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I also have a very strange sense of humour.
I live in Southend. This is in the South-East of Essex. This is in the South-East of England (Great Britain, y'all). If I have one piece of universal advice, it's this: NEVER GO TO SOUTHEND. If you live there, get out asap!
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Does this dream mean anything...
Q. let me just start the people who im just about to mention Is my Current Boyfriend (i split up with and then got back with) my ex best mate(boyfriends ex girlfriend) and her fiancee The dream Well it started off in a pub with me saying to m...
A. 21 February 2006: It's just a dream, and dreams mean nothing.... (read in full...)
Long distance has been tough for us, but now she's gone totally quiet!
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now. Things have been great, we have had tough times, but always get through it. We are both have committed to making it last. The last two weeks it has gone wrong somewhere. Contact ...
A. 17 February 2006: Long-Distance relationships barely ever work, you'd be best to talk to her next time you can and find out exactly what's going on. Although it seems to me that she's found someone else, that is only my opinion and don't hold me to it.... (read in full...)
He touched me and tried to kiss me when he was with his old girlfriend. Would he have done the same behind my back?
Q. I love my ex boyfriend so much. We dated for just about 2 and a half months but I knew him for quite a while before. Before we got together he had a gf and although he had a gf, he flirted with me tried kissing me (I backed away as I would hate to ...
A. 17 February 2006: I think the guy's an ass, and probably went from her, to you, to someone else. He probably was doing the same thing in my opinion.. You don't need someone like that.
Besides, 2 months is almost no time at all, and you can't find love in such a s... (read in full...)
Drunkenly kissing a workmate was a big mistake... Do I have to tell my girlfriend about the indescretion?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her a lot, and I know she loves me back. She's away at uni now, and I get to see her about once a month. Recently our time together has been difficult and we came close to splitting up a couple o...
A. 13 February 2006: Kissing is nothing, it can be forgotten or repaired. Just try not to get drunk again, not THAT drunk anyway. It's up to you whether you tell her or not but, for the love of Gods, don't do it again!... (read in full...)
For my 14th birthday, my BF wants us to lose our virginity to each other, but I don't know if I'm ready...
Q. Hi everybody I am a 13 y o and turn 14 on the 20th Feb but my bf and I are going out to celebrate. We are going to a kids' nightclub and I'm really exited. He has been saving up for 5 months for my present and I am looking forward to it, but then ...
A. 13 February 2006: Don't do it if you don't want to. And don't let him blackmail you by saying things like "do it or we break up".. In which case you'll break up! Don't forget it's illegal for you to have sex!
If you don't think you're ready for something like tha... (read in full...)
I'm totally in love with my 27-year-old BF, but is he just using me for sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months now, and I'm completely in love with him. See, I met him in school. He already had a girlfriend for almost 2 months then, and another one, who was out of the country, both at the same time. He ...
A. 2 February 2006: No. You should get out of there, before he leaves you for someone else. Someone like that will probably have another girlfriend already that you don't know about, and in a few months you'll be on your own again, but with added pain.
I think yo... (read in full...)
I want him back, he doesn't seem to want me... But we still have sex. What's goin' on!?
Q. I have a major dilemma... Me and my ex boyfriend were together for almost 4 years, and we have a 15 month old son together....last July i broke up with him because things weren't working out. I moved with my son to a town 1/2 hour away. I was fine ...
A. 2 February 2006: Well.. If he doesn't want you back, but is still sleeping with you, then he's using you. Stop sleeping with him and the confusion will probably stop.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend finally trusts me. Give me some ideas on how to build on that, please!
Q. I've been dating this girl for about 4 months and she has had a lot of bad break ups. Now she has a problem with trusting guys. She finally told me yesterday that she trusted me. I really care about her a lot and I was wondering when and how should ...
A. 24 January 2006: If you want a relationship with her, then tell her. If she wants one with you, obviously she'll say she wants one too.
Also, don't do anything to break that trust. Be open with her, don't hide things from her, for the love of Gods don't CHEAT on... (read in full...)
After messing around with him two times..he stopped talking to me! Do I talk to him or leave him alone?
Q. So, I messed around with this guy that I have known for about a year through work. At first we were just kinda "bantering buddies" and just bickered at work. We started talking over email about 6 months ago and came to the conclusion there was a ...
A. 24 January 2006: Well, to be frank, this sort of stuff generally messes up a friendship. No matter how strong or solid you thought the friendship was, if you mess around with them, there's not really any going back to how things were. My advice is to talk to him ... (read in full...)
I lost my friend in a car accident, but my bf doesn't understand why I am grieving so much. How do I make him understand?
Q. Hi there, heres my story... For years, I used to spend the majority of my time with my best friend. I'd travel around 20 miles at least 3 times a week to see him for a few hours and either sleep over, or travel back home. We were so close, and he w...
A. 24 January 2006: Don't try to make him understand, if he doesn't already then he's not going to. Just explain to him that you're grieving. If you need space from him, then tell him. If you want someone close to you, then tell him. All I can say is that it seems he's ... (read in full...)
