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writes: We have been in a 10 month relationship and we have just taken a break. What does taking a beak even mean? Does it mean that we can date other people or even think about it? I don't know. Can someone please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2005): To different people "on a break" means different rules regarding this..ask him what he wants from this break and where the boundaries lie on what you can and cant do *both of you*.
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reader, LucidCupid +, writes (12 October 2005):
This 'taking a break' issue is one that I have many debates with my friends about.To me it simply means that either one or both partners are having commitment problems or satisfaction problems.They either feel overwhelmed by the complex emotional issues that drive a relationship and feel smothered and need to get out before they suffocate,or they're not getting the emotional and/or sexual satisfaction that they were hoping for and think that 'playing the field' will fill that void.Very few people 'on a break' stay celibate.It's basically breaking up without severing all the ties.One 'tie' usually remains.The life-line.If things don't pan out while apart one or the other partner usually comes crawling back and says 'Let's give it another go'.Because no one likes to be alone.I keep thinking of the Ross and Rachel storyline on Friends where they 'take a break'.It really wasn't that far fetched!The to-ing and fro-ing they did is what happens oftentimes,and it all gets very confusing.In your case though,you should have discussed whether or not you can date other people,if only to save arguements later.But more importantly,did you discuss the reasons as to why you felt the need to take a break in the first place?You need to ask yourself ARE you on a break,or have you broken up?
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reader, wishes +, writes (12 October 2005):
 Everybody has their own opinion on what being on a break is about and its different in every individual case. You need to talk to him and discuss what this means for the two of you. I cant help thinking that if you are comfortable with dating other people the relationship cant mean everything to you. Maybe you want to consider making a clean break from him? Best Wishesx
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