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I'm a simple man who enjoys a simple life. I always tell the truth and it leaves me with few friends. The friends I do have are very close and I spend a lot of time with them.
Most people I encounter prefer to lie and lead lives filled with deception. I am unable to appreciate this life choice.
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Do you think he is having a second guess about breaking up or am I waiting for nothing?
Q. My boyfriend ended our 6 year relationship 3 weeks ago, he said he doesnt feel he loves me anymore. He works from home and we have a 2 year old boy together. We spend 24/7 together, even share the same hobby. We have the odd disagreement but ...
A. 26 September 2009: Personally, I think that was a good move. You did not pressure him and and kept it light. ... (read in full...)
How do you get your ex back when he is in another country?
Q. how do you get your ex back?when he's in another country? now i know some of you would say:why do you want him back?or he's not worth trying..and blablabla... but i know for a fact that this is what i really want..i know he has feelings for me b...
A. 25 September 2009: I won't say he's not worth it, but what I will do is ask is it really what you want?
You said it is, but then you went on to say you're sick of saying you're sorry. It's the only two statements we can go by, and they conflict.
There is litt... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont let me pleasure her!
Q. I am currently having problems with my girlfriend. A little background info: She is 18 and I am 24. We met online when she was 15 and after about 3 or 4 months things started to blossom and she admitted she loves me. So once she turned...
A. 25 September 2009: I don't mean to sound perverse or overly interested in your sex life, but was the 'heated' moments with the web cam full mutual sex or would she more or less pose for your pleasure?
I am not sure what you mean by saying she was selfish during t... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend falling for his roomate?
Q. My boyfriend has moved in with our mutual friend, who is a girl. They are also living with two of his guy friends. They have been getting really close. They are extremely flirty. In fact, they are closer at this point than I am with him. The...
A. 25 September 2009: You should never feel like a third wheel in your relationships. I think you should discuss how you feel with him. He may not be aware of the situation.
When I was a teen, I played a lot of pool in my local pubs. I had a pool partner whom I played... (read in full...)
I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?
Q. This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...
A. 25 September 2009: The first thing that came to my mind was, make your decision before you start a family!
To be honest, it would seem almost fruitless to stay with your husband if you truly love the new man. What could come of it? I see a long path of resentme... (read in full...)
Guys: Do you still think of your ex when in relationship with someone else?
Q. Just a qucik question to the guys who come here! Do you still think about your ex gf's or ex wives whilst you are in a relationship? If so how, when and why? Thanks :)...
A. 25 September 2009: That is an interesting question. I will answer it honestly, but I may not give you quite what you are looking for. I'll try.
I spent 15 years with my ex-wife, and loved her every day. Whilst with her, I never spent any time dwelling on the woma... (read in full...)
Do you think he is having a second guess about breaking up or am I waiting for nothing?
Q. My boyfriend ended our 6 year relationship 3 weeks ago, he said he doesnt feel he loves me anymore. He works from home and we have a 2 year old boy together. We spend 24/7 together, even share the same hobby. We have the odd disagreement but ...
A. 25 September 2009: You have to respect the man for being honest. He is not doing the wrong thing by you. He is being completely open and honest to you. That has to go along way towards his credibility.
Going with the flow sounds like a good option for now. Just wai... (read in full...)
Why do I get upset when my boyfriend masturbates?
Q. I am wondering... why do i get so upset when my boyfriend masterbates? Why does it bug me he watches porn... i get so jealous as if he wants to be with those women on the porno and then he tells me sometimes he doesnt need porn and that its in his ...
A. 25 September 2009: An 'itch' is probably a good description. Those of us with high sex drives, can't expect our partners to keep up. It's not like we run around looking to be only with people with high libido (well, some might I suppose!). My wife was a 2 times per ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt to have sex even after 5 years of sexual activity?
Q. Hello all I'm kinda new at this so please work with me...I'm 20 years old and lost my virginity at 15 I've had 3 partners in that time one of which I was with for 4 years and we did it on a regular basis and even now it still feels like he rips me ...
