Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 25 January 2006: There you are. What's your response dude? I think if you feel the same all this while, then leave. For good. If you dont want to go, then remain. But willingly.... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from my married lover and find happiness with the single guy who is pursuing me?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship with a married man for the past 7 months since june of 2005. I met him online when I was living in Cheyenne Wy. He did not disclose to me up front that he was married and he did not tell me until after 3 days I h...
A. 25 January 2006: Change the locks. Dont do routine stuff for a couple of months. He cant keep track. He'll tire. But be cautious. He sounds weird.... (read in full...)
What't he best way to get over someone you really loved?
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend broke up almost 2 months ago. No matter what I do I can't get over him. I really loved him and now I have no idea what to do. How do I get over someone that I really loved?...
A. 25 January 2006: Go and do stuff that people do when they split up. Take time to reflect what you contributed to the break up. Hope that he is doing the same. Let time take its healing toll. Then if you find each other again, take it from there. Otherwise you are ... (read in full...)
After a raunchy text from my ex, I don't know if he wants me back...
Q. I split from my ex a year ago, but I am still madly in love with him. He was my first 'real' boyfriend and I love him. He does have a new girlfriend but she gets jealous of me easily. My ex and I were friends when we were kids and his girlfriend ...
A. 25 January 2006: The real split is in algae and atomic particles. Everyhting else is merely an arrangement. Let's be rational for a moment. You are mad'ly' in love with him. Love is a temporary madness. It runs out of fuel. Then people use alternatives to get the ... (read in full...)
Can anyone share an experience when they fell for an older man?
Q. I am 47, and have met a girl who is aged 19; I have now become completely smitten with her. I think she fancies me, but cannot be sure, we flirt constantly. I would like to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation, if you were the girl, ...
A. 25 January 2006: The issue isnt you are 47 or that she is 19. Its in being despaired upon rejection. You are smitten. Flirting. She is responding. She fancies you obviously. If you both went and obtained the counselling of a counselling psychologist, you would both ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair and watches porn.
Q. My husband has been lying to me, watching porn alone and has had a affair. what is wrong? ...
A. 25 January 2006: If you watch porn for fun, then you are a voyeur. Probably explains why women get turned off whilst men get turned on. Dr John Gray attributes this to cavemen days. The men had to go and stalk for their prey and countless hours of watching and ... (read in full...)
I fancy my sister...
Q. Iam 15 and but I fancy my 22 year old sister. I find her so sexy and want to have sex with her. What is wrong with me?...
A. 25 January 2006: Nothing is wrong with you. But if anyone else should fancy you, then something is really wrong with them. You are a prankster. You think we have nothing else better to do except treat people as snifflers and give them pathetic advice. Bro, I have ... (read in full...)
No self-confidence and I'm a virgin at 25. Where do I start?
Q. Hi, Got a good question. I am 25 and I am a virgin. A pure virgin. Never been kissed, Never had a girlfriend. I have a low self confidence since been bullied at school and I've just watch "The 40 Year Old Virgin". It was very uncomfor...
A. 25 January 2006: What is going on here/ Are you a 'pure' unadulterated virgin because of low self confidence or are you a virgin who has loads of self confidence but wants to remain 'pure'.
You are not some organic being. You have issues of morality hanging like... (read in full...)
I cheated on my bf and hurt him real bad...I still love him so how do I fix this?
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend and really really hurt him. i love him, but now he thinks that i dont. i dont blame him, but i still want to be with him and want him to see that i love him. how do i fix this?...
A. 25 January 2006: Sorry, but cheating in examinations means disbaring or even expellation. cheating in business means a hefty fine & perhaps a custodial at a correctional facility.
Now cheating in relationships isnt an offence. There is no punishment. The ship in t... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think after my girl send me a pic of her boob! Was it a honey-trap?
Q. Hi there, Please help... I received a text last night while I was having a curry and a few beers with a mate of mine from a number that was unknown. It read, "Hi, do you fancy a $hag?" I ignored this as I am not into cheating and I lov...
A. 25 January 2006: Relax man. People in love do dumb things. people out of love do dumber things. You are no dumb. You are cool man. But you've had your day in court. Now settle this out of court. And get on with life. How about sending a picture of your pri*k to her ... (read in full...)
Should I wait or move on?
Q. I was with my girlfriend for 4 years, but split up 3 weeks ago. I was the one to suggest it, then after a week I realized how much I loved her and really wanted her back. So I told her this, but she said it doesn't feel right to her. After some tea...
