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writes: I am 20, my girlfriend is 15. She's said she's ready for sex with me, but I'm feeling like I'm doing something very wrong. I feel a lot for her and we're really happy together, but, I just don't know where I would stand legally if I have sex with her.The fact she isn't a virgin makes me feel a little better, but it's not going to change the laws view on it. We're in England, so it's not legal until she's 16, it's only a few months away, but, does this make any difference??We have had clothed sex, and have done plenty of "non-penetrational stuff" but I'm just extremely frightened about the consequences, her mum is very, VERY open about sex, and her step dad is my GP! Still doesn't help an awful lot though...Also, it's nothing to do with the way I feel about her, when we first met, I could have sworn on oath that she was 21!! Not by how she dressed or her makeup, but, she actually looks it.If I was to go along with it, and anything happend that split us up, or ANYTHING bad, can I get in trouble, is there any way of getting evidence against me, how do police go about investigations like this??PLEASE HELP A.S.A.P!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): look dude, tell her not to do it i mean until 16 for pete's sake. it doesnt matter that she's ready for it cauze thats still breaking the law. your not even supposed to be having sex unless your married and use a condum dude, you dont want a baby already, do you? youre lucky because if some parents hear this is happening, they might try to KILL you. so atleast wait those few months until shes 16. other than that, think if you really even want to go through with it.
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reader, KTWASHERE  +, writes (28 August 2008):
Look, don't do it. You can get in so much trouble. My brother was in the same situtation, she was 15, and he was 20, and guess what? They did it, broke up, and she went to the police screaming rape...
Just wait. Like Mister Squid said: WAIT!!! Until she's at least of legal age...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): WAIT! its not worth it! 20 years of your life will be wasted! ull be 40 years old! omfg! you wont be able to go out with her with the parents will, and your parents will look down on you! MY MOM USE TO SAY WHENE I WAS A LITTLE BOY, TO STAY AWAY FROM THE SEX AFENDERS HOUSE! do u want that? no freinds, a life of lonlyness. I got fired because i was a sex offender! its not worth it! i know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2006): I'm 16 and I've had sex with a 14 year old girl. She told me she was 17 when we had sex but now I found out she's 14 and pregnant. I'm really worried about it too, I think I could get arrested. Don't worry about your problem cause if you have sex with her you'll probably last till she's 16 until you break up and she won't be able to do anything then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Hi! I have read your problem. You must wait. Dont mind I havent hear parents are open about sex! I am talking about your gf`s parents. I havent hear parents are open like this! Even in the USA parents doesnt allow their daughter sex with bf. Though they dont do it directly sometimes we can see they are very open maybe it depends on parents. However it seems to me wastern culture thats why free like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2006): Be careful. If it's only a few months till her birthday, wait, and make it really special.
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reader, mystify +, writes (8 January 2006):
 id like to pint out to anon that its not about male or female here, its about age and if the minor was male and the adult was male and the adult was female then the law will came down on her too, and in fact women have a hard enough time trying to get anyone to take sexual attacks seriously mostly they get accused of just "regretting what theyve done"
to the person who wrote this question, the laws are there to protect people and your girlfriend, and to help the parents responsible for thier children to protect them too. she is still thier responsibility and thier child so it is better to respect that than to get yourself worked up about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2006): Once again u have to play the law game....which is horse hockey. U and her probably love each other bigtime and the bull of it is is that u better comply with the law becuz if she gets the heeby geebies with u at all, after having the sex with u...she'll squash the petuties out of u becuz she can......that is the sick and reality of it in terms of who carries the power on the planet.....the almighty female.....lol. All the best to u.......ltr.
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reader, digitallysick +, writes (7 January 2006):
 Be extremely careful!!!! I had the same issue happen, and now I am listed as a sex offender!!!!! Find the laws for your state. We crossed the state line and had sex, the laws there were illegal!!!!! I was charged in both states. I was 19, and she was 15. I went to jail for a year, and probation for 3 yrs, to back up a 5 year prison sentence. If I screw up probation, trust me, its not worth it. No matter what she says, just wait it out!!!!!
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reader, Zabadack +, writes (7 January 2006):
wait a couple of months it's better than being a registered paedophile.. and that's how the law views it.
you'll have to register to go on holiday you know... tell the local police where you're staying just in case something happens in the area.
you want that looming over your head until you're 30?... didn't think so.
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reader, mystify +, writes (6 January 2006):
you are already unsure about your relationship as you are worring about her shopping you to the police,
if it is the legal side of things you are worried about then you should probably know that it sounds like you have already overstepped that line as masterbation and oral sex are considered to be sexual assault when with a CONSENTING girl under the age of 16.
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reader, vivi +, writes (6 January 2006):
hun if you love her and she loves you there is nothing better than making love to the person you love...BUT... she is 15 and you are 20 to me age is nothing but a number. but remember waiting a few more months can make a big difference. a 15year old can get you up to 20 years in prison. the fact the she isnt a virgin wont make any difference. i say wait it out. and if she has a problem with waiting you're better off not having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): this is wierd coz i'm in the exact same position with my boyfriend (only less complicated). i'm 15 and ready for sex, he's 18 and feels like he's doing something wrong if we do it. so maybe i'm a little biased to answer this question, but i think you should go for it! if it's important to her then you should try it, as long as you use protection. if you still think it's wierd after you've done it then tell her about it and she should understand (she'd be more understanding if you've already had sex and found it wierd).
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (6 January 2006):
 The fact that you're hesitant means that you shouldn't do it because in the back of your mind, you know it isn't the right choice, and you won't stop worrying if you do it! You're better off waiting it out until she's 16. After all, there are just a few more months... If you love each other, then you can control your urges and do the right thing! Just tell her that, although you care deeply for her and you are definitely attracted to her sexually, you're concerned about the legalities of it all and you want to do what is in everyone's best interests at the moment. I'm sure that she'll understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): trust me i have been in the same situation with my bf and it is better to wait for a few months. if you really love her you will and she will also know that you respect her enough to wait. hope this has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): For one you are to old to be dating a 15 year old girl, I'm not sure where you live but here anyone under the age of 18 is considered a minor and you can be prosecuted for ANY sexual contact with her. If I were you I'd worry less about sleeping with her and more about the fact that you are sexually attracted to children. I work for Child Protective Services and trust me buddy, you are better off just walking away on this one.
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (6 January 2006):
 It's quite simple, old chap. Don't do the naughty with her until she's 16! The old bill could be knocking round your place before you know it if something went wrong in the relationship, as there are around 18 ways to prove you had done underage stuff with her! I won't go into them, but there are. I won't go into Police investigations here, but they're very good at what they do.
Seriously, if you both love eachother, you'll damn well wait until she's old enough!
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