A. 25 September 2009: Are public doctors are out of the question? In Australia we have doctors who "bulk bill" the government, giving us free medical care. Is there nothing like this you could get?
If you've been having problems with normal sexual penetration over a p... (read in full...)
Do you think it is worth it to forgive someone who did this to you?
Q. I have been dating a girl for 3 years. We graduated college and had a long distance relationship. In this time she broke up with me for someone else. Im am pretty sure she cheated on me before she broke up with me for this other person. Well ...
A. 25 September 2009: I still stick to my original post, but as a follow up to your followup I'd like to add this thought. It's not advice, it's just a thought which occurred to me reading your last followup.
Is it possible that she thinks you are the one and wanted t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets mad if I wear matching bra and panties when he is gone
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me for wearing panties and bras that match when I am not with him. Is this out of line? We have been together for almost two years. I have never been unfaithful to ANYONE. HE has....
A. 25 September 2009: I think you boyfriend has lost his marbles, but at the same time I may have an insight in to what his thinking is. Years ago, my wife told me something I still remember. I forget how the topic came up. My wife explained to me female underwear... (read in full...)
Why was he so intensely into me only to drop me later?
Q. What is it with guys who come on so strong in the beginning, pursue you like crazy, get your hopes up so much and then just drop you like you never mattered at all? I met someone online and I seriously thought he had a lot of potential. The f...
A. 25 September 2009: Just to put my little bit in here, women do this too!
I was seeing a school teacher (not a teacher of my children or their school), and our relationship hit it off immediately. We were very in to each other and when we weren't together we'd spe... (read in full...)
How common is it for guys to try to push you into things sexually?
Q. ladies how common is it for guys to try and push you into things you don't want to do sexually or to atually force you-I've encountered a few guys like this and I want to know whether it's normal but girls just don't say that it's happened to them ...
A. 25 September 2009: I agree with "ask oldersister", this sounds like rape. I would never force myself on a woman who said no. And I have been asked to stop by a woman. We had been fooling around and we were both physically aroused. She said no, and I kept going for ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is monogomy a myth?
Q. guys have you ever been completly faithful to a woman throughout your relationship-I'm starting to wonder whether faithful men are a myth,all my boyfreinds have cheated...
A. 25 September 2009: I can't speak for all men, but I can give you my perception. As a 33yo man, I can not state I have been around a long time. At the same time, you can hardly accuse me of being too young to know anything! I was married to my wife for fifteen year... (read in full...)
It's been 43 years, I want to contact and comfort an old gf, but I don't want to hurt my wife
Q. I was friends with a girl and we even dated off on over a two year period. We just drifted apart. I married and realized I was still in love with my old girlfriend. I tried to keep in touch with old friend but she refused to have any kind of ...
A. 24 September 2009: You're crazy!
The only reason you want to contact her is for your own personal reasons. It has nothing to do with expressing your condolences.
Do you really want to throw 43 years of marriage away over a fantasy? Fantasy is normal and in my... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating the girl I have a crush on!
Q. I have a problem that I know I will have to wait to act. I live in a rural town and i'm in a class of 50 students. my friend is going out with another one of my girl friends. i have a major crush on her but i cant make a move cuz its homecoming ...
A. 24 September 2009: My mates and I always had a rule of never dating the same girls. Any girl could only date one of us. If that relationship didn't work out, none of us would date her afterward.
I know not all groups work like that, but I think most people agree th... (read in full...)
Have we got too intimate too soon?
Q. i and my bf are in relation for nearly 4 months. last week we met in a park and got very romantic!! we had our smooch for the first time .he kissed me on my neck and licked it very fondly....now i am in a fix whether its very soon for us to get so ...
A. 24 September 2009: Surely only you can decide that. Our opinions are irrelevant.
Do you feel it is too soon? The fact that you're asking makes me wonder if, you, think you're ready.... (read in full...)
What can I do to get him out of my mind
Q. I really need help guys, I'm Ethan, gay and brokenhearted. My boyfriend ended up our relationship like 3 months ago but I still have a lot of feelings for him, he was very rude to me that night, he said really bad things that I'll never forget, I ...
