, and that's all thanks to the rabbit. The rabbit is the only thing that gets me close. My boyfriend can't make me feel pleasure through oral, fingering or intercourse either so I totally understand how upset you get to the point of crying because I have been there too. Tell your boyfriend that you haven't learned to feel pleasure yet and that he will need to be patient with you. He will also need to stop feeling like it's his fault or that he's a bad lover, because it's not his fault!
I hope you get there, it will take a long time believe me, I have been masturbating for almost two years and I am still learning about my body. :)
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (25 January 2010):
You leave me wondering whether you have you ever had success by yourself? With another man? If it isn't specific to this boyfriend, try to relax, play with yourself sometimes and enjoy the journey. One piece of advice - put the vibrtor away and do this more gently.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (25 January 2010):
hi
a number of years ago i had a g/f who was the same, she said she had never cum either by herself or using toys of with a man. we tried all kinds and one day it all clicked we had had a very nice day out and was relaxed, as we watched tv i started to rub her clit area longways and she exploded. since then she has never stopped. she since married and when i last spoke with her she said it must have been she was tring too hard. pm if you want more detail hope it help but maybe you should see the drs.
also have you tried the rabbit type vibrator i have not yet met a woman that they don't work on
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): Have you gone to see a Doctor, or a psychologist as to why it is you can feel the initial pleasure but not the climax of an Orgasm?
It may be medical. Or it may be psychological. But you aren't going to know until you go and talk to your Doctor.
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