Did we meet just to make him feel better about our break up?
Q. Dating 8 months. Great guy, but I am the poster child for what NOT to do. Too much baggage, too needy, not happy. He broke up with me because he isn't in love with me. He says he misses me and his brain says to stay with me, but his gut says I'm ...
A. 26 October 2005: What books have you been reading!!??Throw them away!Look,I can answer this very quickly.I can understand your confusion,but basically this guy doesn't really know what he wants and isn't 100% happy with who he is,so until he is he can't truly love ... (read in full...)
My "workaholic" boyfriend has time for his mates, but not for me!
Q. My bf and i got back together on Fri after a two month on-off-on-off period. I told him to think about it for a week, to make sure it's what he wants. I know he loves me but he's crazy busy working and studying and has hardly any time for me. This ...
A. 26 October 2005: For a relationship to work and survive it has to be the PRIORITY in the lives of both partners.Everything else has to be slotted in around it.Love is about commitment,and he is not committed to you-you both have different priorities at this stage of ... (read in full...)
Why did the guy who seemed so great want to kiss another girl right in front of me?
Q. Another love lost? I just got back into dating after the Vincent accident and I met this guy who lives across the street. He sang songs to me and acted like he realy liked me. This went on for about a week. It seemed like he was "the one." As if I ...
A. 26 October 2005: Forget him.You're last sentence said it all.You don't trust him enough to tell him how you really feel and that's not a good foundation for any kind of relationship with this guy.He seems like a bit of a player,so let him have his fun-but not at ... (read in full...)
I made a bad choice when I was drunk and now my girlfriend won't trust me any more...
Q. I am 24 and around May I found the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I moved in with her after about 3 months of dating. Everything was going great, up until about three weeks ago, when I went out with my friends one night, and I got ...
A. 26 October 2005: It sounds like she has some 'baggage' from a previous relationship where she was stuffed around alot,perhaps even cheated on.She seems to have some unresolved trust issues.Unfortunately you don't really have any control over her wanting to give you ... (read in full...)
I wonder if I'm ever going to meet the right guy...
Q. Am I never going to find the right guy? I'm 21 years old and I always seem to go for guys who are very unattainable (the ones I can't have or who break my heart). I dont know what to do, feel as though I'm never gonna find someone to love. Please ...
A. 26 October 2005: I'm reminded of the question 'How long is a piece of string?'Unfortunately there is no definite answer to your dillemma.I wouldn't be too concerned about it at your age,everyone finds the right person at different times in their life-some ... (read in full...)
I want to make a move, but I need to know how to find out if she has a boyfriend!
Q. I am interested in this girl and she seems very enthusiastic about me too. We talk on a more-than-friend term, and I plan to make a move but I am not sure she's got a boyfriend or not... You would say I haven't known her long enough since I don't ...
A. 26 October 2005: If you're talking on a 'more-than-friend' basis then there is obviously some chemistry there.Girls have to trust a guy alot to be able to discuss anything and everything with them.The best thing is to just ask her if she has a boyfriend.Bring it up ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have answers to my questions about my penis?
Q. Hi I wanna ask 3 questions about Sex. I hope I'll get best replies and answers of them. 1.My first question is about my penis size. Well I'm 22 and I dont know, my penis dont grow. It's the same as like when I was 14 years old. As flaccid it's les...
A. 26 October 2005: Firstly you need to stop worrying about it so much.You have a penis that does strange things,that's quite normal!But I'll answer your questions as best I can.
1/The penis size debate will go on forever.Some women say size matters,others say it's... (read in full...)
My partner is masturbating to online porn. I'm disgusted and he blames me!
Q. I have just found out my partner is masturbating over the net. This disgusts me and I feel very sick by this. My partner says I'm not giving him enough in the bedroom. Now I feel I can't give him anything as I'm so hurt. What can I do?...
A. 25 October 2005: Tell him exactly how you feel about it,if you haven't already.Tell him how it's affecting you,why it's affecting you,and that it's damaging the relationship.Him saying that your not giving him enough in the bedroom is just a poor excuse.He is ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade him to give us another chance?
