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writes:My personal fitness coach at my high school is close in age with her students and is an attrative woman. Theres one student in her class,a senior male, and they are always together, the teacher and the student. If we need partners in the class they are always together as partners which is weird because usually teachers dont partner up with students. They also will be by thereselves a lot, one day the class was walking to the track and the teacher went into the gym she didnt say why and he went with her and then they came out together with nothing in there hands so they werent grabbing anything. Everyday we walk outside to the track and they walk together and talk about stuff I wouldnt talk to my teacher about (nothing sexual). If we are in the gym for the day and class is over they are always the last to leave the gym together. During study hall he goes into her room and sits next to her desk and they just talk. Does any of this seem suspicious like maybe something is going on. I need advice because teenagers do have a way of jumping to the wrong idea.
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reader, JaneDoe71  +, writes (6 September 2012):
Looks like the personal fitness coach is getting "personal" with one of her students.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): If i saw all that I would think the same thing as well and I'm not a teenager, so I would go with a gut feeling but I does seem like something is kindling up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): There could be a lot of explanations for this. At first glance it does seem inappropriate and crosses the line between student and teacher, but sometimes humans in general have a way of letting their minds elaborate things. Partnering up with the student perhaps he's fit and can keep up with the teacher or maybe it's an uneven number of kids in the room. Now if she's automatically like "Hey let's be partners", then yes that would be strange but you didn't really indicate that in your question. Being by themselves a lot can also make people's mind wonder, but you don't know what went on in the gym so I wouldn't automatically jump to conclusions with that. Every teacher has their favorite that is just how it is, them walking together to the track isn't all that strange but the conversations is what makes the situation strange and you really didn't explain what they talk about. I'm assuming school just started not that long ago, because my kids went back 4 weeks ago, so if they are talking about home life or anything like that, that would be strange considering they just met each other. Being the last one's to leave I really don't have an explanations for because obviously the senior waits on the teacher and vice versa for that happen, so that is the strangest part to me, especially after gym, most people want to run and change out of their gym clothes. I'm not really sure one what to say about the study hall. I would just observe more, him being a senior maybe he's known the gym teacher since freshman year so they became close that way. If you feel things are getting out of hand then let someone know. Maybe tell the teacher before things get out of hand and she can fix it, maybe she doesn't realize that's the perception everyone is having.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): One thing I would look for which you didn't mention in your question, is if the teacher is really touchy feely with the student. Also you mentioned a track so if they partner up for activities I'm going to guess they run together too, if so there's something else. One other thing I'd look for is does the teacher act like this to other students? Some teachers favor boys over girls and vice versa. The whole situation does seem strange and inapporperate for a student/teacher relationship, but a gym teacher usually is more hands on with students when it comes to activities but sometimes even that line can be crossed. But I'd be very careful with this subject at your school, some states take it seriously and the teacher could get in trouble and even lose her job. Maybe you could talk to the teacher and tell her whats going on so she can put rumors to an end. You said the teacher is close in age so she could be flirting without realizing shes flirting and the boy is running with it.
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reader, malletchick76 +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Go with your gut. If you feel that something is wrong or suspicious, it probably is. I'm not sure how your particular school deals with teacher/student relationships if the student is at the age of consent. Some states/cities/governments vary. If it is making you uncomfortable or distracting you, definitely take it to another person in power that you can trust. You should be learning at school, not watching a soap opera.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Well this certainly does sound a bit inappropriate. At the very least some other teacher should talk to the gym teacher and make sure nothing is going on, for both their sakes. However, it very well could be that the student has found someone to confide in with the teacher where no one else could help. It's good to be able to have someone like that. But teachers are supposed to have a code of ethics and this friendship of theirs just isn't ethical. Again, there may not be anything going on sexually but whatever is happening needs to be checked into by another adult. Maybe you should privately tell another one of the teachers that you trust what you know and they would probably handle it without involving you.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (6 September 2012):
 I am a high school teacher, and there is NO WAY I would be this close with any one particular student. It clearly sends an inappropriate message to the student, so yes, I think there is something inappropriate going on. Maybe it's not sexual...yet...but definitely not appropriate for a student/teacher relationship. I've had male students come to talk to me between classes (or during their class when I'm on break and they're on their way to the bathroom), and I always leave my door open, and I make sure to keep the conversation short because things can become out of hand very quickly (the student might develop a crush, other people might suspect something, etc). I would report this to the principal if I were you. Just tell him what you have noticed- you will remain anonymous and the information you give will be confidential.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): All the things you said seem very strange but one thing i can think of that could be an alternative idea is that maybe the senior has a crush on the teacher and the teacher is just being nice. But the weirdest thing to me is them partnering up for activities, i agree with what you said usually teachers either do their own thing or dont participate at all :/
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