May have to drop out of college, is there any hope for me if I do?
Q. Hey! I'd like to share something with you all and just gain some opinions and maybe some stories from others who may of not been able to continue with there education. As most of you guys already know I have Bipolar, and ontop of that I a...
A. 28 March 2014: Is it possible to take the least amount of classes at a time? Like going part or half time?... (read in full...)
I was put on hold for his friends!
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. He said that he would be with me on new years eve. He said we would have a meal together at his place. He also said that we would spend the whole day together. He contacted me at 11.00am that day, ...
A. 5 January 2014: Move on if he's done this many times. Go with your gut, it's always correct. ... (read in full...)
I went to the movies with a male friend. Was that cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for 2 years and 2 weeks ago he told me he's never had a gf before and that I was the first girl that got close to him and he developed feelings for me, I reminded him I have a boyfriend that I love, he said he was ...
A. 2 January 2014: I completely disagree with reader, YouWish, for a few reasons. If you have feelings for your friend and have thought about him and fantasized over him for quite some time and was not thinking about your boyfriend at all, then that is emotional ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's sister.
Q. Hi all, please can you guys give me your advice?! On new years eve, my best friend, his sister, her friend and I are going out of town for the night to celebrate.. The thing is, I seem to get on really well with my friends sister, we've all been o...
A. 29 December 2013: I'd say tell her how you feel! It's going to be a new year, start living your life!! Sure things might get awkward if she doesn't feel the same way, but then things will get better. Pay attention to body language... does she square her shoulders ... (read in full...)
Should I take two years off from my studies to pursue my dream of becoming an actor?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 24 years old and I have lived in a small city all my life due to which I couldn't pursue my dream to become an actor!education is a must so I dint want to quit studies and run after my dream so here I am,done with my studies ...
A. 25 December 2013: Definitely go for achieving your dreams, but make sure you have a plan! Save up so that you can rent an apartment and try to get a job lined up. Also see if you can take classes at a community college on the side so that you won't feel so behind. ... (read in full...)
Why do girls seem to prefer, and date, the guys who are cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types?
Q. Why oh why do girls prefer the cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types? Is it because they assume their children together will be born with a lightning bolt in their hands? Girls have done pretty skewed ways of finding guys thinking that they are bett...
A. 24 December 2013: As a woman, if a man treated me disrespectfully or was popping off all the time to me or to others, that would not fly. Cockiness might be mistaken for confidence,which may be why SOME women go for the "bad boy". Also, the forwardness might be ... (read in full...)
My friend forced me to makeout, how do I get over this guilt? I can't tell my boyfriend!
Q. Please help Recently I made a dumb impulsive decision to let a friend of mine drop me off in his car. His shocking colors came to picture when he insisted to kiss me and makeout. I refused for making out but he started insisting and wouldnt drop...
A. 15 October 2013: It's not your fault, you were coerced and your mind was probably in hyperdrive and could not think clearly. Try and get past it. Your boyfriend understands, leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 10 October 2013: Female anon, I'm sorry but I'm not really following XD... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 10 October 2013: Female anon, I'm sorry but I'm not really following XD... (read in full...)
Can you ever move on from a abusive relationship?
Q. Can I ever move on from being in a abusive relationship? Will I ever really, 100% trust another man again? I haven't started to date yet, since getting out of the relationship, but the thought scares me, as my ex seemed perfect and charming at ...
A. 9 October 2013: Yes. You deserve to be happy in every aspect of your life and you will. Continue to talk it out with someone whenever you need to and keep telling yourself that you're worth it. If you say a positive thing enough times, it will come true. I really ... (read in full...)
My friend forced me to makeout, how do I get over this guilt? I can't tell my boyfriend!
Q. Please help Recently I made a dumb impulsive decision to let a friend of mine drop me off in his car. His shocking colors came to picture when he insisted to kiss me and makeout. I refused for making out but he started insisting and wouldnt drop...
A. 9 October 2013: Tell your boyfriend what happened. And promise to get that loser out of your life. If your boyfriend doesn't believe you, then I'm sorry to say that he's not the man you need. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 9 October 2013: I just feel like I'm being examined or scrutinized. ... (read in full...)
