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*el23
writes:I like the wrong guy. I was in a relationship, and this guy I'll call "E" was my ex boyfriend's best friend, that was the moment when I started to like him. Then when my relationship was over he took distance from me. In those days I became closer with the brother of "E" and we sort of starting dating. I probably felt alone for my breakup. After a long time, I begun a new relationship with the brother of "E", and became very close friend with a girl I'll call "M" who after a while end up dating "E". So now "E" and "M" are getting married, and because my friendship with "M" I'm helping in the organisation of the wedding...and as you can see now I'm also "E"'s sister in law. In all this time, I haven't been able to completely stop having romantic feelings for "E". And I don't now what else can I do, because I'm close to him whether I like it or not. Is there any way of being happy and still having him around?. It's been very difficult for me to cope with his wedding and all that because sometimes it really hurts this that I feel.Any suggestions are welcome.XXX
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reader, OzBloke  +, writes (24 September 2009):
Personally, I'd give them both space and leave them be. They are getting married, let them be happy.It's not like you're related to either of them, so you can easily back away and let them have their life. You state that you're close to "E" whether you like it or not. This is not true. You can find a different circle of friends and move on.Some posters refer to situations where there is lust and/or relationships involving family (in-laws). This is not your problem. You don't have to be rude or make the break clean and harsh, just slowly spend more time with others and drift away.
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (2 April 2009):
Oh I get it now.... I think it will be hard to be around him but now he's moving on so u have to put ur feelings aside and try to move past that.and hope it goes away
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reader, Mel23 +, writes (1 April 2009):
Mel23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering, and I want to make clear that "E" was the best friend of my first boyfriend. As I'm not a native speaker I don't know if this is clear enough.
Waiting for advice!
Cy.
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reader, keepitreal03 +, writes (31 March 2009):
Wow well does he show any feelings for u? Does he still like you?? If he does he shouldn't be getting married and u should tell him its not right. But if its just u who can't get over him and he's happy with his wife to be then u need to step back and try to saty away from him. U don't wanna cause any problems now or later. Like a kiss or even sex. Maybe u just wish it was u and not her....maybe iys cause she is so happy and u want that. But if ur in love with him and feel like it should be u then u should tell her and him a risk losing them both or keep ur distance
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