A. 25 January 2006: 4 years and then it was over 3 weeks ago. You split from her.The manly thing to do about it is not to have gone back to her. Why do you think its your prerogative to split and 'un'split yourself? She was hurt badly, man. Now that you went back to ... (read in full...)
Nervous about losing my virginity...will he fit in me?
Q. Dear Cupid, never done this before so here goes... I am a 19 yr old virgin and am beginning a relationship. I am really nervous about losing my virginity as I don't know what to expect. I get worked up about if he will fit in me as when I ...
A. 25 January 2006: Congratulations. Take it openly with him. That's the basis of many things to come. The issue is more than the tissue. Its about how you will fit into each other's perspective of what constitutes caring and taking it from there.... (read in full...)
I have no one to talk to about my parents' divorce. Even my older friend wouldn't listen!
Q. Hi My parents spit up this year and I'm really torn up about it. I'm fifteen now and they have wanted to get divorced since I was nine. I have never talked about it to anyone. I decided that I was gonna try to talk to my friend (30), but when I t...
A. 25 January 2006: Their divorce had nothing to do with you. Their issues are too complicated for you to understand. What you are disturbed about is the emotional adjustment that follows every break up in a family.Your situation is understandable. But your friend isnt ... (read in full...)
I need to cheat on my boyfriend. It gives me a thrill!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. We started going out with each other when I was 13 and he was 16. We are very happy together. We moved in with each other when I was 16. In the first year of our relationship I cheated on him, because ...
A. 25 January 2006: You cheat not because you are 'happy' nor do you cheat because of the so called 'thrills'. A lot of people fantasize when they make out, is that cheating? What the issue is: where do we draw the line of what constitutes cheating?
For reas... (read in full...)
Afraid that guys will be turned off by my pubic hair!
Q. I am so afraid that guys will be turned-off by my pubic hair. I don't know what I am supposed to do. Should I shave? Should I wax? Or just let it grow into a horrible looking bush? What do most women do? Does this really gross out guys?...
A. 24 January 2006: Some guys like it trimmed; some like it bushy. Some clean shaven. Just like some women like facial hair on their men in varying degrees; some dont. If you ask him, his response is your business - not anyone elses.... (read in full...)
My gf wants a break, but she says she loves me. I don't know what to do!
Q. Last week my girlfriend suggested that we should take a break (no time limit) claiming that she feels a little smothered and she needs her space. We have been together for almost two years and we had been doing very good. She says that she loves me...
A. 24 January 2006: You arent the perfect person for her. You arent the perfect person for yourself for that matter. You are a good person. Someone who loves her to death. Cliched isnt it? Love her to life. You are not in competition with her or with any other person ... (read in full...)
So I get friendly texts from a few women friends... I can't understand why my wife makes a big deal of it!
Q. My wife and I just separated and I can't make sense of it. We had the best relationship but a couple of years ago I got close (not sexual) with someone else, mainly lots of sexy texts/e mails and a couple of dates- when my wife was pregnant and ...
A. 24 January 2006: The meaning of life is to have a meaningful life. What you are doing is de-meaning and disrespectful.But what was missing from your marital life that found spice from other women? I am sorry but to be fair, I have to direct the question to the wife ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance despite what he did?
Q. So yesterday had been the day my world was turned completely upside down and I had endured the worst betrayal imaginable!!!!!! I had been in a relationship with a guy for 3 months. Which were 3 of the most amazing months I ever shared with any pers...
A. 24 January 2006: Actually you are thinking of giving yourself a second chance. Not him. You are at a cross road. You just want to ride the popular wave. Hoping that some reply would give you the excuse to be with him. Not a reason. You know the reason by now. You ... (read in full...)
I need him but he's jealous and threatening and he wants me to have his child...help!
Q. I'm 15 years old.. And I met and fell in love with a 22 year old. He never asked me to have sex.. It was my choice to give it to him. Now that were sexually involved he talks about me havin his child.. And he does things like take the condom off ...
A. 24 January 2006: You are 15. Not a child any more and not yet a woman. Do you want to commit to a possessive man and a child? Is this beautiful child to be brought up in this world by a possessive man like him? The child will be happy? A child doesnt live on fresh ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has an erection??
Q. heya i am 16 and i want to know how i know if my 16 year old boyfriend has an erection around me. if we hug or kiss or something how do i know if he has an erection without asking him cos i dont really wanna ask him ha ha. is there any signs li...
A. 24 January 2006: If you are ready for the consequences, then touch him. At this age, he'll definitely have one. Its hormones. Pure and simple. When you enjoy wasting time at this age in all this exploration; then you havent wasted time at all.... (read in full...)
How can I make my breasts look better??