I just want to tell him I have a crush on him!
Q. Hey guys, so i've had a crush on this guy at school (im also a guy and i am gay) but the problem is i've never had an actual conversation with him. Im also pretty sure hes straight even though he hasn't had a girlfriend. My problem is that im sure ...
A. 30 September 2013: Carpe diem, we're young! I'd say go for it because it will bother you until you do. ... (read in full...)
Am I giving him the wrong idea when we kiss and things? How do I tell him I want a serious commitment before I give him my v-card? How do I know he's the right one?
Q. I want to lose my virginity, but I'm afraid. I love this guy but we're not together, ive known him for some years and we recently decided to start talking a few months ago. I knew from years ago that he was the one I wanted to lose it too, but I wa...
A. 30 September 2013: Humans cannot read minds yet, you have to be EXPLICIT with what you want, or it could lead to heartache. Even if it's "awkward" to discuss things so serious in nature, it must be done. Trust me. ... (read in full...)
Afraid of coming across as "too available"
Q. I would like help from everyone, but am searching more for that guy perspective: I've met this awesome guy, and I think we clicked from the moment we introduced ourselves to each other. I really like hanging out with him, but I worry that if I ...
A. 30 September 2013: Brilliant responses, thank you so much!!!!!... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is using me.
Q. Hey, my boyfriend is 15years older than me. I am 21 and he is 36, I I think I might be falling for him, im not exactly in love as yet I dont want to get to that point yet and then I get heartbroken again. Here is the problem, he has 4 kids the ...
A. 6 June 2013: Make a plan for what each person will contribute to the living expenses. Talk it out with each other and try to make sure both of you have an open mind. Also, be sure that it is a good time to discuss it mentally and environmentally (no ... (read in full...)
He wants anal but it hurts, and he says I'll get used to it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years now and we have tried anal sex in the past but I find it painful at times and other times it’s alright. My issue is he won’t stop asking me for anal sex even after I've had some tearing as a result ...
A. 5 May 2013: If he's willing to continue to hurt you and not listen to what you have to save, I'd leave him. You don't want something to happen to you internally and then have a lot of medical costs and discomfort. ... (read in full...)
Risk the friendship with former teacher, or risk the whole thing?
Q. I'm about to be a sophomore in College and after a year of getting away from the high school scene, I thought a few feelings for a former teacher would subside, however, I think they've only grown. From my freshman to senior year in high school, ...
A. 5 May 2013: Try waiting till you're done with your 4-yr education. Things might change as you continue to surround yourself with people your age and with similar goals to you. If you still find that the feelings are there after that point, then go for it. ... (read in full...)
She moved on, why did he succeed where I failed?
Q. I broke up with my ex of 2 years because the relationship was very toxic. She treated me very badly and I didn't respond in kind. She had a very tough past and kept remnants of it. After 2 prior breakups, I realized that this one was for good and ...
A. 30 April 2013: Keep this phrase in mind "you take you wherever you go".
It may seem on the outside that she has changed and has a good solid relationship with the other guy... that could be the case, but I doubt it if she was so toxic with you. It sounds l... (read in full...)
Not attracted to my own race... am I shallow for this?
Q. So... I'm not interested physically or romantically to guys of my own race (black). I've never dated a black guy, and just don't find them appealing for a relationship. I have many black guy friends but that is all they are. And I feel horrible fo...
A. 30 April 2013: It would only be shallow if you don't give them a chance just because of the skin tone. I am not attracted to hispanic men at all, and I don't find it shallow at all. I'd go on a date with them if they're nice enough and asked me, but I'm not going ... (read in full...)
I'm in a LDR and falling for another man. What should I do?
Q. I've been with my current BF for more than 2 years, but we've spent more than 1.5 years in LDR. Honestly, it's a torture, but we managed to pull it through and in a couple of months we'll be able to see each other again for good (i'm going back ...
A. 19 April 2013: Give it a try before you break it off. It will be a big change going from an LDR to seeing each other more often and face to face. ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and afraid of being hurt in this relationship
Q. Hi, Firstly just want to say I have not had many girlfriends and was desperately hurt by my last one by being dumped when I thought we had a serious future together (marriage, kids etc). Now I am with another girl (9 months) and still find I...
