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writes:I am a 13 year old girl and im in love with my female karate teacher weve known eachother for almost 3 years, she is married and has 2 children with her husband ( my other karate teacher) 1 child is 2 1/2 and the other is 8 months, when i dont see her at karate my heart ripps apart, i ry myself to sleep at night looking at her picture wishing i could spend even 1 more hour with her just so we can talk, i love her so much and it just hurts to know that we cant be because she loves her husband and i love her to much to take away her happiness but it hurts so bad, shes in my dreams, i see her on my walk to school, and in karate, and when im with her i try harder, ido everything better, im just nont sure what to do anymore, please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, :'( +, writes (19 February 2010):
:'( is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Kevin3007, your advice was far the best your are so right, she is my idol, and i wanna belike her in every single way and i think im getting love mixedd up with idolization.
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reader, Tarawr  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 She is married and has children. The right thing to do is back off and let her carry on with her life. If you love her, you will want her to be happy, even if you're not the cause.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You are in a bit of a pickel The thing is as you spend time with people and the more time they give you the more your going to like them As with your teacher your feelings are not a one off your be only ond person in lots that does this samething But as its causing you great stress you need to relesise that because of her age and because she is a teacher you need to know that the feeling you have for her will never be returned You need to take time out from kartie or talk to her about it I understand that it carnt be easy for you as you feel so strong about it My question to you is do you have a strong bond with your mum if you doint maybe this is why you feel so stongley for your teacher
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Fortunately, same sex love is not an issue anymore, so don't worry about that part of your feelings.
The heartache you face happens to others and will probably happen to you again. You love someone that you cannot have or does not love you back; it is a pain that almost everyone goes through, although that fact doesn't make it any easier for you. There are two good reasons you need to control yourself. First and foremost is that any physical contact between you and an adult is a serious crime. Loving her means that you will never attempt to initiate any physical contact with her or she will end up in jail. Second, she is married. Even when you are old enough to become physical, it is a bad idea with someone who is married unless both the spouses are OK with it.
If you can act appropriately, there is no problem with spending more time with her. But do it in public, supervised situations where your emotions won't get the better of you.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 This woman is married and much older than yourself, it would be wrong of her to have feelings for someone of your age so a relationship is not going to happen. as for your feelings it is natural to have crushes on people in authority that you look up, but you need to find someone of a similar age to yourself as hard as that may sound. x
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reader, kevin3007 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 ooh!! how cute is that honey you're just 13 i know that you rally like her and you want to be with her but didn't you notice that she might be so far away from your hands i mean she's married she has kids and she's in love with her husband you know what i think you didn't understand your feelings cause maybe she's your idol and you want to be just like her in every thing and that's really a good thing you're doing good be the best in her class and try to be her best friend i am sure she'd be so proud of you and with time you'll figuer out how you feel you'll see that you're not in love with her you just want to be like her .....good luck sweety
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