Q. hey there.ifeelso selfish writing this because i have alovley face and body.its just my boobs.all of the girlsin my b/fs mags have got gorgeous tits thatare full with massive nipples.mine are just so small. i feel so concious about them.i dont want ...
A. 24 January 2006: Actually you are the one with the problem; not your boyfriend. The problem is not your boobs. Its what you think about them. Some times the problem isnt the problem; its the way we look at the problem which really is the problem. You have a valid ... (read in full...)
My husband has a married female friend and I find their friendship too excessive. What should I do?
Q. Husband had female friend - is she after him? My husband of five years has a female friend (she is married also) that he met at his new job. We recently moved to a new area and he says she is his only friend. They talk at least once a day, call...
A. 24 January 2006: They are having all the pre-requisites to great sex. Forbidden & unconventional relationships are sweeter. You both were having problems before she arrived. She is the magnifying glass. Not the baddie in this case. Guess what -she and her husband ... (read in full...)
Our 16 year old son is with a 43 year old woman...what do we do?
Q. Recently me and my husband found out that our 16-year-old son has been dating a 43-year-old woman and has got engaged to her. We asked our son if this was true, and he said it was. He told us he is talking of getting engaged to her and havin...
A. 24 January 2006: When I was 16 I wanted to play adult. Its a hormonal phase. They have had good sex. She is experienced. She has the works. He is enjoying sex. Let him. Its fun for her too. She can 'manipulate' and get it 'right' this time. Or so she thinks. It'll ... (read in full...)
I suspect my boyfriend's family might do something radical if they knew about our relationship...
Q. Hey I'm a 24 year old white, non-religious woman. I met my current muslim boyfriend 6 years ago at college. When we started dating at 21 (we are the same age) I was warned by my mother and friends that his family and beliefs may pose a problem. I of ...
A. 24 January 2006: I am a Indian of a similar race to your boyfriend. I reside in Malaysia. My grandparents originated from India before Independence thereat. I am not a Muslim. Was raised in a Hindu family. I am 48 and have yet seen no reason at all to acknowledge ... (read in full...)
I'm Indian-she's black and we want to start a life together. Not sure how to tell my family..advice?
Q. hi im a 19 yrs old well experienced indian guy with a typical indian family (you want me to marry a indian girl) but for the past three years i have been with the most wonderful woman ive ever met and shes black. we've both decided its time for us ...
A. 24 January 2006: How experienced is a 19 yr old young man? Sorry having to be blunt here. I am an Indian myslf. Broad minded. No disrespect meant here. Just go along as friends for a little time more. You'll be surprised. You'll save everyone including her and ... (read in full...)
I'm an ex-teacher who fell in love with a student. I lost my career and I need help coping with the damnation.
Q. I am an ex-teacher. When I was 32 I fell in love with one of my 18 year old sixth form students. I was so aware of the power relationship issue, but sought advice from colleagues/friends as to what to do - they said if I was truly in love with her ...
A. 24 January 2006: I am wondering whether you have a hormonal issue on your hands. I am no doctor. But it sure would make sense to rule out this issue. In my experience, I have seen that our physiology has a decided effect on the balance of reason and emotion. For us ... (read in full...)
I so want to move on, I've lost interest in him...help!
Q. I am losing interest with my four year relationship. Our relationship is not growing AT ALL. I'm bored and starting to look in other directions but I dont have the heart to pursue or to even break up with him. He has my car, coaches my kids ...
A. 24 January 2006: Have you had on any occasion counselling session(s) where a professional can help you both understand the REAL issue(s)? He needs professional help. He needs to understand that responsibility is like a pregnant lady. There are no half pregnant ... (read in full...)
Do I have a yeast infection?
Q. hi i was wondering if you could help. ive had this problem for a long time now and need to know if anything is wrong with me, im not sure if i have a yeast infection because i get small amounds of white stuff in my vagina, is this normal? thanx...
A. 24 January 2006: Yes its natural but then if it smells persistently, obviously its off to the doc. It could be from the type of food we eat, or hormonal inbalance, albeit sometimes temporary in nature, from the body wash you use. Try using some natural body wash ... (read in full...)
When I asked my husband what he liked about my body he replied "hands and feet" !
Q. Im hoping some of you wonderful people can give me some input on this one. As you will know from my previous post my husband made it very clear that he found porn stars more attractive than me. Since this problem came out in the open he has ...
A. 24 January 2006: Its a unique realization when a female realizes that hands and feet are overlooked in entirety. A closer examination will reveal that though overlloked in many ways by many people, hands and feet play an immense but under rated role. Get him to come ... (read in full...)
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