A. 24 September 2009: I am not suggesting that that what your ex did was right, but you did give him the impression he could go out that night and do his own thing. You had a hidden agenda to go and lied about it.
Your hidden agenda is not something you clarifie... (read in full...)
How to get more pleasure
Q. Omg sooo me and my bf are very sexual i love given him b.js and stuff but when it comes to him doing itt to me like eating me out or just having sex ....i kinda dont even feel any of it at all i need help..i get wettt and horny and all of the above ...
A. 24 September 2009: What exactly is the question?
What is it you don't feel? It is emotionally or physically a lack of feeling?... (read in full...)
How can I change in this relationship
Q. I really need help.I don't know what going on with me. I am extreamly jealous of my husband.Even he go to work I thinking of he make out with someone.We been married for 2years.We always fight. every week.We both tired of it.I try to change, but I ...
A. 24 September 2009: I don't know if this could help or not but I ideas. Could you explain to him how you feel and that you'd like to be more open if you're not already? What I mean is, does he let you check his phone, for contacts and texts? Does he let you check... (read in full...)
Too much time in bed....
Q. Hello All, I had this strange problem of not being able to get up in morning.Usually i go to bed at 11-12 at night and wake up by 8-9...I think i am sleeping nearly 10 hours a day..Isnt this a problem....As far as i have 8 hours is the normal ti...
A. 24 September 2009: I think I read somewhere that physical exercise and regular routines can improve sleeping patterns. By using the computer a lot and doing little physical activity I am of the understanding it does lead to poor sleep habits.... (read in full...)
Is she flirting, playing hard to get or just trying to annoy me?
Q. So, theres this girl that i like in 9th grade, and im pretty sure she likes me, but two days ago she asked if i had a myspace, and i said no(and it was true, i didnt) and she said "liieerrr you just dont want me to message you on there" and she ...
A. 24 September 2009: Since you don't know her surname yet I guess you don't know her very well. Take the time to get to know her, in the meantime she may track you down in Myspace. She knew you did not have a Myspace account and you've told her that you now do. This... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't want our baby.
Q. Hi, I am 30yrs old and I just found out that I am pregnant 3 days ago. Me and my partner have been together for 2 years he already has 3 children and his reaction when I told him I was pregnant was like I ruined his life. We did use birth control ...
A. 24 September 2009: Why is it in these situations people are quick to assume the worst of men? We know little of the partner in this story, only that he has hurts the OP's feelings by wanting an abortion. One reply accuses the partner of being "stupid" and "s... (read in full...)
My g/f really has downtime in a LDR
Q. Hey everyone, My girlfriend and I are in a LDR. I'm in college and she's in high school. She goes to school, then work then she studies and she hardly ever has any down time to just talk to me. I know she really does try to make time and i apprecia...
A. 24 September 2009: If you both have Skype, why can't she leave it running while she's at home? It is possible to set Skype to auto-answer and even turn on cams when starting calls. Potentially, you could be close to her even when she's busy. If you can call her and... (read in full...)
G/f broke up with me because of arguments! I want her back!
Q. so me nd my gf 4 3 nd half weeks got into in argument and she broke up wit me 2day...it started last week i found in her fone tlkn 2one her exs who i thot she had a major problem with.sayin how he controlled her nd played her..sayin i have ...
A. 24 September 2009: If you want anyone to take you serious, you need to show the reader enough respect to write in such a manner as to warrant respect. You're young, she's young. It sounds like typical high school drama. Move along.... (read in full...)
Do you think it is worth it to forgive someone who did this to you?
Q. I have been dating a girl for 3 years. We graduated college and had a long distance relationship. In this time she broke up with me for someone else. Im am pretty sure she cheated on me before she broke up with me for this other person. Well ...
A. 24 September 2009: Take it one step at a time. Don't rush the engagement, just build the trust back between you.
The long distance could well be the only reason she did what she did. This doesn't justify it of course. Long distance relationships can be difficul... (read in full...)
