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writes:I've known this guy friend of mine for almost two years already. During which we talk a lot and we've grown closer recently because he has been with me through my darkest days and all. Thing is, we made out while we were alone one day. It was clearly a no strings attached, and we can still be friends and should either one of us be attached in future we'd stop. And by make out I mean just kissing and hugging and nothing more. I don't feel guilty at all. And we are both comfortable about it. But given my parents strict upbringing, I feel like I've disappointed them. I've heard of fwbs but there's no way I'll ever go to that stage. But why do I feel so confused and guilty when I see my parents?
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reader, malletchick76  +, writes (21 July 2012):
 Oh okay. I think your parents were right in teaching you to respect your body and self, but this is nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks to the many chemical releases from your brain, you felt a connection and a really good feeling, so you kissed him. This is totally natural!!
If your parents do find out just reassure them that they raised you well and it's nothing to worry over.
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reader, Angel S  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 Hi,
Dont be so hard on yourself! It wasn't as if you went too far with this guy or anything, as you said he is a close friend and at a young age feelings/emotions can take over in moments. No matter what your parents think about cherishing your own body, I am sure they would prefer you to have a boyfriend that you have been good friends with for two years than just a stranger you have met.
I understand that this guy is not your boyfriend but if he were to be then I can't see it being a frowned upon situation.
Don't feel guilty around your parents, it really isn't anything to be ashamed of.
Hope things work out for you.
Xo xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi malletchick76 I didn't think about my parents only until after I did that. Basically it's just how they always preach about how I must love and cherish and own body. So should they find out I've done this behind their backs, I guess they'd feel disappointed although personally I don't see anything wrong with it as long as things do not get too far.
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reader, malletchick76 +, writes (18 July 2012):
Why do you think of your parents in this situation? How have you disappointed them? Please expand so we can help :)
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (18 July 2012):
 Excuse me, but that is ridiculous.
Every time you worry about what other people think, because you do something that feels right to you, you let yourself down.
Do what you know to be right for you, and do what you want.
You kissing a man that treats you well, that you get along with, that you know and like, will not cause your parents to be hurt.
If they are hurt by what amounts to your happiness, then they are selfish and letting you down.
Do what is best for you.
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