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writes:I feel so guilty, my boyfriend has been away for 3 weeks now and i have been faithful to him the entire time, then yesterday my ex came over and i still love him very much and we got caught up on our feelings and i ended up sleeping with him.I love my boyfriend very much and i don't want to loose him and i know if i told him he would leave.my ex wants me back and i'm so confused because of what we did, it brought back so many memories and i think that was his intention.My boyfriend comes back on Saterday and I don't know what to do! Please please help
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reader, CCNJ +, writes (13 January 2006):
You need to decide if you want the man you're with. If you still have strong feelings for your ex- you may not be ready for the relationship you're in. I don't know your current situation or why things didn't work out with your ex... but those are questions you need to ask yourself. Put it on paper- it really does work. Take some time for you and figure out what it is you miss... and what you like about what you have now.
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reader, Horseshowmama +, writes (13 January 2006):
Keep it locked up in your head. Do not tell your boyfriend, or trust me you will lose him. No damage was done, you have realized your mistake so forget it and get on with your life with your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): I don't think thats is's such a goog idea. If you have a boyfriend, that you love, you would't have sleept with him. so say to you selvf: do i love my ex, og my boyfriend ?
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (3 January 2006):
 You know what? This happened to me last year. She was away for 2 weeks in Florida, and I slept with an ex , who I had feelings for. I told my girlfriend what happened, and she never really forgave me.. We broke up (she broke up with me) on April 1st. I'm not sure how it'd apply this way round (as you're the girl), but I can safely say that you should tell him, as he needs to know. Give him some space if he needs it, and if he's any kind of boyfriend he'll forgive you.The only other advice I can give is, you know how much this hurt you, right? It'll stop you ever doing it again. Trust me, it still haunts me what I did.. And it was over a year ago.
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reader, cam  +, writes (3 January 2006):
 i think first u need 2 decide if u want 2 stay with u'r boyfreind if u have feelings for u'r ex. if u decide u want 2 stay wif him then u should probably tell him. it would be hard for him but eventuly he will accept and hopefully forgive. there will always be regret but u may regret not tellin him in the future
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (3 January 2006):
 Dearie, in your posting u have indicated that u have feelings for both your ex and your present boyfriend. you said u dont want to loose your boyfriend but u still have a thing with your ex and i feel you might just end up sleeping with him again. Will this be fair on your boyfriend? really?
You have to make up ur mind which of the two guys u want to be ONLY. if not u will just keep getting entangled and u will be in a complicated mess like this one and u may end up inadvently loosing the two guys.
My own advise here is to tell your boyfriend what happened it is only fair u do. maybe someone else here will advise u different but i always believe in the truth.If u didnt want to put ur relationship at risk then u shouldnt go sleeping with ur ex in the first place.
I hope he is able to forgive u really, if u not u learn from this and move on.
i sincerely wish u all the best.
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