A. 17 April 2013: You need time to make yourself whole before embarking on a relationship with someone. Do your personal homework and find out how you can build your sense of self-worth. I would recommend a book on interpersonal communication. It has helped me so ... (read in full...)
I love 2 men and don't want to hurt either of them
Q. I am in a very weird position. I love two men! I was dating a man in the army who was just about to deploy, he said he really likes me etc etc Then he went away and we decided to talk about taking our relationship further when he comes back. He is ...
A. 19 January 2013: As Johnny Depp has said, “if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.” ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...
A. 4 October 2012: Sex is clearly not everything. I understand that you were lonely, but it seems like you used your wife's success and time consuming job as an excuse to sleep with an old flame. Clearly there are some issues with your wife and her need to bury her... (read in full...)
Ever since my attractive friend moved in with us, my boyfriend has asking me for sex every night! Should I be worried about him suddenly being so aroused? Or am I being paranoid?
Q. Hello! So my bf and I needed a roommate for financial reasons and, due to extenuating circumstances, my very attractive friend moved in with us. It's a weird situation that I really did not want to get into. Before he and I started dating, ...
A. 20 September 2012: If he is paying complete attention to you despite your attractive friend coming into the equation, I would say enjoy it!!
However, I would pay attention to the type of sex you are having. Does he focus on you? Does he seem distant? Is he performi... (read in full...)
What does my ex want from me now? How do I tell him it will not happen?
Q. I was dating this guy back in 1995 and we hit it off andfor a while we were in a relationship for a year to two years. We would constantly break up and then make up. After that we lost contact I moved away and so did he but I most likely wante...
A. 8 September 2012: I'm a straight shooter. I would honestly say "it won't happen, not in the coldest day in hell." Then go grab a drink together or something... (read in full...)
I'm a plus size woman who has lost weight recently. Why has my Bf made no comments on my weight loss?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a plus sized woman with an average sized boyfriend. He makes me feel so confident with myself and always shows so much respect for me. I have been starting to lose a sigificant amount of weight, and he hasn't mentioned an...
A. 8 September 2012: I'm thinking that he doesn't want to discourage you or mess with your mojo. So he is not saying anything that could detract from your personal goals.
If he keeps being aloof and it muddles into other parts of your relationship, definite... (read in full...)
Should I get the gastric bypass surgery done?
Q. I'm 16 almost 17, I have always been overweight and at this time in my life I think I'm ready to move forward and start working to lose my weight. I'm in the 300s and I'd really love to lose this. I know people are going to say your young and w...
A. 6 September 2012: I vote no. Only because you are very young and your body is still developing. This could add to the list of complications. There are ways to lose the weight in a healthy way. 1 pound a week is considered healthy. Anything more must be under careful ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to miss me? How do I get him to talk to me?
Q. me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday over something stupid. When we fight, I usually keep quiet but yesterday i was so full of anger so I fought back. I know I got so angry because he never keeps his promises and he always lied to me. I love so ...
A. 6 September 2012: From an outsider's perspective, it sounds to me like he isn't worth it. If he always lies to you and doesn't make an effort to keep promises, then you'll just have these problems over and over again.
I would really, really, really reconsid... (read in full...)
Student/teacher relationship??
Q. My personal fitness coach at my high school is close in age with her students and is an attrative woman. Theres one student in her class,a senior male, and they are always together, the teacher and the student. If we need partners in the class they ...
A. 6 September 2012: Go with your gut. If you feel that something is wrong or suspicious, it probably is. I'm not sure how your particular school deals with teacher/student relationships if the student is at the age of consent. Some states/cities/governments vary. If it ... (read in full...)
When I said we should break up I was trying to get his attention, but he took me seriously!
Q. Dear cupid, I m desperate! I ve been with this guy for 3 years,it was a distance relationship and this year i was finally about to move to his country and move in with him!I was searching 4 schools and jobs there,and it was all more difficult c...
A. 2 September 2012: Quick question, why did you have to move to his country? How did you meet?
Here's how I look at it.
1.) Perhaps this is a good thing, it shows that he is not the one for you. If he really loved you, breaking up would not be an option.
2.) ... (read in full...)
