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writes:dear cupid,I been searching a sites that can answer my problem, i know that is common problem but i dont know yet the answers. i been falling inlove with a man that is married. we been dating and no commitment for this situation. Why he dont tell me that he loves me but we been dating for almost a year. Yes i deeply falling inlove with him. I cant feel that he loves me. What shall i do. Yes accept him even hes married. I accept our situation. please advice me. thanks a lot. i waiting for your advice.
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reader, thirdstreet  +, writes (28 February 2011):
Being in love with a married man is more pain that it's worth. I have been in love with one for years. It is wonderful when we're together, but he always leaves and goes home to his wife. He makes promises he doesn't keep. He lies. And yet, I still want him. Read my blog to read my story. http://onewhowaits2.blogspot.com/
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reader, Snowe +, writes (23 February 2011):
Very common problem. The man you are "in love" with is an emotional abuser. He is preying on your feelings and naivete. He is going to hurt you tremendously, and anyone you tell is going to blame you for being the mistress. I know you are really only trying to follow your heart, but the truth is this guy is using you. Run for the hills!
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 He is married. That means he made a committment to his wife which, among other things, included "foresaking all others". In other words, he vowed before God that he wouldn't have anything to do with you.
Move on, find someone who isn't married.
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reader, happyface  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 i think he's not in love with you..because guys who are really in love with somebody always tell that "somebody" that he loves her, he cares for her, and the like..so i think you're just a "past-time" of that guy..(sorry for being rude, i just don't know how to say this in a "nice" way)..hmm and think about this, DO YOU WANT TO DESTROY A FAMILY? do you wanna see some people tearing apart because of you..i mean being a mistress of somebody is a serious thing, you are not just destroying yourself but you are also destroying somebody else's life, the future of the children..you are destroying a family, have you ever thought of that?, can your conscience bear that?..hmm i know you're in a hard situation now, and i also now that it wasn't all your fault..but try to do the right thing please, you know that being a mistress is absolutely wrong, right?, so please leave that guy, let that guy be in his family because his family needs him more than you do..there are still many single guys out there who are ready to give the love that you needed.. :)) hope this helps..don't get me wrong, i was just being honest, and i just wanted to help you :))
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reader, firstlovelastlove +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Everyone deserves the full and undivided attention of their partner. I would say take a step back and see who else is around you who can and will give you what you need and deserve.
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reader, MissVee  +, writes (20 February 2011):
Please, chicky, wake up and smell the pheromones! This man is simply using you as a place to park his penis when it's not in his pants or his wife. I'm sorry if that sounds horrible and vulgar, but there is simply no easier way for me to illustrate exactly how poorly this man is treating you!
You have spent one year generously lavishing your time and tender affections on a man who frankly has made you his second prize, his "better than nothing".
Obviously you have a tender heart, and I do admire your ability to accept people just as they are, but rather than wasting what is evidently a kind and caring heart on a man who has one wife but NO heart, why not find a man who will be wholly yours, who will give you his body and heart with no strings attached?
If this man loved you even a tenth as much as you care about him, he would not be married to SOMEBODY ELSE.
We only have a finite amount of life within us, and what little time we have on this earth speeds by so rapidly - too rapidly to waste it being in a state of misery and confusion! Be happy - find the real love of your life.
Best luck =)
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