Q. Myself and my boyfriend of almost 3 years recently broke up. We're best friends, are very attracted to each other and I love him like crazy. He says he doesn't know how he feels anymore but that it doesn't matter as we'll never work out. I suspect ...
A. 19 October 2005: I empathise with you,but a relationship takes a combined effort to survive.If he has made up his mind that it's over then there's little that you can do.I understand that after three years together you don't want to let him go,but if he's shutting ... (read in full...)
We let things move too fast and ended up in bed. Was it wrong?
Q. This has never happened before to me. I have been seeing this man for about three weeks. We talk every day on the phone for hours so I feel like we know a lot about each other. We have both been in past bad relationships and I lost my financee ...
A. 18 October 2005: When guys start getting interested in a woman,they create a time-line in their head as to when they'd like things to happen and in what order.For most,sex is pretty much at the very front of that line,but for some,it's way down the track.As it is ... (read in full...)
Can you have a trouble-free relationship all the time?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance thinks that it is possible to have a relationship without any snags? What do you think about that? Thanks, Secret Sara...
A. 18 October 2005: A relationship is like a car.The more you service it the less likely anything will go wrong.But there are no guarantees.Alot of vehicles conk out the day after they've been in the shop because the mechanic forgot to replace a part or put in the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to rush things, so how can I learn to relax and let our relationship go at its own pace?
Q. Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl and in a relationship for 13 months now with a guy of 22. We had an initial rocky 6 months but since then it's been going really well as we seem to be able to avoid fights as we know each other better. We are much happ...
A. 18 October 2005: You seem to be with a man who has his head screwed on the right way!I'm sure part of his reason and motivation for moving involves you.Your man is wanting a house because it is a more appropriate place to bring up a family.He is thinking ... (read in full...)
After one big fight with my girlfriend, there's just no spark at all any more...
Q. Please help...someone. Things were going excellent in my relationship with my gf. We were both in love with each other, I'm sure of it although we never professed our love officially to each other. We were extremely close to do so though. One da...
A. 18 October 2005: You seem very sure of your girlfriends feelings yet you don't seem to have any idea about your own.It's an interesting situation.Firstly you really need to assess what it is you feel for her.Was it just infatuation all along?Alot of emotions are ... (read in full...)
He calls and wants to see me, but he doesn't seem to want to be my boyfriend,,,
Q. Hi everyone, what can you do when it's obvious a guy finds you attractive and comes to see you and calls you but says nothing committal about being your boyfriend? My brother says just to always refuse him sex and that will make him have to say some...
A. 18 October 2005: Do something that will give him a signal that you want things to progress between you.One of two things will obviously happen.1,He'll be ecstatic and say that he's wanted this for a long time(I would almost guarantee he's shy?)or 2,he'll say that he ... (read in full...)
This girl stares at everyone, but her long looks at me are getting me interested...
Q. Hi all, I'm Chris, a 17 yr old college student. I have a sorta weird problem with this girl at my college. She's called Natalie and she's same age as me (17). She's as tall as me, about 6ft, but since she started she has kept staring at me for s...
A. 17 October 2005: The eyes are the equivalent of smoke signals.They are there to attract attention and convey a message.It's okay to use them to show someone you're interested in them,flirting with your eyes can speak volumes,but there comes a time when you have to ... (read in full...)
Can I reform my abusive and violent guy?
Q. I've been dating a man for 1 and a half. I love him dearly and he claims to do the same. However he is very abusive mentally and sometimes physically. I recently called the police and he is currently in jail for asulting me. He took no accou...
A. 15 October 2005: He can only reform himself.As he doesn't respect you any advice you give him will seem like you're belittling him,which will only fuel his temper.Until he learns to love himself he'll never be able to love anyone else.You deserve better,move on.... (read in full...)
Is my online guy just teasing, or does he really mean he loves me?
