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writes: Hi everybody I am a 13 y o and turn 14 on the 20th Feb but my bf and I are going out to celebrate. We are going to a kids' nightclub and I'm really exited. He has been saving up for 5 months for my present and I am looking forward to it, but then the thing is he says he wants us to go back to his house after and get comfy on his bed and maybe even have sex. We have talked about it and we have both said we want to lose our virginity to each other, but the thing is I don't know if I am actually ready. Does anybody have any advice they can give me please or has any one ever been in this situation? Thanx everyone. xx billie xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Are you insane? You're 13!
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (20 February 2006):
 Don't do it!!!!! If you are not sure that are ready right now then just don't do it please! Most people look back on how they lost their virginity and regret it because most people done it just to loose it!!! You and your boyfriend sound as if you have something good going on here if you can already talk about these things. But you are still quite young no wonder you're unsure. Your boyfriend sounds nice I bet he won't mind waiting until you are ready. If you wait until you are BOTH ready it will be extra special. and he will respect you more! When you do start having sex make sure you have contreception sorted. Condoms are a definate because they are the ONLY THING that protects you against diseases. It also quite important that you get yourself a back up contreception like the pill or the injection that makes double sure that you don't get pregnant! See you still have a lot to consider and discuss with your boyfriend. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2006): It's YOUR virginity and nobody elses!
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (14 February 2006):
nooooooooooo don't do it please! you will regret it in times to come! I lost mine when I was 14, and I wish I had waited, please don't do it, wait until you are sure you are ready and in a secure,happy and loving relationship! Charlie x
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reader, Maloletka +, writes (14 February 2006):
 Hello. Dont do something about what later on you will feel sorry. Maybe he is not the "prince" of your life, and you should waste any second more on him... Virginity is really serious, and you should take it seriously... I am 20, still virgin. I will loose my virginity after my wedding (My wedding is planned on August 12...) because i am 100% sure that my fiance is THE ONE who i LOVE, who I TRUST and with who i want to be for the rest of my life... And i want him to be the ONE WHO WILL TAKE MY VIRGINITY AND GIVE ME HIS IN OUR FIRST WEDDING NIGHT!!!
You can loose your virginity anytime when you would like to, but you will never become virgin again... That is something to think about!!!!!!!! Good luck, hopefully you will do everything by your way, not during pressure from your boyfriend... REMEMBER: LOVE IS PATIENT!!! If he really loves you, he will wait for you, until you will be ready!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): I have been in this siyuation, and I know it's tricky. What I did is tell my boyfriend that I didn't want sex yet, and he finished me. I thought I'd rather be boyfriend-less than have a boyfriend who pressurised me into doing things I didn't want to. Tell him you'd love to lose your virginity to him, but not yet because you're not ready. Tell him if you can keep the relationship going, then maybe later on when the relationshipo has progressed you can have sex. Like mister-squid said, it's illegal to have sex if you're under sixteen. You could get pregnant. The really scary fact is that around 65% of teenagers who have had sex regret it for one reason or another. You could get an STD/I (sexually transmitted disease/infection) like chlamydia which could affect your fertility and prevent you having children when your older. I'd leave it another few years if I were you sweetie.
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Don't do it if you don't want to. And don't let him blackmail you by saying things like "do it or we break up".. In which case you'll break up! Don't forget it's illegal for you to have sex!
If you don't think you're ready for something like that, then you're not. End of story.
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reader, JJanswers +, writes (13 February 2006):
 hi, i think that you need to tell ur bf how u feel and explain that ur not ready. Dont eva let a guy push u into doin something that ur not sure on. U r 14 and it sounds like you want to grow up too quickkly. My advise to u would be to talk to ur bf and just have fun bein a kid while u can becos befor u no it, ur grown up .i hope dat dis has helped and good luck.
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