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writes: I split from my ex a year ago, but I am still madly in love with him. He was my first 'real' boyfriend and I love him. He does have a new girlfriend but she gets jealous of me easily. My ex and I were friends when we were kids and his girlfriend can't understand why we still talk to each other. Recently my ex told me he still loved me and sent raunchy texts to me. Now I don't know where I stand. Does he love and want me or her?
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reader, malaysianfeet +, writes (25 January 2006):
The real split is in algae and atomic particles. Everyhting else is merely an arrangement. Let's be rational for a moment. You are mad'ly' in love with him. Love is a temporary madness. It runs out of fuel. Then people use alternatives to get the engine going. The engine gets idle at time and runs at full throttle at times. But servicing is essential. She is his new fuel. But she doesnt know that old fuel still in in plentifull.
so now this engine driver gets the old fuel back and uses the new fuel as a booster. Trouble is that the new fuel considers herself as the new replacement fuel, nit a booster. naturally she is not wishing to play second fiddle. Ever thought of the time that will come when he will decide to go 'electric'? Smokeless variety. Why, she'll not pollute. The way I figure is that there are already plans to go into electric. Its a matter of time. The plans are already in the pipeline. Pun intended.
He is in love with himself. Not with either you or her.
Why dont you ladies wake up and go turbo? Saves a real headache. Why text? Go for the real turbo charge. Only with a real rally driver. Dont waste time with the pit stop guy. Go the distance ladies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): I wish i had an answer for you. I'm going through the same thing, except that I still mess with him once in awhile even though he has a new gf. I really wish I could stop, but I can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): i think you should just ignor the texts and get on with your life i have been in your situation and i made the mistake of letting my boyfriend have me and his gf. dont make this mistake boys arnt worth it!!!
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reader, becky05 +, writes (9 August 2005):
If hes got a girlfriend then he shouldnt be sending you suggestive texts.
Why did you break up with him in the first place?
Tell him to stop texting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2005): Frankly, I don't think you should see him at all until, it is clear that he is no longer involved with this other girlfriend and is living on his own.
First of all, he shouldn't be sending you rauchy text messages, if he's involved in another relationship. That is a red flag right there..the man is unreliable and why would you want someone in your life, whom you may not be able to trust in the future. Respect yourself to know you are too special to throw yourself away like this. And for as long as you make it easy for him to "have his cake and eat it" he will probably continue to play you and his gf until he tires of the game.
So my suggestion is that you tell him that you won't see him until he's sorted his life out. If you do go along with this, you must stick to your guns, here. It will be hard, but in my view it's the only way to get a result and to see just how far he will go for you. And I'm sure you don't want this to drift on with you never quite knowing whether he's yours or hers. If he wants you and means to be with you, then he's the ONE to sort out, and break off with the new girlfriend. If he insists on remaining with her-drop him-tell him you and he will no longer be in touch because then you will know..he's just a user and you're better off without him or if he cares enough to step up to the plate, and clean up his life to make room for you and YOU only. If he can't or won't, then there is your answer and he's probably not worth having.
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reader, womanlyglory +, writes (8 August 2005):
You need to be careful and look at the matter. He has a girlfriend and he must be assuring her he loves her as well. Something is keeping her around hanging on to him while he's texting dirty messages to you. That is dishonest! Obviously she doesn't know. It's sounds like he has cheating potential. I don't think he loves you or her. I think he's just being selfish and looking at this as an opportunity to have some fun with it. Why? Because he can. I would think about it if i were you. Ex's are ex's for a reason.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (8 August 2005):
When you have been childhood friends, your lives are inextricably linked and you will have a closeness that you probably will not get anywhere else. you truly know each other inside out. This does not mean that you cannot have a love deeper than this closeness with anyone else. It also means that you barely know what each of you can be without the other.
Think about it, do you want to be with a man who sends an ex dirty texts and tells them he still loves them? i think that you should both take the time to find out who you are. I'm a great believer in fate and if it is meant to be you will find each other again.
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