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writes: I am quite badly addicted to porn and it makes me struggle concentrating on anything else properly. If it was happening once in a week , then I guess it would have been okay but I spend most of my time watching porn and getting jerk off in front of it. Also red color nail polish on girls nails turns me on like hell. I haven't had sex with girl yet except phone sex with my ex-girlfriend. I have told me parents to get me married but they have said they don't have money for that. How should I get rid of this nasty habit of watching porn? Please Dear Cupid help me! Thanks
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 What country are you from and how old are you? More information needed for proper advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): Dude i agree with some of the chicks on here. Ihave the same exact problem you do except im fifteen. Anyways just when you feel the urge to look resist it with everything you've got and walk outside. Once you get outside take a deep breath and walk.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 November 2011):
 Porn is like fog, It's a bunch of dropletts of something (inthe case of fog-it's moisture) You can't be addicted to something that's not really there. Ignore the fact that you can be addicted to sex(which is real) and concentrate on the fact that porn is fog(or vapor,whichever) That would be like addiction to cloud watching. Take a breath and take up jogging. Ain't no big thing brother. As Bobby Mcferrin said,"Don't worry, be happy"
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011):
I’m the same guy who has posted the above-question. I am from Pakistan and we have conservative society over here, so finding a girlfriend here is one hell of a job especially in small town like mine. Over here, if your girlfriend’s brother and dad come to know that you are dating their daughter and sister, they will kill you as it’s against their honor. Yes, the urban part of our country is ultra modern now but urban girls are very proud and demanding. They don’t give it a shit if you don’t own car and good job—I am lacking in both departments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): Watching occasionally isn't all that bad, so there's really no need to give it up completely unless that's what you want to do. And if you do get married, that might be something to consider. I would also suggest watching amateur stuff with normal looking people so your views on how women should look don't get warped. (It happens more than you think.) Anyway, limit yourself to say, twice a week. If you get the urge to watch more, do something else you enjoy to distract yourself. Go exercise, hang out with a friend, and whatever you do, don't be alone until the urge passes. Because even when the temptation is at its strongest, you can't give in and look at it if you are not home, or you are home but someone is there with you. Or, you could always take a cold shower lol that would also take care of it.
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reader, GummyBear18127  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Getting married if definitely not the answer. I know how appealing porn can be, and yes it is very addicting!!! However, if you stop watching porn at least for a week, you will find that your urges will go away. Trust me! I used to watch porn all the time but then I made myself stop for a week and then I rarely watch it now. It's perfectly normal to have urges, and you can jerk off when you get them. Go out and meet some people and a relationship will come on its own time.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 My guess is that you do not believe in sex before marriage. Which is fair enough. It is OK to look at porn and enjoy it, but once it takes over your life well then you need to step back and makes changes before it gets to late. You are still a virgin and you are obviously feeling all of the sexual urges. It can be hard at your age to stay celibate as your at the age where you are going to be curious and your hormones are running crazy. My guess you are turning to porn to get rid of these urges. But you need to cut down in it. Get out of the house and away from the computer and the television. Go out with friends and distract yourself. If you feel the urge to watch porn get up and go for a walk until it passes.
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reader, NennaHB  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 The best way is to put yourself out there, try to meet someone and have a relationship. The sexual part will come naturally. However, expecting a future gf to be or act like porn stars is unrealistic ... porn is misleading, we don't all look good while having sex(but again looking good is not the most important part when having sex!), we are not all able to try difficult positions or if we do, we don't find the same amount of pleasure as in the positions that are familiar and, most important - for me - the best sex is with someone whose body you know and with whom you have a connection beyond the physical attraction. Act natural, don't have false expectations and you will soon be writing back to DearCupid telling you have found a great girl.I didn't really understand that part with "i told my parents to get me married". Could you explain a little?
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