How do I not worry with my long distance girlfriend going out and having a drink?
Q. Let me just say at the front that I get the need for drinking. It's a great escape with an awesome buzz that helps you just relax and go crazy and forget about the stress that have been bothering you for a while or during your work week. I used to ...
A. 2 September 2012: If she hasn't given you any reason to worry when you two were together, then don't sweat it. It's just your alter ego coming out to bother you. If you really can't let it go, talk to her about it. ... (read in full...)
It broke my heart and I cried my eyes out!
Q. Okay I've never done this before and don't know where to even begin. The other night I did something stupid and went through my boyfriends msgs on facebook. We've been together for just over 5 weeks. We have just started renting a property in both ...
A. 3 August 2012: Kick him to the curb. You'll find someone else who isn't such a wimp to tell the truth and be a man of substance. ... (read in full...)
I need to get out of the rigid, male dominated world that I am trapped in and pursue my dreams, but I'm helpless!
Q. This is not a love question really but perhaps am writing it now because I really need help maybe some comforting words or even encouraging ones Am an 18 years old girl from the Arab world I have 2 brothers !! As an Arab girl am certainly not be e...
A. 24 July 2012: Try to apply for scholarships. There is a lot of money out there so take the time to write an amazing essay and I'm sure you'll get something. These prompts are often all about hardship, and based on what you just described, you'll be a shoe-in.
H... (read in full...)
Our date nights are boring, and not what I like to do!
Q. Im having some issues with our date nights. My bf and i live together and have two children. When we have a date night, whether we have a bby sitter or not we tend to do the same things. We either go out to a movie go out to dinner rent a red box ...
A. 21 July 2012: You could go wine tasting, take dance classes at a community center (usually more inexpensive), walk the boulevard of the downtown city at night, get some paints and try to paint a picture of each other, go see a jazz concert!!!, garden, make a ... (read in full...)
Is it for the thrill of it all?
Q. Hi Aunts, I have a question i would like to ask you all,as i can't seem to make any sense of it. I have been having a affair with a married man for quite some time,years actually,so please if any of you are going to preach to me that i'm doing wr...
A. 21 July 2012: I would have to agree with pinktopaz, you need to ask him straight up. But, since Cerberus brought up those points, be careful because you might not want to know the answer. Are you prepared to leave the relationship? Would you stay no matter what? ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty about making out with my guy friend, I feel like I've let my parents down
Q. I've known this guy friend of mine for almost two years already. During which we talk a lot and we've grown closer recently because he has been with me through my darkest days and all. Thing is, we made out while we were alone one day. It was ...
A. 21 July 2012: Oh okay. I think your parents were right in teaching you to respect your body and self, but this is nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks to the many chemical releases from your brain, you felt a connection and a really good feeling, so you kissed him. ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty about making out with my guy friend, I feel like I've let my parents down
Q. I've known this guy friend of mine for almost two years already. During which we talk a lot and we've grown closer recently because he has been with me through my darkest days and all. Thing is, we made out while we were alone one day. It was ...
A. 18 July 2012: Why do you think of your parents in this situation? How have you disappointed them? Please expand so we can help :)... (read in full...)
If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal?
Q. If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal? We are both in mid thirties, been together going on 2 years. When is it time to walk away in search of finding someone who will wanna get ...
A. 14 July 2012: They say that if you've been together 7 years and no proposal, it's time to move on. ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so distant?
Q. hi everyone im in a ldr situation. and ny boyfriend is cold to me like hes always grumpy at me. and bot mood to talk, i dont know whats going on to him, whats bothering him. theres one time i ask him if he is ok? and he said hes fine! but hes bery ...
A. 10 July 2012: So he's not from here or he works in a different country?... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so distant?
Q. hi everyone im in a ldr situation. and ny boyfriend is cold to me like hes always grumpy at me. and bot mood to talk, i dont know whats going on to him, whats bothering him. theres one time i ask him if he is ok? and he said hes fine! but hes bery ...
A. 8 July 2012: As frustrating as this is, you'll have to give him time. There may be something going on with him that he cannot open up with yet. If you can't think of anything that you might have done to upset him, then it's not you. Just be there when he needs ... (read in full...)
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