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writes:I really need help guys, I'm Ethan, gay and brokenhearted. My boyfriend ended up our relationship like 3 months ago but I still have a lot of feelings for him, he was very rude to me that night, he said really bad things that I'll never forget, I shouldn't feel anything for him, but love is really complicated sometimes and I really don't get it.Last weekend he texted me, this is what he said on his message:"Are you going to the club tonight, I wanna know because I think I'm gonna go and if you're gonna be there I'll just not go".That got me really angry, I couldn't believe that, so I replied this to him."I got more important things to do, so why would I waste my time".But I was going anyway just because of his text message, so I went.He saw me, he was with his best friend, so I was ignoring him, dancing and all that, when suddenly he comes up with the security guard of the club, pointing at me and I was like, WTF is going on here?, so the guard took me into a room and started checking my clothes and everything, my ex told him I had drugs and that I was taking them into the club, I was so in shock, how could he make up such a horrible lie, my God, I was horrified I don't even drink or smoke, and he knows it, so the guard checked everything and as I didnt have anything to hide, he said dont worry u can stay in the club, i know you're a good kid, I was like oh yeah after humiliating me like that, so the people at the club insisted me to stay, but how could I stay after all that crap, I felt really bad cuz I never thought my ex would take things to that extent, I feel depressed and I dunno what to do, I just dont understand how people can be so mean, that was really hurtful and I don't think I will ever forgive that to him, the thing is that I just cant get him out of my mind, I'm trying to move on and I;m doing well, but sometimes I have my weak moments, and I just wanna know what can I do to kick him out of my mind and my heart, what would u guys do in a situation like this one, I need your help!THANKS IN ADVANCE!!!
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reader, OzBloke  +, writes (24 September 2009):
I am not suggesting that that what your ex did was right, but you did give him the impression he could go out that night and do his own thing. You had a hidden agenda to go and lied about it.
Your hidden agenda is not something you clarified. Perhaps you wanted to spy on who he was with, or to make his evening uncomfortable. It is not surprising therefor that he did something.
Let go. Stop dwelling on it and let him live his life. We don't always understand why relationships end and often the person who ends it will never clarify their reasons. All we can do is lift our chin and get ourselves back on track.
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