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writes:I've been with my current BF for more than 2 years, but we've spent more than 1.5 years in LDR. Honestly, it's a torture, but we managed to pull it through and in a couple of months we'll be able to see each other again for good (i'm going back home), no more LDR.It used to be my dream to end this LDR and see him everyday again, but recently I got really anxious and worried. I don't think I love him as much as I did before, I felt that I'm not ready to be with him often again. To top it up, I've met another man who seems to be attracted to me as well. Should I break up with my BF and be with the other man? Knowing that we'll only have couple of months to be with anyways until I go home.Or should I stick with my BF, knowing we'll see each other in 2 months? But if I do this, the other man will never know my feelings to him and I'll never know if he's meant to be. I'll never see him again afterwards.Should I cheat with the other man, and never tell my BF? We'll never meet each other again anyways and my BF doesn't need to know Reply to this Question
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reader, malletchick76  +, writes (19 April 2013):
 Give it a try before you break it off. It will be a big change going from an LDR to seeing each other more often and face to face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): I think you are scared and sabotaging yourself. You're afraid of a normal relationship so the ldr was useful even though you say it was hard. Now that the ldr will be over, you're afraid so you're willing to throw away what could be a solid relationship for another ldr (or short term relationship). Doubts are doubts. But you don't know what a normal relationship with your bf will be like. Don't run away now. Face it and find out so you can be sure. If it doesn't work out in a normal setting then it doesn't work out. what do you have to lose. Face? control? rejection? You can only find out and learn by trying.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 March 2013):
You obviously loved this guy enough to suffer through a long LDR, so why in the world would you give up when you're so close? Especially for a guy who "seems to be attracted to you"? That's weak to say the least, and it's also not very fair to the guy who has hung on this long waiting for you. Besides, are you going to start dating this other guy only to start another LDR when you move?
It's only natural that things have cooled between your boyfriend and you, it is a LDR after all. I'm sure he feels the same way (even if he doesn't express it).
What you need to do is take things slow when you get back. Tell him you need time to get back in the swing of things. If your feelings never return then it's safe to say you've grown apart.
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