Taking advantage of Love
Q. Dear Cupid, I didn't think your aim could get any worse, but yet again you manage to surprise me. I look at his bizarre carnival sometimes and I wander if there is truly method to your madness. Maybe I am looking at it too closely. If I just z...
A. 24 September 2009: What was your point again? I got lost in a sea of philosophical drama. Was your intent to pose a serious question or to pour poetic rhetoric in to text?... (read in full...)
Fairness... justice...
Q. Its Something that I have been thinking about since my last break up ….. was the most hurtful thing in my life. I have failed in many things in my life. Jobs, friendship, maybe, studies, but I didn’t suffer as much as I suffered in my break up. T...
A. 24 September 2009: Whilst in the post the sex of the poster is not mentioned, I'd like to point out that it would appear to be a male.... (read in full...)
I like the wrong guy, and I have a mess in my head.
Q. I like the wrong guy. I was in a relationship, and this guy I'll call "E" was my ex boyfriend's best friend, that was the moment when I started to like him. Then when my relationship was over he took distance from me. In those days I became clos...
A. 24 September 2009: Personally, I'd give them both space and leave them be. They are getting married, let them be happy. It's not like you're related to either of them, so you can easily back away and let them have their life. You state that you're close to "E" whe... (read in full...)
Deeply in love with, or confused about my sister in law!
Q. I am seriuosly confused and struggling to understand the root cause behind my feelings. Short version: I sometimes think I am deeply in love with my sister in law (wife's sister), so much so that often days go by where I can't think of anything but ...
A. 24 September 2009: This seems to me to be about infatuation. I have been infatuated with my SIL for many years. I know this situation well. My SIL has lead me to think she feels the same way and on one or two occasions I believe she even opened the door for me. I d... (read in full...)
What do I do about my ex's text?
Q. Help! My ex bf of three plus years is seeing someone who is nothing like me and wants to be friends. He was I guess seeing her when I was out of town and my mother was dying. My mom died not even a month ago and this new woman drives 40 min each way ...
A. 24 September 2009: I think the answer in this situation is simple. Block his texts. Don't think too much about it. You state that he lied, cheated and takes drugs. I don't wish to start a flame war about drugs, but you clearly don't approve of substance abuse ... (read in full...)
I am so afraid of karma, but it just happened. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have put myself in a veryyy uncomfortable situation. Basically i have this ex with whom i went out with when i was 16 years old, we were in a relationship for a year, i am currently 19, and well ,between us ended for a very stupid reason, these ...
A. 24 September 2009: I think you need to come clean with your boyfriend. He might leave you. He may let you off the hoof for honesty. Since he is innocent in this why wait until he marries you or you get pregnant before letting him find out in a heated argument ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him? Throughout our 3 year relationship I have been depressed and I feel like I am losing my mind!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been through alot in our relationship, he's a widower and has a little daughter. I don't know if I should stay with him. He always takes his mother in law and sister in law side (they don't like me...trust me I know they ...
A. 24 September 2009: I would tell him how you feel and what changes you would like to see. If he does not agree with you, there is no point leading an unfulfilled life.... (read in full...)
Curious about certain in-law behaviour. Need input on this.
Q. I need someone's input on this. My sister-in-law and a few of my wife's cousins have the tendency of getting up close to me to the point where their breast is rubbing up against my arm. For example, if we are at a party and I am taking pictures with ...
A. 24 September 2009: It is quite possible that your interest in them is giving you the perception that they are interested in you. I am not stating that it is impossible for an in-law to have an interest, but that your interest could be misunderstanding their ... (read in full...)
After 11 years he left me for another woman but I don't think he knows what he wants!
Q. my boyfriend left me just before christmas after 11 years he moved straight in with her after only knowing her for 3 weeks and this is true as she told my ex sister in law that they been together for that period so i know its true. she has a 8 year ...
A. 24 September 2009: It is difficult to read your post. Your grammar is atrocious as already stated. For the benefit of the reader (and yourself for said reader to able comprehend your post), you should punctuate as best you can.
I think your ex is just keeping ... (read in full...)
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