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writes: How can I be hot with small boobs? I have small boobs, wide hips and a small waist. I think it's a very feminine looking body. But guys still drool more over busty women! I don't get it, boobs are only fat. I've seen guys drooling over women with narrow hips, who have big boobs, even fake boobs for that matter (like Kendra Wilkinson, one of Hef's ex girls). Yet I have wide hips which supposedly are attractive, because they indicate fertility or whatever, but I don't get as much attention (and they're not fat hips, just naturally wide... I'm quite slim!).It's frustrating, especially since people just say that it's a matter of confidence and showing off other things. I think my best asset is my tiny waist/big hips combo, but no matter how much I display that, it's not as effective as big boobs on an otherwise homely girl =/Women with large breasts often say we're lucky we don't get all that attention (oh, who would like being regarded as sexy and hot! Oh how awful!). But what's better, getting no attention, no guys flirting with you, nothing? That REALLY sucks! I get almost no attention, and it really sucks and hurts. I want to be hot. I'm already fun, loving and caring, faithful and smart, all the important aspects are covered. But I'm not hot. I think I'll always be the 'friend'...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): Get all that 'im not as hot because i have small boobs' crap out of your head and start thinking more like 'i am hot because i have small boobs'
Small boobs are gorgeous- can be more perky, more shapely, less uh hairy, veiny, no stretch marks usually etc.
Big boobs usually look all saggy out of the bra/bikini top and are just really overrated and usually come with bigger all round ness which isnt desired that much.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Sexually hotness and coldness is a quality of mind and not of sex organ, like breast, nipple, penis or vagina. it is mind that lead sex drive, and if it reverse than one should be prepare for eventual coldness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Listen, I have big boobs and I can tell you now that it is all in the way you present yourself to the world. I am not saying that you let things hang out. You need to exude confidence and then naturally people will be drawn to you. Hot does not mean big boobs. Hot is a combo of style, flare, beauty and intelligence. You can have the biggest boobs ever and still not be noticed the right way.
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Unless you are looking to be a stripper, your DO NOT want guys to be attracted to you for your breasts. There is a guy out there who likes you for everything you are. Be the best you can be as a person and go find him. Otherwise you will be treated as just a carnival ride.
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reader, monkeys1  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Is it me or do you want the wrong kind of guys to flirt with you, thats why i dont understand girls, dont you want a bloke who likes you for whats under the skin, rather then your cup size, am i right?
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reader, snrrao +, writes (18 February 2010):
 i can understand your feelings .but you should know one thing that.as a guy i say that guys are attracted more to women who have great body apps than to women having big boobs.if you have not been attracted by anyone then you should try following*first of all be yourself*always have a smiling face*treat all men equally whether they are beautiful or not*give sexy looks*wear more exposive dresses
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): What size your boobs are has got nothing to do with if you are "hot" or not.
I would say from reading your post, you are not giving off the right vibes, in fact you actually seem angry about it. Find out how to dress for your body shape to show of your figure to its best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Its not the size that counts. Its how you use it.Seriously, men might like the look of big boobs, but no more so than small ones. Its all in how you work yourslf.Use what you have to its fullest potential and you'll be fending off men with a pitch-fork in no time.Go have a look at the porn actress Belladonna if you don't believe me. Or Sasha Grey. Both have men all over the world salivating at their very names. And they have rather small, average sized mammary glands.They simply know how to carry themselves and look as hot as, if not hotter than, the plactic-boobed living mannequins around them.I know it is in bad taste to use porn actresses as examples. But no where will you find just how much men don't care about boob size than in porn. Or in movies.Remember. Its 90 percent confidence, 10 percent making a man think they have a shot with you.As long as we think we can get in there and do our thing... you could be Keira Knightley and we wouldn't care.Flynn 24
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reader, TheXxHelloKitty  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 The women with large breast want attention. They want that feeling that they are being watched, they want to stand out. If men don't except you for the " R - E - A - L " you then leave them behind.
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reader, Honeii +, writes (18 February 2010):
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Everyone has a different view of what beauty really is.
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reader, lemonverbena +, writes (18 February 2010):
Some men really love small breasts. Some even have fetishes for them. And yes, getting hit on everyday on the street for the size of your chest gets very very old.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 I have small boobs. Never had a problem being hot. Obviously I wouldn't be the type for a guy looking for some big ones, but I don't like those guys anyway :) Plenty of guys like petite smaller frames. I've dated quite a few so I do know. And like someone else said, and although you don't care, they won't sag. And it isn't just important when you are old... Girls who are 23 can have sagging boobs. Not all that attractive. Just wear a push up bra and whoever you date who sees you naked will love exactly what you look like. I honestly don't even know the last guy I talked to who wasn't an ass man...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): But who cares how "firm" my boobs will be when I'm old... I'll be old. I'll have other priorities. I'll already have lived and experienced a lot more things. I'll be more mature, I'll have my mind set on other things.
I'm 21 now. I want to be hot now.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Hot is just a a matter of perceptions.Different people have different perceptions of what is hot.
The way you dress and the way you carry yourself can make you hot.
Some girls have small boobs but nature compensates them with other ways.
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reader, Darkened  +, writes (18 February 2010):
SirenaBlusera is right.
But you seem very decided, so if you reeeaaally want to enter the "boob war" and can't compete on the cleavage battle, you have to use your own weapons... try not wearing a bra, along with a wise choice of clothes. That will probably provide the attention you seek, not only from the "small boob admirers" but also from the "I don't give a damn about size, I just love boobs!" guys.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 February 2010):
 If it makes you feel any better, and I'm an old man now and you probably wouldn't care, but small breasts have always been fine with me. In fact, they are possibly an asset because they are less likely to sag later on. Smaller breasts may also have more prominent nipples which are joyful to some men. I think they're sexy. Don't worry about this trivial stuff - you will be "hot" to many men. Or come be with me if you find no takers.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (18 February 2010):
 You won't have back pain like the DD girls. You won't sag nearly as much as the DD girls. You won't be totally objectified by every guy you pass like the larger girls. You can actually make eye contact with a man, unlike the top-heavy girls. Sure, fewer guys will stare and drool and act like idiots whenever you walk by, but I've never heard of a woman that didn't get sick of that REALLY quick. When a man calls you beautiful, it will be because he means YOU are beautiful, not just your boobs.
And for what it's worth, I am one of the men that only likes smaller breasts. I am turned completely OFF by D-Cups. There ARE guys out there that will be immeasurably grateful for you being built the way you are.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Hi doll I agree with SirenaBlusera my hubby is a butt man. Never looks at boobs and he seems to think I'm pretty hot with my fairly average sized boobs.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Breast size does not matter - not all men love women with big boobs. But if it does bother you, you can try certain bras that are meant to raise your bust line and make you look bigger.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Large breasts aren't everything. Trust me! Some guys prefer small ones, some guys don't.
I can't remember her name... the girl from all those Pirate movies (dang, I saw all three, I should know this)... I bet that there aren't many guys who would kick her out of bed and she has really small *cough* ya know.
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