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female
age
36-40,
MissVee
writes:Please turn your mobile phone off, take the house phone off the hook and make yourself something delicious to drink. Lock the front door, sit down somewhere comfortable and listen carefully to what I have to say to you. I am, after all, a shamelessly proud woman and I won't tolerate your being distracted while we chat.After browsing through the letters on this site, I have come to the conclusion that people are more fearful of their own emotions than ever before. Most of society must be locked away in proverbial towers, held prisoner by their own tortured minds and souls, never once becoming privy to the fact that the enormous gold key hanging beside the door labelled "confidence" is the very key which will free them from their self-imposed prison.Bravery and confidence in your own ability to survive is the only way to knock that great, fearful warden, fear, on the head and walk free from the prison. Fear is, after all, the enemy to happiness, to self-esteem, to our relationships with others. All discontent stems from fear. When we worry that we will lose someone that we love, we cling to them like vines, wrapping our whole selves around them and weighing them down like an anchor. When we are worried that someone else will steal away the one we desire, we become envious. We flare up like volcanoes, spitting ash here and there, and we become toxic to all those who breath us in, and terrifying to those who view us. When we are fearful that we cannot cope, that our freedom might be curtailed, that we can't pay back our creditors, or meet our social obligations, we sink into a pit of despair and defeat that is like a black, cold grave, in which our fear is the soil which is heaped on top of us, preventing us from escaping as it slowly buries us alive. There is a clever little saying that goes as such: "There are two things you should never worry about: the things you can't change, and the things you can change." I find it to be an adequate slogan to scrawl into journals or tape onto your fridge if you're having a hard time. Fear is a horrible, horrible master, with no regard to your happiness and no kindness within it. It is the father of all hatred, envy, discontent, contempt and misery. Learn to vanquish it by having faith in your own ability to survive, and life will show you just how lovely it can be.It has been nice chatting with you. Feel free to now turn your phone back on and resume your life. Good luck with all your fearless endeavours.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Thanks for the good reminder!
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reader, ILoveCupid  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 "There are two things you should never worry about: the things you can't change, and the things you can change."
This is the most important take-away for me. Thanks and nice chatting with you :)
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (23 February 2011):
What a great article! Thanks.
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