My gf's Mother died and I'm worried she is falling into a depression. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriends mom died about a month ago. It has really affected her and is now starting to affect our relationship. She says that everything is ok with us but she doesn't show me any sign that she loves or cares about me. I know she has a lot ...
A. 24 January 2006: Let her call the shots. I mean, something like that happens, it's not gonna be very nice. Give her space if she asks for it, and try not to get frustrated with her. It's only natural to get depressed when someone dies.... (read in full...)
Whenever I can't be with my long-distance guy, he gets unhinged and insecure!
Q. Need advice. I had been in a long distance relationship with my bf for one year. I travel a lot to visit him, but it seems that every time I depart (back to my hometown) he immediately becomes this insecure guy and wants to break up with me. H...
A. 20 January 2006: Find someone closer to you? Long-distance relationships rarely work out. Especially if ne of you is completely untrusting, and hurting you a lot.... (read in full...)
I made her wait and wait for my affection. Has she waited too long?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for the last three years. She left her job and her family to be closer to me even though I never gave her any promise of a future together. Over this past year I haven't given her any affection and have ...
A. 20 January 2006: Make good on what you said, that's all I have to suggest.... (read in full...)
He rubbed up against me and I orgasmed..did I lose my virginity?
Q. I am a 17yr. Christian girl, who's done a lot of things, I'm not proud of, with my boyfriend of a year. But I am now scared that I might have accidently lost my virginity by slowly slipping into things that "were'nt so bad". I have had orgasms ...
A. 11 January 2006: Erk, why the hell does it matter? (pardon the phrase). Sex before marriage IS NOT a sin, because it IS NOT considered one in the Bible (Check through the whole of Leviticus if you don't believe me). Also, you lose your virginity through intercourse, ... (read in full...)
I cheated and slept with a guy... Now he's fallen in love with me and I'm scared he'll tell my boyfriend if I end it...
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend of 2 years. About 3 months ago I met another guy through a friend, and because I knew that he was interested in me. One evening I met him out and, because I was drunk, I ended up sleeping with him. That was 2 months ago ...
A. 10 January 2006: For a start, what were you doing getting drunk without your boyfriend, or even an ORDINARY friend there to make sure you didn't do something stupid like, say, sleeping with someone?
And for another thing, why did you continue to see him for 2 mo... (read in full...)
His colleagues get messages but he says he is too busy for mine...
Q. I'm so so so so annoyed, I make the effort to call or send a text message to make my man smile thru out da day, or so he says, and he is too busy for me, and too busy to call me, says he cant use the phone at work, but his friends men, and women, ...
A. 9 January 2006: You seem to have answered you own question. If seeing whether he misses you or not fails to work, tell him to shape up or ship out.... (read in full...)
How do we stop arguing??
Q. how can I STOP ARGUING WITH MY WIFE AND GET RELATIONSHIP ON TRACK...
A. 9 January 2006: It depends on why you are arguing. My girlfriends parents, for example, are arguing all the damn time. Her Dad doesn't want me there, even though he's moved out.. Which I find unfair. It doesn't just affect you two, if there are children involved ... (read in full...)
Girls won't take me seriously as "boyfriend material". What am I doing wrong?
Q. I am a 16 year old guy and I'm having trouble with girls just liking me as a friend. It seems like each time I really like a girl and I tell her, she says she just couldn't go out or do anything with me because I seem more like a friend, or a ...
A. 9 January 2006: No, you're not doing anything wrong, you're just a better friend to some people than others, and it's natural that they don't want to lose a friendship. Give it some time and you'll find someone who likes you in the same way right from the off.... (read in full...)
Advice on how to get my girl back, after she left for another guy?
Q. I'm 15. I just had my first gf and she broke up because she met an old friend she liked and they where kissing. I realy loved her. I can't get over her and I want her back. What should I do? ...
A. 9 January 2006: You're 15, still young, and not even emotionally mature yet. Trust me, I've been there and done that. At 15, you don't really know what love is. Besides, girls of that age age equally immature. You should forget about getting back with her, and find ... (read in full...)
What made her change so suddenly?
Q. Here's a quick summary. Me and my girlfriend, both 24, were dating; pretty hot and heavy, then out of the blue she says that she doesn't want to lose me, but she's not ready for a relationship. We no longer contact each other and when we see each ...
A. 9 January 2006: I've seen this in so many of my friends, both male AND female, that it's untrue. Their partners say they're not ready for a relationship, even after 2 weeks, a month, even 3-4 months of being together. It's a poor excuse so that they can, generally ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as relationship Karma?
Q. Is there such a thing as relationship Karma - I would love to hear anyone's stories and experiences with this. I had a boyfriend who lied, cheated, made me believe everything was my fault, dumped me and within a few weeks is dating someone e...
A. 9 January 2006: It depends on your religious persuasion. Karma may be real to some people, but not to others. Generally, I find that a few bad life experiences are only there to gear up for a good one.
You shouldn't be worrying about such things,. it seems th... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my ex? He loves me one day, hates me the next!
