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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months now, and I'm completely in love with him. See, I met him in school. He already had a girlfriend for almost 2 months then, and another one, who was out of the country, both at the same time. He didn't love the one in Korea anymore but he still loved the 2 month-girl. Tuesday, Sept 27, he asked a friend and I to go to a mall after our classes. The friend got a text message from someone and he left the two of us. He treated me to some ice cream and we talked a little, went to this open place were people could hang out or walk by the bayside. It rained hard, we got wet and had to seek shelter somewhere and we had to stand close to each other, blablabla.. I got dizzy, he held my hand, escorted me to where I go to ride home and he never let go of my hand until I got inside the vehicle. We ended up liking each other. Wednesday, we had no classes so we just text messaged each other. Thursday, after classes, we hung out in the same place where we got soaked, but this time, we stayed by the fountain. When I had to leave, we couldn't ride the bus together because he still had to wait for his girlfriend who still had a class til 9pm. He went with me to the bus stop and, I dunno how, coz it was sudden, he kissed me. He was able to do it 4 times actually. That was my first and I was in a state of shock. Friday night, we went to the place again and we drank beer a little, we got drunk, I couldn't stand properly and I reeked of beer, so he suggested we go to a motel so that we could bathe but when we got there, I was so weak that I wouldnt get off the bed and we ended up having sex. He found out I wasn't a virgin anymore and talked to me about lying but he forgave me anyway. Then we became boyfriend-girlfriend and I broke up with my current boyfriend after telling him what I did. We stayed together for about 3 months before he broke up with his other girlfriend, but he kept telling me that he was in love with me and not with them and that -I- had to wait before he did it. He's about 10 years older which makes him about 27, and he has 2 children with different moms but they're not with him anymore. He's in school because he's studying again. My friends and family, excluding my mom, don't want him for me. They say he's just using me. I can't say that doesn't cross my mind, but really love him and we wanna be together and I wanna wake up to him every morning and take care of him when he grows old. For 4 months now, I have been in love with him every day, but everyone just seems to be going against our relationship. They tell me I can't get anything from him, even HE tells me that. But I'm not asking him for anything in return. People are just too narrow-minded to understand. But sometimes, I think that I'm too blinded to see, coz sometimes, I DO feel like I'm being used. For school, for money and for sex... but I love him..Should I hold on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): There's a reason this 27-year old is going after you, a 17-year old. He thinks he can get away with his behavior with someone young and optimistic, knowing his past yet thinking things could be different with you. I've been through this before when I was 18, the guy was 25, he also had children. This guy will be playing around for the rest of his life, jumping from one girl to the next, completely irresponsible. Do not ignore your feelings, if you sense you are being used and everyone around you also sees this, then you are being used. Get away from this loser as fast as you can and never turn back no matter how much he tries to coax you. Be strong and show him you have more dignity than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2006): Watch out..you have a major 'player' here. And you may be one of his 'playthings' until a better offer comes along. He has a string of gf's, kids, etc in his past-and you need to take note of his behaviours. Four months is way too soon to say you love him. Unrelenting infatuation has just snuck up and grabbed a hold of you. But with those feelings, we must use rational thought. Here is a man who has had 2 prior relationships with children. Have you asked yourself, 'why' these past 2 relationships didn't pan out? Does he have committment problems? Is he supportive and a loving dad? I'm sure he's given you some very good reasons that you want to believe..but I would investigate further. The beginning of a relationship is the time, we don't just blindly hand over our trust and love to someone..we use that time to take all avenues to see if he's 'who he says he is'. When one yearns so much to grab hold of someone you 'don't really know'-we get blinded to relaity. You can't go just by what he's telling you--please, give this some time and careful re-evaluation. I'm only telling you this, because you have protect yourself. Listen to your instincts and apprehensions about this relationships...instincts are wonderful, they are their to protect us. Always listen to your inner voice. And your friends and family are sensing something is amiss. Have they met and talked to him? If they have, then consider their advice....they are not blinded-they are being rational and they truely care about you. Watch his behaviours..they will tell you who he truely is. How does he handle trying circumstances? How does he treat others? His friends, your friends...family? So many things to be aware of and to consider, hun. Remember, 'feelings and just feelings' can get you into a pack of trouble. Blend those feelings with rational thought and a conscience. Doing this will really open your eyes..be smart..be careful.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (2 February 2006):
 No. You should get out of there, before he leaves you for someone else. Someone like that will probably have another girlfriend already that you don't know about, and in a few months you'll be on your own again, but with added pain.
I think you should get out of there before he does.
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