Q. I'm 13... I have been chatting to this guy I really like. My friends think that he is completely wrong for me and has no feelings for me. But whenever we chat, we always say things lik "I luv u!" and "Hi hun" and when we chat on MSN we always s...
A. 15 October 2005: He's not in love with you.He's in love with the illusion he's created in his own mind about your looks and personality.Your looks will be moulded to his own preferences and ideals and all that he's gleaned about your personality will be purely from ... (read in full...)
The attraction seemed mutual, but suddenly he's ignoring me!
Q. I'm 17 and he's 15. He's a freshman and I'm a junior. We've always liked each other and in these past few weeks we've come closer to each other. He's the perfect guy. Then, one day it all stopped. He stopped sitting next to me and saying hi to me in ...
A. 12 October 2005: Simple answer;he's 15.His hormones are all over the place,whereas you as a girl are,emotionally speaking,a few years ahead of him in the maturity department.He will be getting the first tingles of sexual excitement,but he will also be very ... (read in full...)
My partner says we're "on a break", but I don't know what that means!
Q. We have been in a 10 month relationship and we have just taken a break. What does taking a beak even mean? Does it mean that we can date other people or even think about it? I don't know. Can someone please help!...
A. 12 October 2005: This 'taking a break' issue is one that I have many debates with my friends about.To me it simply means that either one or both partners are having commitment problems or satisfaction problems.They either feel overwhelmed by the complex emotional ... (read in full...)
In four years, my boyfriend hasn't kept a job for more than 3 months!
Q. I have been with my bf for 4 years. He has not kept a steady job during this period. Every job he gets lasts no longer than a week besides one exception which lasted 3 months. I am 22, he is 23 and we have lived together for 2 years, after the ...
A. 12 October 2005: He hasn't paid a bill in nearly two years?As women rate security and a mans ability to be able to provide for his family very high on the scale of what makes a man attractive,I'm baffled as to why you're still with him.Normally I'm an advocate for ... (read in full...)
My partner lied about going to a brothel and now I just don't trust him about anything!
Q. My partner and I have been together for 19 months. I am 6 months pregnant with our first child. A few months ago I noticed some sexy sms's on his phone from one of those 1900 numbers. I asked him about it and he said he had no idea why they sen...
A. 12 October 2005: On the surface,there are two things going on here.1,He is feeling guilty.2You feel betrayed.For him to feel guilty,he obviously loves you very much and probably now regrets going to the Brothel,and will be hoping like hell that you will forgive ... (read in full...)
I've been his girlfriend for 3 months... I think.
Q. My boyfriend kinda doesn't notice me most of the time. I don't know if its just that he doesn't like me or something else. I wonder all the time if he even thinks about me at all. We been together for almost 3 months and haven't even been on a date. ...
A. 12 October 2005: I could have gleaned alot more from this situation if you'd stated your ages,but it seems you're both in a relationship just for the sake of,well,being in a relationship.You both need to sit down and ask each other what you want from each other.Has ... (read in full...)
Engaged to my partner, but I can't stop thinking of another guy...
Q. I've been with my partner for 18months and we are due to marry next year. I love him loads and want to be with him, but I have recently bumped into an old friend who told me that he'd always had feelings for me. Now I can't stop thinking about him ...
A. 11 October 2005: It's perfectly natural to wonder about what could have been.We all do it when someone from our past that we liked alot comes back into our lives and admits they had feelings for us.It stems from our natural desire to be wanted,to feel needed.What ... (read in full...)
I climax too soon. Can anyone offer advice?
Q. I'm a 27 year old male whom seems to come too soon. Could it be psychological or health problems? I have tried a spray to help me not come as fast. It did help me not to come but the side effect was that I didn't get hard enough. Please send me any ...
A. 11 October 2005: Experiment a little(if you aren't already)Try different positions.This will keep you aroused but also focused on pleasing your partner rather than worrying that the dam's going to burst any minute if your just going at it in one position.The 'pinch ... (read in full...)
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