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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (29 March 2014):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou Aunt Westie. That gives me a lot more faith to know that it is possible to go and get a job.
And Malletchick, I have already dropped one subject, its not always the work load which makes it difficult but sometimes just the environment. x
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (28 March 2014):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much chigirl. That has helped me out loads! I just get so worried when it comes to things like that, my college like many others, really like to put on the pressure. It just doesn't help when you have lots of teachers and other students telling me that if I don't achieve this or that I am not going to get anywhere. Also as my sixth form is number 16 I think in the league tables for England, they want all there students to be on target, and have perfect attendance so they don't lose there spot. I guess my main problem is I just get so dis-heartened, I am a bright spark, and I genuinely love learning, so when something gets in the way of it such as mental health disorders I feel very frustrated with myself, that some students can go everyday and do brilliantly at everything and I can barely manage a week. It doesn't help when in this country Mental Health disorders aren't understood enough so not many young people or teachers infact have a clue what i'm going through, so they carry on putting on the pressure. I will take it in mind that if you work hard enough you can get anywhere like the people you mentioned in your answer, and thankyou for your kind words.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 March 2014):
 Yes. People do get by without having gone to college or finishing any higher education. Most people don't take higher education, if I may remind you. I know more people of my generation and yours take higher education than previous generations, and at school you see so many people it is hard to forget... not the entire country goes to school. Still, the majority of any nation does not take higher education. And yes, they do get on fine, they don't live in carton boxes on the side walk, they don't even have poorly paid jobs. Some earn way more than me, because instead of using 7 years on education they built up a career. And unlike me, they don't have debts either. They live happy, normal lives.
My boyfriend never went to college, he's 27 now and he's doing just fine, earns just about the same as I do and without debts. He is actually still in education, still not sure yet what he wants to do, and wondering on changing careers altogether! You're never too old. I am sure he also felt like a failure at one point, when he realized university wasn't for him. I also have a good friend who didn't even finish high school! But she worked, and then she got into university at around 24 years of age, and she is now getting her masters degree, but still working on the side, and she makes way more money than I do, even though I finished my masters over a year ago.
No, you absolutely do not need to go to college now, your life will NOT take much damage from waiting a few years (or maybe even just one year). My friend felt like a bit of a failure when she started uni at 24, when most people start at 19! But she got over that quickly, when she realized how much smarter people actually do get when they are older, and she ended up being best in every class...
No, seriously, people around you are right. 2-3 years from now and you wont even notice you missed a year or a semester. It's nothing at all to worry about. I know that right now it feels awful, this isn't what you wanted. But it is what it is and it isn't the end of the world by a long shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2014): I had a feeling I was going to breakdown at one point, so I left college at the beginning of my second year.
Honestly, you can get a basic job after your mental health has improved and is under control, then pay to go back to college. It's free until you're 19 anyway.
I mean, think about it; how good is your work going to be if you're not at your best? How much greater will you be when your mental health is better?! :)
Life throws sh*t at us, but your mental health is a MAJOR part of you and you can't function to your full potential until your mental health has improved.
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reader, malletchick76  +, writes (28 March 2014):
 Is it possible to take the least amount of classes at a time? Like going part or half time?
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