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female
age
41-50,
*ennaHB
writes:I have met online a guy 8 months ago. He lives in Northern Europe, me in the South (distance 2200 km). Nothing serious at first, just flirting, sharing music and photos of each other. Age difference about 20. He owns a big garden and, as I live in a big city, he said several times that I should come over for a trip to relax and enjoy. I fancied the idea but didn't have the money then. After my change of job, I have the money now. The problem is he got very disappointed when I could not go the first time we discussed, after a while he asked me to have some kind of erotic discussion and webcam stripping over skype, which I refused saying I would prefer a real life connection. After his last failed attempt to get me on sexy webcam, he said we should take a break. Since then it's been 6 weeks and we have spoken very few times, only casual conversations.I want to take a trip to him in a few months, I am not thinking anything serious, just see if there is something there for me.P.S. He once told me his grandfather, at the age of 50, after falling in love with a 25-yea-old woman, abandoned his family to marry her and lived happily until his death. I suspect he is married and I am not the only one who he has asked to strip in front of the webcam. Should I put on the table my trip to him anyway? What would you do?
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reader, NennaHB +, writes (13 July 2011):
NennaHB is verified as being by the original poster of the question Assuming he is married, which we don´t know but could explain the webcam interest from his part ... traveling up to there would just be a very very expensive booty call? Cause I´m starting to see it as a VERY bad investement.
If he could not embrace the idea of me visiting the first time, he would for sure not appreciate it now either and take it just as something he is entitled to? I just hate arrogance and si high self-confidence in men!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 He doesn't sound very mature. I certainly wouldn't go over to meet him. In any case, the fact you haven't spoken much leads me to believe he may have found someone else.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 I would not spend money to go visit him. I do not think he's serious about anything with you...
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