Q. I don't understand men... they are so hard to figure out. I was dating a guy for 2 months and he decided to try and tell me that he cheated on me with a girl that he said 2 weeks ago wasn't real. Keep in mind he said this after I broke it off with ...
A. 9 January 2006: It's a breakup thing. It depends how/why you broke up, and that will be the reason he's acting weird. I was bitter and resentful to one of my exes, hating her with all my heart one day, going back to missing her terribly the next. It's the way she ... (read in full...)
Calling all "toyboys"... Your views are needed!
Q. Hi! I know there is no definitive answer to this question but I'd appreciate some 'toyboys' responses to this one - what is that you 'toyboy's, for want of a better word, love about your older women? What is it about older women that you find ...
A. 9 January 2006: If you want an example, I was with a 26 year old not long ago, and I was 17 at the time. It can work in the long term, as long as she's not a lying, stealing, cheating bitch like.. We'll call her "Helen" was. As long as the "toyboy" finds a good ... (read in full...)
I know it wasn't cheating, but I can't get over the idea that my girlfriend had sex with her ex before we dated!
Q. I need help, over a seemingly stupid matter. In a nutshell, I'm in college and have been with my gf for almost 5 months now, yet I still can't get over the fact that a year ago she had a relationship with a guy for 3 and a half months and they had ...
A. 7 January 2006: I was the fourth person that my current girlfriend slept with, and I despise ALL her exes. The fact that you hate this man so much is probably the reason you are feeling this way, and should learn to deal with it. I mean, my girlfriend told me about ... (read in full...)
Too scared to meet my online girl...
Q. Right, so.. I'm a guy, and I'm 18. I've had some pretty bad relationships in the past, and I probably will do in the future as well.. But that's not even the point. I guess it's a part of it, cos I'm afraid of being hurt (that's right, I'm a GUY ...
A. 6 January 2006: Thankyou so very much. I had no idea whatsoever how utterly embarrasing this was for me, I'm so glad there are people nice enough to point it out to me. For the record, I'm meeting her tomorrow :)
Amiee, thanks for not being weirded out xx... (read in full...)
Being just the two of us for so many months, I know I started to obsess about my gf. Why can't I get past this?
Q. Hey, I’m Rob - and I need some help! I’m 18 and was going out with my ex gf for 10 months. She was my life, really she was. When we first went out I wanted nothing serious but then she invited me over her house and I met the family and she initiate...
A. 6 January 2006: Some people do get obsessed when they're in love. I did. She left me. 9 months later, I'm still trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered, broken life, but I've made new friends and have learned something from it. Just don't get so attached in ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my underage girlfriend? She says she's ready, but I'm not sure about the consequences...
Q. I am 20, my girlfriend is 15. She's said she's ready for sex with me, but I'm feeling like I'm doing something very wrong. I feel a lot for her and we're really happy together, but, I just don't know where I would stand legally if I have sex with ...
A. 6 January 2006: It's quite simple, old chap. Don't do the naughty with her until she's 16! The old bill could be knocking round your place before you know it if something went wrong in the relationship, as there are around 18 ways to prove you had done underage ... (read in full...)
His idea to break up, but he's just hanging around in a "halfway" state and it's driving me crazy!
Q. ARRGHHH! My ex is completely doing my head in. We broke up about five months ago - his idea cos he wigged out at too much intimacy to soon and there was instant pressure to get married or we would be separated by some visa issues. Before that we'd ...
A. 3 January 2006: You shouldn't really be having sex with a guy who doesn't know what he wants, specially if you're not in a relationship with him. Quite frankly, it seems to me that he's using you. You should either be in a relationship with him, or not.. There ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the destructive relationship I've left behind?
Q. A few months ago, i got out of a very destructive relationship, for both people. Im trying to move on, and get out the past, but i feel i cant. Ive had a few chances with other women, i mean if id taken the chance i would probably be in a happy ...
A. 3 January 2006: Getting over someone is always long and painful. I havn't gotten over an ex who broke up with me in April. But it gets easier as time goes by, and the best thing to do is tell her exactly what you want to. Seriously. If you want to yell and scream ... (read in full...)
He slept with me and someone else...should I feel hurt??
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 7 months ago after a year together because i felt i did not love him anymore despite him being kind, caring and considerate. He adored me but i felt he was too nice. We had our ups and downs as friends since but recently ...
A. 3 January 2006: You'd be surprised how often this sort of thing happens. Look, if he broke up with this girl for you, then it's not worth dwelling on, in my opinion. I mean, if you want him back, and he wants you back, and he HAS split up with this girl so he can ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex and my boyfriend is returning soon!
Q. I feel so guilty, my boyfriend has been away for 3 weeks now and i have been faithful to him the entire time, then yesterday my ex came over and i still love him very much and we got caught up on our feelings and i ended up sleeping with him. I lo...
A. 3 January 2006: You know what? This happened to me last year. She was away for 2 weeks in Florida, and I slept with an ex , who I had feelings for. I told my girlfriend what happened, and she never really forgave me.. We broke up (she broke up with me) on April ... (read in full...)
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